Yeah I guess if dominant means not being the passive one, then I'm dominant in bed. I'm really active in bed, definitely not just going to sit there and do nothing. I like to help him get me there but I'm also a pleaser, which is why I usually feel submissive even when I'm on top.
I'm probably somewhere in between, but maybe leaning toward dominant even if I don't think of myself that way. If I want a different position or something, its not going to be all up to the guy. I'll definitely listen to him and do what he says but I'm going to do what I want as well.
I think it's about attitude as well. Maybe my attitude, the way I want him to speak to me, facial expression, body language, etc is all submissive but some positions I like to be in, some of the control I like to have, is dominant?