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Is it weird that I want him to come in me and not pull out right away?

I'm sorry if this sounds stupid, but he was my first and we've not been doing for too long, so I'm kinda nervous about asking him. We don't use a condom, but he got tested and I'm on birth control. Yet he never cums inside me. It happened only once and only by accident. he apologized right after, saying he was too late to pull out, but I kinda liked it. I wish he would do it more often. And also I'd like him to just stay in me for like a minute or so after we climaxed. I was kinda surprised, when we did it for the first time and he pulled out. I thought having him come in me would be what most people do, but apparently it's not, so would it be weird or rude to ask him?
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I'm not sure if any of you cares, but I asked him last night and he said he always pulls out because he thinks I wouldn't like it. Who would have thought. I also asked about pregnancy and he said it's wouldn't be optimal but he know that this can happen when we have sex, and he wouldn't have sex with me if he hadn't considered it and thought he would have a kid with me. I thought it was kinda cute
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  • It's not weird, I LOVE being cummed in. And then I love it when he stays inside of me for a little bit afterward until his erection goes down.

    Not weird at all. =P

    But yeah, you still risk getting pregnant, and if you're not ready for it, it can be a disaster. When people are 'trying' to get pregnant, the most sure-fine way to do it is to track their ovulation every month, and then when they're ready to attempt to conceive, they have lots of sex the week BEFORE ovulation is scheduled to begin, because the egg generally doesn't last more than 24 hours in the womb after arriving in it. Conception is much more likely to happen while the egg is still traveling down the tube.

    It's up to you and him. Sounds like he's being very careful, which is totally commendable. I'd consider waiting a while before you start making risks like that.

    • @ your update: It's good that you talked to him! Like I said, it's up to you two. There are many things you can do to take precaution, even if you decided to have unprotected sex, but obviously your chances of getting pregnant are much higher if he cums in you. (I didn't get pregnant for the first 5 or 6 times my boyfriend came in me, almost thought I had reproductive problems and just couldn't get pregnant). You guys should have a serious talk about what your plan b will be in case it happens. :)

    • That's not necessarily to encourage you to do it. I'm just saying, REALLY talk about it with him. Having unprotected sex can cause the emergence of a whole new world you may or may not have been ready to see.

  • well no birth control method is fail proof. even if you are on the pill, I would think it's smarter to avoid cumming inside you. sure your chances of getting pregnant are slim if you take it properly, but if he doesn't actually release his sperm inside you, the chances are significantly lower.

    in fact, some people do the pull out method without birth control, and while this definitely gets you pregnant sometimes, it is lower than if he cums inside you, so pulling out combined with birth control is much smarter.

  • Just tell him that you like the way it feels when he cums in you. All the guys I've been with loved to hear that, and they happily cum. inside me when I ask them to.

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  • As many have said here, using a condom in addition to the pill makes the sex a lot safer from the chance of pregnancy. Also mentioned are other ways to help prevent pregnancy, like the timing during your cycle.

    That said, couples in sexual relationships discussing their sexual actions is not weird nor rude. In fact, more couples should do a lot more of it. Do not be nervous about those discussions.

    He may be more fearful about pregnancy than you (which is good for a guy to be sensitive). Or he may just feel for some reason that you do not want him doing that. So tell his what you said here. You like the feeling, want more of it, and want him to stay in afterward. I will bet that he wants pretty much the same.

  • Most every woman I've been with has preferred that I cum inside and stay inside as long as possible. Some don't like the feeling of when the semen starts to leak after the penis gets soft. The best solution for me has been to go down on the girl to lick up my semen before it leaks out. It always gets me hard, and the girls appreciate it as well... some really get off having a guy swallow his own cum. One girlfriend stopped her birth control and insisted that my cleaning her up be used as our exclusive form of birth control. It proved to be a BIG incentive to do a good job eating her out, and she never got pregnant.

    • Eating her out after you cum inside her WILL NEVER PREVENT PREGNANCY. Drop that idea right now.

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  • Well people are afraid of the after math of sex, Which is sad in our society, if you're having enough sex, no matter what protection you use, you will have a baby, so It may not be weird to ask him, but a lot less safe, but then again most men come a little when they are in the middle of sex and it only takes one sperm to find the egg...

    just ask him, maybe he will willing, but it's possible he will be paranoid about getting you pregnant

  • Talk to him about it. If you like it, then just sit it down and discuss it. Being open with your partner about sex is very important because it can make sex with him so much better if you can openly communicate your wants and needs! :)

  • If you like to feel his come inside you and believes that you have taken safety measure about pregnancy - ask him so. A guy never likes to pull out at the time of climax - for me I would like to get dry while inside her and would love to kiss and caress her after the climax with my thing still inside her.

  • There's no such thing as safe sex, and there never will be.

  • Why would it be weird? It's supposed to be like that (from evolution). Plus, it's just an interest to find out how it feels physically and emotionally. Nothing wrong with it.

  • I just cummed in my girlfriend yesterday and she had the depro vera shot one month ago!

  • No it wouldn't be weird or rude to ask him.

  • Strange how nobody even referenced the existence of abortions lol

  • No it is not rude to ask him to stay in longer. I love come inside me

  • its not rude to ask it when you and him are a couple its normal that you have sex and that he just come normal in side of you and that he let enjoy you it!

  • The stated effectiveness of birth control pills is about 96-99%, so if he comes inside you 100 times, there's a chance that 4 of those times you may get pregnant. I'd say only do it if he is also wearing a condom, which will bring down your chances even more, but even then it's still possible. My sister's boyfriend always wore a condom but she still got pregnant that way.

    Just something to keep in mind, be prepared for the consequences. I don't think it would be rude or weird at all to ask him, most guys think it's super hot to come inside their girl.

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