Me 32 is dating a woman (36) for a while now, but this weekend she came on strong for the second time that she want me to get circumcised.
I realize that she might loose sexual interest in me if I don’t. But I come from culture where circumcision is not that common unless it is for medical reason.
She claim it looks better and it is cleaner. I argued that I bath daily and usually before we are together so hygiene cannot possibly change much.
I am nervous about the idea for the reason that it might be painful, that masturbation may be difficult. That, if I need to move on, that there are also women who prefer uncircumcised penises. Being shy, I also don’t like the idea of going to a hospital where doctors and nurses are cutting away at my genitals.
She argue that women face similar things with breast and other cosmetic surgeries to look good for men, child birth and gynecology exams. Then why is circumcision so much different?
So I want to know if I should consider that she wants and that I am being unreasonable or selfish to be so sensitive about this and unwilling, or is she unreasonable to expect it from me?
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If you're 32 and uncircumcised, it would be absolutely RIDICULOUS for you to have the procedure done now. It would put you out of work for a while, and out of commission sexually for weeks, apart from the unnecessary pain it would cause.
Yes, it would be painful. No, it wouldn't really affect masturbation (it's only the tip of the foreskin, the rest of the skin still moves like before). Yes, there are women out there who "prefer" uncircumcised penises, but in my experience, ones that actually CARE significantly one way or the other are extremely rare.
Here in the U.S., it's done as a preventative measure. Circumcision as an infant causes pain that won't be remembered, and completely prevents several possible conditions that would be much more painful to deal with as an adolescent or adult. But you're 32. If any of those conditions were going to pop up, they'd have done so by now.
Cleanliness isn't an issue if you take care of it, and "it looks better" is hardly a reason. You're not asking her to have cosmetic surgery on her genitals. Breast augmentation, childbirth and gynecological exams are completely irrelevant to the situation.
She ~might~ be able to argue breast implants, but even still, cosmetic surgery isn't the NORM. Most women rely on makeup and push-up bras, which is about the equivalent of you stuffing a sock in your shorts. But ~childbirth~? Seriously? And gynecological exams for for HER HEALTH and have NOTHING to do with you or ANY other person.
If this is a deal breaker for her, then it should be a deal breaker for you, in my opinion.