Sex talk for hours, naked pics, want each other badly, he is out of town. Next day he is cold & withdrawn. Why?

[Anonymous]

Here is a guy I have enormous chemistry to. He saw me at a store, posted an ad on craigslist that I am the most beautiful woman he's ever seen. We met and I've fallen heel to toes for him. He admitted that he has a girlfriend and daughter, but no sex for 2.5 years, girlfriend no longer wants it. He said he is staying only because of their daughter, and because when he occasionally becomes unemployed she supports him. We met once, kissed, touched, then he disappeared for 4 months and didn't respond to my messages. I was heartbroken. In 4 month he wrote that he wants to see me. Of course I was on cloud 9. We met and had sex. He said "thanks". Then he disappeared again. 2 days ago I got courage and texted him, and we started chatting again. He got very intensly into it, and we were texting each other for about 24hrs non-stop. He finally honeslty told me that he wanted a woman "who loves but gives him what he wants" (seems that his girlfriend doesn't). Even though I was upset with him for disappearing like that, I could no longer resist and I finally said yes, I will do it. He said to him it means that I "give myself for him to do with me what he wants, when he wants and how he wants". He sounded so dominant, and it is a huge turn on for me. This is what I want from a guy. I said yes, he can do anything he wants with me. At that time he was out of the state and we couldn't meet. He was begging me for hours to send him naked pictures of me, and he sent me pics of his penis. I've never done anything like that before and was very hesitant. The next day I got a courage and sent him 2 pics without bra but in panties. I have pretty hot shapely body, beautiful breasts. The pics were very hot. His response was "nice". I am bummed. I wrote to him that I don't understand why he sounded so excited yesterday, and so cold today, what happened? He hasn't responded yet. So I am bummed, hurt and crying in frustration. He made me want him so badly and now is withdrawing. So I left him a phone message that I don't understand that. That it seems that he lives in fantasy while I want to live in realty. I said I want a real person who likes me and wants me. I said I offered him everything he asked for, and I want him to do it to me. But if he doesn't want me I'll have to find someone who does. He texted me that his battery is going dead and he doesn't have a charger. That was it. Maybe he needs a space to sort things through. Maybe looking at pics and jerking off is more familiar to him and doesn't requre responsibility like relationship does. I am a beautiful woman with shapely curved body, not overweight, beautiful breasts and butt, beautiful "baby type" face, big beautiful eyes. Many people say I am gorgeous. In addition to that I am a nurse and have a highly respectable position in a hospital. His girlfriend has very unattractive long face, shapeless body, overweight. Even her nose and mouth are crucked. She works as a beer server. Can anyone explain to me what is going on?

[Anonymous]

Sure, I can explain what's going on.

You're being played. Hard. Partly his fault, of course, but partly your own for mistaking arrogance and general douchebaggery for confidence and dominance.

First of all, he's lying to you when he says that he and his woman haven't had sex in over two years, and he's downplaying their relationship in general, because that's the only way he's got an "in" with you. Without giving YOU hope of a relationship between the two of you developing, he knows that HE has no chance to get into your pants.

So now you're upset that he's gone cold on you. Of course you're upset, you're supposed to be, that's how he works. You did manage to throw him off a little though, that's why he's telling you his phone is dying. He needs time to come up with a response.

And yes, you might be beautiful, but you're not the only beautiful woman he's stringing along. If you think the only two women in his life are you and his wife, then you're sadly mistaken. And as to getting into a relationship, well... he's already got someone he's settled down and comfortable with, he doesn't need you for that.

[MrOracle]

This is everything I was going to say. And it's also why you need to STOP getting involved with men who are in relationships or are otherwise unavailable. Trust me, there are a TON of guys who ARE available, and could give you exactly what you want. Look for local, single guys and your odds will go WAY up.

[islands7]

Only when his gas tank is empty he looks for gas

gas could be wanking off to your & others' pics

gas could be sex with you ... + others?

I'm sure his Girlfriend is a hurtle into finding gas from time-time and she might find his pics and listen to his phone calls

If you are a nurse, then you can offer to move him in with you with the same arragement as Girlfriend - let him make the visitation offers ... if you hurt for him so badly. Then see how it goes ...

[pr3ttybr0wn]

he told you when he met that he has a girlfriend so what do you expect? he just wants sex from you and that's it. can't believe you fell for it. why would you think you could trust a guy looking for outside booty on craigslist?

no one cares how pretty you are. pretty girls get used for sex all the time, especially if they are not smart enough to recognize game. you met a guy who had a girlfriend and slept with him anyway so that was your choice. good looks won't prevent you from being treated like a sex object sorry

[shyandhorn]

he is having sex with his girlfriend ! fact. what would you want him to say to you to keep you interested ? sounds to me like you do get on well, very well. he wants a bit of action/adventure and pics of you so he can knock one off when he wants? ? ? you've been sucked in and had a lucky escape?

[Yogesh_bombay]

i advice just to kick him off. he is telling lie to you about his family and just wants to use you sexually only and never send him your naked pics without bra or else since he may misuse those pics.

[anonymoushunk]

he is abusing you fo sex and you let him. He probably has a few girls like you andwont text back when he is f***ing them

[Asker]

But it wasn't even sex, just sex talk, pictures and fantasy. I wanted to meet him, but why does something stop him when it comes to action?Here is a woman he says beautiful and wants, but won't take me.

[anonymoushunk]

he is probably scared of his girlfriend finding out and losing his child. I you are as hot as you say you re, then he probably wanks over yu a lot, lol

[Asker]

Looks like he does. He seemed so interested yesterday that I believed him. I don't understand. I cannot use a person for sex. I only have sex with men I have feelings to. And once I am into someone, I don't look around for others.

[zolly9999]

I'm sorry to say he is using you... It is very sad that people do this I really hope you find a person who loves you as much as you them. :)

Remember not all guys are mean like this.

[Lumia800]

Maybe he is playing with you.

[daddylovesyounggirl]

Let's see the pics you sent him and I'll tell you what he should have done

[Anonymous]

He has a girlfriend and a daughter so those two will always be a priority for him over you. If he really loved you he wouldn't stay with his girlfriend.