Does anyone have any tips when it comes to giving head when he's lying down?

[Dncrgrl]

so last night was the first time that I gave head, I was completely honest and told him he needed to help me out and guide me, so I mean after he guided me, I got used to it, although after a little while he put his hands on my head I didn't mind, I kind of liked it at first, but a couple minutes after I started to gag =/ but I don't think he realized it lukcily it was only like a minute or two and then I was able to stop gagging, and when he came he didn't do it in my mouth which I was kind of relieved. After he was done he told me that for my first time I was pretty good at it. Do a lot of girls gag their first time? and after giving head more then once does the gagging stop?and do you think he was being serious by saying I was good for my first time, or just saying it? I need some opinions. also, it first started with us lying down and then after like a little while he went to standing and me sitting, which when we were lying down wasn't as comfortable for me, does any one have any tips when it comes to giving head when he's lying down? like what is a comfortable way to position yourself? but while making it feel good for him?

[china-blue]

Yes, most people gag when they first start giving head. What about it made you gag? The thought of what you were doing or the fact that he was in so deep that it was a physical response? You can overcome both, at least to some extent if you really want to with time and patience. Lots of good article out there about this. A lot of women use their hand around the base of his penis to keep from taking more than they want, but I always felt like that was cheating *L* As for if you were good, I can't answer that one, honey. I'd like to think if you're blowing the guy, you trust him enough not to question his honesty.

As for when you're lying down, there are a number of options. You can get between his legs, either on your knees or on your belly facing him. You can straddle his leg and rub yourself along his leg for some stimulation for yourself too. (LOVE that one!) You can lay on either side facing him with your feet away from him with him on his back and support yourself on your elbows, or both lay on your sides facing each other with your feet either toward his head or toward his feet. And my favorite, you can get on your hands and knees facing away from him. Either straddle his shoulders so he can return the favor, or just put both knees on one side of him so he can use his hands to stimulate you. In my experience, if the top of your head is toward his feet, he's going to be able to get a lot deeper because of the natural curve of your neck and throat. For me, it's easier this way but if you don't want it very deep, probably not a good idea. There are other ways too, and I'm sure you'll figure them out in time. Personally, I like him on his back for this. It lets you control more of the depth since he can only raise his hips up so far. Have fun exploring and learning! And always play safe.

[CarolineW]

I like giving head when my boyfriend is lying on the bed. I make sure that I'm wearing something that he really likes, always stockings with usually a short leather mini skirt, no underwear and my highest, thinnest heels (about 5 inches with no platform). I stand by the side of the bed, bend over him, and just do it. He loves it. I'm always topless, so my boobs rub on his body as I work him. He likes to look at my legs in the stockings and heels, and puts his hand up my skirt, feeling the nylon on my legs, touching my pussy, too. It always works, he cums pretty quickly. We have been together for years, so we just know what makes each other tick. I think I gagged a bit in the early days, but my advice is to practise a lot, talk about it, try different positions if it's uncomfortable. That makes a big difference.

[soxfan94]

Depends, was the gagging just from you giving the head, or was he pushing you down with his hands on the back of his head? Generally, most girls (eventually) don't gag when they're giving head, but girls almost always gag when the guy is pushing their head down onto it. Quite frankly, I think that's a complete turn-off to force a girl like that, but a lot of men seem to really enjoy it. My suggestion would be to tell him not to force you like that.

[CougarGirl]

I totally agree with you that it is a turn-off to force someone's head down. It feels so degrading for the woman.

[soxfan94]

Speculating here, but I'd guess that's the reason why some guys like it. Some guys get turned on by control and need to take it to such a level that it becomes palpable power, such as the ability to degrade the other person. Makes sense in politics, maybe, but not so much in sex when the point is both people getting pleasure.