Why would a guy reject your sexual advances?

[Anonymous]

I'm not the prettiest/supermodel girl but I could tell that there was a mutual attraction. He always would be touching my arms and looking in my eyes and smiling and so after a few weeks I got tired of the endless flirting and brought up sex to see how he would react. I think he knew what I was getting at bringing it up and from then onward it suddenly switched off, like suddenly he wasn't interested in me at all? Did I scare him away or something? How could a guy be so flirty but then you mention sex and subtly hint at hooking up and he walks the other direction? Why would a guy do that I thought guys usually didn't say no to sex, like ever.

[MrOracle]

You might have scared him away, yes.

And that could be because he wanted a real relationship, or because he was just surprised that you were so direct about it (many men, especially younger ones, assume that women have to be talked into sex or are offended by the idea, and have trouble processing the idea that women want it too). And maybe you just called his bluff when he wasn't prepared for it, but he'll change his mind after he has a chance to think about it. And just maybe, he thought you were teasing him and weren't serious, or were testing him.

Despite all that, I applaud you for being honest and direct. It may not have worked out THIS time, but most of the time it's going to work out better for you than playing games and pretending. it's just that games are normally what guys are expecting from a girl, and not all of them can handle the truth.

[archer86]

DAMN! Some guys get all the chicks!

Some notable reasons why a man would walk away would be the sexual harassment thing. On a job with careers at stake, a cautious man wouldn't even flirt with you. Another possible reason is the age gap. I must admit that I have begun to look away from the young college hotties due to the fact I'm old enough to be their papa. Therefore, any potential engagements are discouraged.

I say forget him and find someone else. If you weren't so much younger...ah hell with it!

[Orion]

Unless he's one of those religious types that doesn't believe in sex before marriage.

[Orion]

If he wanted a relationship he would have spoke up. Maybe he only saw you as a friend, or like a sister and your request broke the illusion.

[Orion]

You should probably just ask him what's wrong, get the answer right from him since he seems to be the only one that really knows why.

[Asker]

no I can't do that I'd come of as desperate and like it affected me but if he doesn't want to sleep with me that's fine I'll find someone else. its just never happened before and I want to know what I could have done to have him running to the hills

[Orion]

Well bringing up sex as a subject gets a guy thinking about sex, the more you talk about it the more he thinks about it until you have him almost wanting to suggest it... which is basically seduction I guess is what I'm saying. I still don't get what the problem is unless the guy simply wasn't attracted to you.

[dreyga2000]

All talk...No action

[FaceInTheCrowd]

Men aren't bound to sleep with you ... but I admit it is odd.

Maybe he just decided it would be a mistake and he wasn't that interested in dealing with the consequences.

[G_GTom]

The only way I'd reject a woman is if something about her turned me off or something about her personality I didn't like. I have no problem turning down sex. I've done it in the past.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he was interested in more than sex. A girl I'm interested in mentioning that we should hook up is a turn off. It could be the same for him.