Virgins VS Non-Virgins

[CrystalHarley]

Some guys like virgins and say its a turn on and some don't like it and say its a turn off. Which do you guys prefer and why?

[MrOracle]

I've been with two virgins and many non-virgins, and it never mattered to me which they were, other than I wanted to know that the virgins were virgins so that I could be gentle with them the first few times. Beyond that, I didn't have a preference.

However, I didn't have any "just sex" or FWB relationships with virgins; the two were both girlfriends. If all a guy wants is sex, then I could understand why some wouldn't want a virgin.

[CrystalHarley]

Then what would you think about guys that want sex with virgins and non-virgins?

[MrOracle]

It depends on their reasons, but given the most common reasons that I hear, it's because they are very selfish. Guys who don't want virgins usually don't want to have to make it about the girl; they want to make it all about themselves. And guys who MUST have a virgin are either virgins themselves (which is okay) or are man-whores with no respect for women, but think they should be able to screw around and then, once done, get a virgin for a wife. Super-shallow and selfish!

[Asplode]

Honestly, no preference. If I'm into the girl, I'm into her. Virgin? Cool, new experience for her, I get to kind of introduce her, she'll probably think I'm better than I am. Non-virgin? Sweet, knows what she's doing/getting into. Either way I'm happy.

[JustChris]

You took the words right out of my mouth haha. +1

[Asplode]

Well, glad I'm not the only one haha.

[CrystalHarley]

So her lack of experience wouldn't be the least bit funny? Or would you feel bad for her? Or would you just help her out?

[Asplode]

Nah, I've dated a girl who was super innocent when we first starting going out. Eased her through it, had a lot of fun doing it and so did she.

[CrystalHarley]

Aw,that's nice :)

[glitterberryalisa]

love this :) just going with the floww

[lolzalosa]

i am a virgin and i would prefer a guy who wasn't a virgin so they could teach me and all that. I would actually prefer somebody who had slept around to somebody who had only done it once. But i suppose if you're in love it doesn't matter

[princerajda]

Hmmm nice... yeah right I have sex twice only

[Anonymous]

I'm not a guy, obviously, but if I had to choose between the two for my choice in a guy I would defiantly pick the virgin. I don't want a guy with a lot of experience. I'd just feel like a number otherwise.

[CrystalHarley]

I'd want a virgin too just for the fact that I would know that I'm not the only one that it's new to so I won't feel like such an idiot lol

[Opinion Owner]

Same here!

[DebiPie]

Virgins VS Non-virgins...Hmmm...I didn't realize it was a battle.

[taster]

No battle here...always ran away from virgins..'care me..o.O

[CrystalHarley]

I didn't mean for it to seem like a battle lol just curious since guys around me don't really want virgins so I wanted to see a bigger group of guys :)

[CrystalHarley]

Why do virgins scare you? Lol

[DebiPie]

Think he's just joking you.

[taster]

No..I always ran away from them as fast as I could...o.O

[CrystalHarley]

Alright then...

[ChristianHomeschoolr]

To me it's not about the "turn-on". If I see a girl that doesn't value herself or her body and gives it away to people other than her husband, it definitely helps my decision to date her easier..

[yesec9]

I am a virgin 24 year old guy myself, not necessarily waiting for marriage; it's because I used to be shy and socially awkward, I had some issues growing up, and since I've come out of my shell I still haven't found anyone I like yet that likes me back. I would be fine with a virgin being my first true girlfriend and first lay. I would be intimidated, actually, if a woman had many partners in the past because I would feel less confident about pleasing her. I know this might make me seem like kind of a wimp, but a virgin girl wouldn't have other guys to compare me to and would be all mine! Now if she had some experience but wasn't a slut that would be best, but virginity would never be a deal breaker for me, I might just be curious why, since it could potentially be indicative of some issue in the past. I would NEVER disqualify her for that alone. That would be such a mean and shallow thing to do. I may be naive.

[CrystalHarley]

Makes sense

[Flippydaydream]

Guys who prefer virgins should be virgins themselves...why should she save herself for him if he is not doing the same? Or it should not be an issue, non virgin men wanting virgin women is like some crazy power obsession.

[CrystalHarley]

Well what if you had just met him and he wasn't but you were? But to him it wasn't a crazy power obsession lol

[Flippydaydream]

No its OK if its just circumstance, its just guys that demand virgins for like wife/girlfriend, when they are not virgins themselves.

[CrystalHarley]

Oh,ok :)

[gotc147]

Doesn't matter one way or another to me.

[CrystalHarley]

Would you treat one differently from the other?

[gotc147]

Nope.

[G-Daz]

If its for the right reasons and isn't she simply can't get laid then I highly respect it, its she is only a virgin because she hasn't had the chance then it is not really that special

[CrystalHarley]

What if she had the right reasons,just never the chance?

[G-Daz]

and what reasons are they?

[CrystalHarley]

She fell in love and really wanted to finally do it but never got the chance to

[G-Daz]

then its lost value and most girls don't know when they are in love

[CrystalHarley]

Well,in your mind,how do you know you're in love?

[BCRanger10]

It's a turn on for me because I'm waiting until marriage.

[CrystalHarley]

Why?

[BCRanger10]

A lot of reasons, but the super condensed version is this: I want to save it for the girl who will mean the most to me. I want to wait until I know that we have a mature and lifelong commitment to each other. I value my sexuality to much to give it to a girl otherwise.

[CrystalHarley]

Ok then,what If you found your PERFECT girl...then find out she doesn't believe in marriage;would you stay with her and have sex later or leave her?

[BCRanger10]

If we don't want the same things, then we're not perfect for each other. So yes, I would leave her.

[Andyp123]

virgins and because less STDs and also less experience

[CrystalHarley]

Why less experience?

[Fredrics]

The more love experience a woman has the better it is for her present love. She is relaxed, confident, and knows what to do. If a man cannot accept this he needs to grow up

[CrystalHarley]

Why do you say that?

[taster]

I always avoided virgins and am glad I did...some of them wore their virginity like some kind of badge-of-honor and others threw it in my face...wanted to make a big deal out of giving-it-up and then a lot of them imagined that they were hopelessly in-love with their first sexual/emotional encounter..The opposite extreme is a heartless person only interested in their own destiny & self-gratification...surely we can find middle ground?...O:O

[CrystalHarley]

Middles do exist. So what if you met a girl really liked her and your relationship progressed and then you found out she was virgin,would you leave her?

[taster]

No I would not leave her...

[CrystalHarley]

And how did they throw it in your face?

[taster]

Oh that was an exaggeration probably...but if they weren't wearing it like a badge of honor or putting it in my face...then...how is that I knew to avoid them for being virgins?

[CrystalHarley]

True,I just wouldn't see the point in doing that. I mean if you're a virgin cool but you don't need to flaunt it :/

[taster]

Totally agree with you..and then I would date her..and might have even had sex with a virgin at some point...lol...sure as hell isn't going to happen now! HAHAHAHAHA!

[CrystalHarley]

You basically need a secret virgin lol so she can prove that not all virgins are like that :p

[taster]

PMSL ! You probably right...we were always worried that virgins were going to be clingy and want to get married and when I was late teens and early twenties...just not interested..o.O

[CrystalHarley]

Well that's you :)

[Xx_DRE_xX]

I can care less if she's opening her legs for me.

[CrystalHarley]

Ok,what if she's really shy about it? Would you push her towards it or sit back and wait till she's ready?

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Well if it seems like she's eager to do it then yes I'll work with her.

[CrystalHarley]

What if after a while of dating her she's still really shy about it and then you find out that she's gonna stay 'pure' till marriage?

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Im gone.

[CrystalHarley]

Ha,alright then. Points for honesty lol

[TJR0423]

I prefer a virgin the two girls that I were with were both virgins but I enjoyed both their innocence about it.

[CrystalHarley]

What do you mean?

[princerajda]

Iike virgins... because virgins hav tight pussy... so i wanna fuc* virgin tooo
;) ;)

[Anonymous]

Virgin for marriage, non virgins for flings

[CrystalHarley]

So you wanna get married to a virgin?

[zombiefood]

So you refuse to marry a virgin, yet you're perfectly fine having sex with other women, potentially ruining their purity and innocence for their future husband?

[Opinion Owner]

yes, would only marry a virgin. I don't want a used up p**** and there is no way I am giving oral to her if she has had a million d***s down there, women prefer guys with experience whether they are virgins or not so I don't see what your issue is zombie.

[CrystalHarley]

That is kinda messed up though. That you can go and have sex with anybody but she has to be a virgin...what if she had only a few partners before you?

[Opinion Owner]

i used to have a different opinion. now I embrace the fact that girls like me having sex, I mean I can't complain and neither can they. my preference is virgins so a few partners possibly but most likely no

[CrystalHarley]

That's kind of a double standard :/ but,that's you :)

[Opinion Owner]

no, it would be if girls viewed it the same way but girls don't they prefer experienced guys so what youcomplaining about

[CrystalHarley]

Because I know a lot of virgins(older mostly)that don't all want some super experienced guy because they don't wanna look/feel like and idiot or inexperienced,especially at their age :/ and I'm not complaining

[zombiefood]

The issue is that you're willing to take a girl's virginity away from her future husband yet you would't marry a girl who's not a virgin. So you're essentially ruining girls, making them dirty and unfit for marriage. You're doing to girls what you think is disgusting in a girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Girls prefer experience so quit hating

[CrystalHarley]

Well,I'm kind of a GIRL so I can speak for some/most of the virgins out there, experience isn't well liked. Especially a lot of it,experience means you've been with a lot of girls(generally)an that doesn't come off well with most virgins. So nobody's hating,just don't speak for girls when you're not one. Especially a virgin one.

[Opinion Owner]

are you serious? most virgin girls think its a plus if you been with lots of girls because you know what to do

[CrystalHarley]

Yes I'm serious. I'M A VIRGIN. I think I'd know. I think I'd know just a tad better than you. It can make some of us feel little,confused,and embarrassed with a guy that knows a lot.Just saying.

[Opinion Owner]

you are a minority

[CrystalHarley]

No,I'm pretty general. The girls you're talking about are minorities.

[TexasGirl95]

Sorry, but I have to agree with the "girls like experience" I understand it's a double standard, but a lot of girls (including me, and I'm a virgin) want a man who has had a little experience (the key word is a little) because they're afraid two virgins would just be awkward. Besides, an experienced guy can teach a girl everything they need to know

[Anonymous]

Out of the two, virgin. She doesn't have to be, but I want someone with few partners. I don't want a significant other that used to do one night stands and the like.

[CrystalHarley]

Makes sense