Why does he act like he has girls lined up to f*** him?

[Anonymous]

i think I've made myself too easy for my fwb... we slept together from June 2011 til dec 2011. at the end of it I started getting feelings for him and he started to get "busy" every time I aske dto see him. which was probably like 4 times our whole relationhsip. he was always the one to text me. but he just stopped and then the last time we had sex he wasn't being very nice and he made me feel like I'm nothing, that was the last time we saw each other. a few months later he got a gfriend. 3 weeks later they brok eup and he texted me to catch up. I pretty much said that I need to see he was going to be nice. he didn't text me for a week after that so I texted him saying I wanted to cuddle and if we could meet up Saturday night. he said what about today in stead... I have a friend over 3some? I got really upset since I haven't even agreed to haveing sex with him again and hi salready asked for a 3some. so pretty much we had a little argument and I was the last one to reply. it's 6 days since and he hasn't replyed... where does he have the right too ask me for 3somes or deny seeing me? his the guy. we are 17 he doesn't have girls lined up to f*** him! an dit's not like I'm clingy, I never text him usually. I always say yes when he asks me to comeover I do litrally EVERYTHING in bed for him. his said I'm the best his ever had. so wtf! how can I make myself less easy. if he asks me too comeover should I say no thanks

[MrOracle]

All of your problems stem from the fact that you have feelings for this guy, but he doesn't have them for you, and never will. FWB means you are using each other for sex, and the only rule of FWB is NO EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENTS.

You've broken the primary rule (but that's natural, most girls do), and now you're confused that he doesn't have the same feelings for you that you have for him. And you've already trained him to expect to be able to use you for sex anytime, any way, and on HIS terms. This is a monster of YOUR creation, and now you have to deal with the consequences.

You need to realize that he's never going to develop feelings for you, no matter how much sex you give him or whatever. Guys either have feelings from the start, or they don't, and he doesn't. So, you have a simple choice: continue to let him use you for sex, or break things off with him completely.

And learn from this: most women can't have casual sex without developing feelings, which is why they should keep sex to within relationships only. Otherwise, it's the girl who is going to end up feeling hurt and used, every time. it sucks, and it's not your fault that you work that way, just as it isn't a guy's fault that he works the way he does. It's just reality.

[Asker]

i don't have feelings for him anymore, but we are 17 I want a guy I am giving my body too, to at least text me and see how I am. since that's how it's always been since the beginning. but now his stopped texting me... I understand he doesn't have feelings for me. that's why I ended it in the first place. but now I don't like him anymore, but I want him to treat me nice. when we first srated having sex. he would text me almost everyday just to talk nothing todo wth sex. he would cuddle me and tell..

[Asker]

me how cute I was and he would make me food if I got hungry and he would watch movies with me and pretty much be my friend. and now his not even texting me to see me... I think that's really stange

[MrOracle]

He's trying to control you, by either making you go away, or making you surrender to him and give him what he wants on his terms again. He thinks you're hooked on him, and that you'll cave. Don't. I get how you feel, but again, this is why you want to keep sex with a boyfriend, who really DOES care about you. It's natural to want what you want, but unrealistic to expect it from a FWB, even if it was that way in the beginning. Not being mean, just real.

[Asker]

his not trying to make me go away, his teh one that asked me to catch up and start having sex again. how do I prov eto him that I'm not hooked? could I go see him and not have sex with him no matter how much he begs? an dthen he'll see I can say no ?

[Asker]

i know I'm asking a lot of questions but... could you please tell me what todo? if I say no to sex buut yes to hanging out do you think it will show him that he can't controll me?

[MrOracle]

I know this sucks, but my bet is that he'll shut you out instead; that's how he "wins." It's $hitty, I know, but a lot of guys don't want to be friends with a girl they used to have sex with. That's why he's forcing you to choose: sex or nothing.

[Asker]

yeah I guess, but I don't want to have sex with a guy that doesn't even text me unless he wants something. is that selfish? I feel like if I'm going to let a guy use me for sex he could at least text me during the week just too see how I am

[MrOracle]

No, it's not selfish at all, and I'm a little concerned that you don't see how selfish HE is being, and how much you've been used and let him get away with it. The world is full of guys who would actually CARE about you and WANT to give you whatever you wanted. Don't waste anymore of your precious time and energy on this douche loser who just wants to use you for sex and then throw you away.

[Anonymous]

When a guy gets a friends with benefits it means he is never going to be interested in anything more than sex from said girl.

>What exactly is it that you want with him<? Your relationship sounds more like a f'uck buddie to me. He's calls you whenever for a booty call and you drop what your doing and go over to have sex.

[katiesmuff]

Your just wasting your time with this guy

[Anonymous]

I would have been left unless the sex was good

[Asker]

sorry I don't understand your comment? do you mean if I wasn't good in bed he wouldn't have come crawling back?

[Anonymous]

too easy for your fwb? hahhhhh...just letting him f*** you with no consequences makes you a bit easy especially a your age, just saying.

[Asker]

your rude.. just saying