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Guys, if your girlfriend isn't very good at oral sex how would you feel?

i was reading an earlier question which was asking about how men would feel if their girlfriend NEVER wanted to give them a bj. the debate that it sparked got me thinking, what if your girlfriend was willing to give you bjs but just wasn't that good at it? I love going down on my boyfriend but I've only ever given one other guy a bj so I'm pretty sure I'm not really that good at it. I've asked him what he wants me to do but he's not really comfortable telling me what to do. I do the best I can and mix it up etc but I just don't feel confident in my skills so I feel like I'm letting him down. I've gotten him to kum a few times and I feel so good when I am able to do that but sometimes I just get tired and after awhile I don't have enough spit so I'll stop and then we'll have sex instead. is it ok to give a bj but not finish it in the mouth but use it more as foreplay? and if your girlfriend wasn't good at it would that be a deal breaker? and how can I improve or get my guy to tell me what to do? I've asked him a couple of times and he will just say kiss it up and down which I do but I still don't feel like I'm that good at it.
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  • If he isn't comfortable telling you what to do and he is still letting you do it then he doesn't hate it. You're probably not as bad as you think. Give him a while and he will open up more. If he won't say in plain english what he likes then you will just have to go off what you think he likes based on how he moves, noises he makes, faces he pulls, etc. Using it as foreplay is just fine, my guy loves when that is used as foreplay so don't worry about it. If you are having doubts look at some porn and get some tips. Also there are good tips on this site, just search blow jobs. And hunglowman4u, his comment was really rude and not all men think that way so don't worry, he sounds like a pig.

Most Helpful Guys

  • As long as you like what you're doing it's hard to make a mistake or not be good. You can answer this yourself. But make sure to use your tongue lots and vary your sucking pressure from light to as much as you possibly can. Slide up and down his shaft with your mouth and wrap your hand around the base at the same time giving a half hj. If you do these things with gusto it should be good. If he won't give you anymore suggestions even when you ask how you can do it better for him, then just stop doing it for awhile. Trust me, he'll come up with some suggestions in a hurry. lol! Buttttt, when he does give you suggestions, make sure to do them unless you don't want to.

  • You are making him feel like a King in his Kingdom. You are kissing the crown upon which he rules. Except the crown is his wiener and he likely has vinegary balls. I don't think words can adequately explain it. I think its cute and adorable for a girl not really know how to give oral and is learning. It is a turn on. Ask him if what you are doing is hot. But do it without the dick in your mouth but then again some guys find that hot.

    • Lol! ty, I suppose I'm trying at least so that has to count for something right?! :)

    • Absolutely. I'm sure he loves it. Get into it, be confident, feel like a star. I've never had a dick in my mouth but it should be easy. I mean come on, how often have you heard guys say 'blow me'?

    • Lol very true! ty I'll just try to enjoy myself from now on and try not to be insecure or self conscious.

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  • Unless she gives it to me willingly, and is able to enjoy it as much as I enjoy giving her oral. I wouldn't even bother asking. the only reason I give her oral is because I enjoy it.

    • I enjoy giving it I just don't feel like I'm good at it, I want to please him too not just myself. is the woman enjoying giving it enough to make it good for the guy?

  • listen girl coming from experience... in order for you to think you suck **** great, your man has to be the leader. you have to switch off on leading, in order to have a great sex life. if a girl sucks at sucking I will train her until she makes me scream out loud! if she doesn't like to suck and swallow I will dump her.wow how old is you boyfriend and how long have you been sexual with him? that is the real question.

    • I guess I don't see why your question is the real question if you could enlighten me as to why I would appreciate it, but to answer it, my boyfriend is in his mid 20's and we have been "sexual" for about 5 months.

    • Kewl someone on here thinks I am a PIG (TY)... I am very experienced... you don't understand how to be a leader? YOU and HIM must open up to eachother. are you and him a open person? shy or not shy? see what I am getting at?

  • that would be fine. If he won't tell you how to do it, then he can't very well complain, can he?

    • Lol I suppose not :)

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