So I kinda want him to tie me up. How exactly do I tell him that?

[Anonymous]

I almost broke up with my boyfriend a couple weeks ago. It was a close call, but I decided to give him another chance and honestly, I have no regrets. It made us closer to talk about what's been going wrong and what we want, and the results have taken a physical manifestation of sorts. By which I mean that the sex has been incredible, and it gets crazier every time. I feel like it might be time to finally ask him about bondage... I've never really done it successfully, but I REALLY want to try it. I just don't know 1) if he'd be up for it. I mean, I'm a little afraid he'd laugh in my face OR 2) be really awkward and bad at it. I mean, honestly, I would prefer to be the one tied up, but if it's not something he's fully comfortable with, it might go badly or even sour our awesome sex streak. After all, it was my idea, so it seems almost unfair to put him in the dominating spot. What can yall tell me about this? How do I bring it up? How do I go about doing it? What would you say if your girlfriend brought it up? I need all the advice I can get!

[Anonymous]

tell him you dreamed about it and woke up wet, and you want to know if it feels good in real life. Or just tell him, in extreme detail like whispered right into his ear what you want. For instance, describe every single detail like this:

Maybe I've been a bad girl. I think I need to be punished. Maybe you should tie me down, hmm? would you like that? imagine it...you on top of me, straddling me, watching me try to push against you...running your fingers down my chest, feeling me tense up underneath you...running your tongue along my neck, biting down on me, kissing away the sting...kissing your way down, right across my t*ts, slowly, feeling the way I move underneath you as you move slowly down my body...Imagine me begging you to untie me, moaning every time you touch me...what do you thinkk? do I need to be punished?"

Not that my girlfriend is a GENIUS at this or anything.

[myownnmn]

I had been dating her for about 6 months. I met her in a math class in 1st year of comp. engineering, we also shared a writing class. We decided to study together. She had a 5 yr. old girl, and a 3 year old boy.(Awesome kids, by the way) Her parents, and younger sister were on vacation in Amsterdam. We only had that one summer, and I had no idea of what I was in for. I got home from class one day, and she was just stepping out of the shower. I said why didn't you wait for me to get home? so we could shower together. She looked at me, and said I want you to tie me up.. I knew she was a very sexual woman, but I was not prepared for this idea,(but only because I hadn't been the one to bring it up. I was flabbergasted, but I was also gung ho!!. I told her that I had thought about it, but was willing... As far as the talking went, that's the last words we said, except she told me that "I could do ANYthing I wanted to. I had a few bandannas, and a belt, and she was tied up, very quickly..

[myownnmn]

I didn't (I THINK?) do everything she wanted, Unfortunately for me. Don't hesitate, we want the same thing you want, and don't forget it...

[Orion]

Conversations about sex can bring up all kinds of things, in one conversation alone I discovered the girl I was talking to was into all kinds of stuff she'd be willing to try completely out of the blue. Just start talking about things you did and liked and slip in the question of if he'd ever thought about it and let the conversation progress naturally, maybe he'll pick up on it and even suggest it.

[Stacyzee]

Well everyone has fantasies some of which are totally out of character for them. If your boyfriend doesn't lack maturity then he'd know that people have crazy things they want to try in the bedroom all of the time.

Here are ways you can bring this up,

-Try telling your boyfriend you had a hot dream that left you soaken wet, that you wouldn't mind trying to bring to reality.

or

-You can tell your boyfriend you want to do role play (this gives you two the great chance to step out of character)

I am sure he won't think anything less of you. You are sexually adventurous and that is always a good thing.

[CrystalMinds]

Have you two ever talked about experimenting and trying new stuff? If you haven't, you could start with that. Like ask him what fantasies he has or what he wants to try out with you... Then you could tell him a couple of things you wanna try, like the bondage.

You know him better than any of us here on GAG do, but some people don't have it in them to be "mean" and to be the badass or something or aren't open to try new things.

If he says he's not open to try new things, then you already know you don't need to bring up the bondage and save it for later.

Good luck! ;)

[EPhantom]

I haven't been in enough relationships to give very much input on this... but one thing I an tell you, is that if it awkward/not as good as expected, don't give up on it. It will be your first time experimenting with it. try again later with some suggestions, try being tied up in a different position, you'll figure out what positions you two enjoy and what to do in each position after a while ;)

[sixstring]

Just straight-up ask him. I think most guys would like to do it, since most guys are the more dominant person in the bedroom.

Even if he wouldn't want to, it seems unlikely he'll respond in a bad way.