Guys if your girlfriend pulled your hair while having sex would you be weirded out?

[Anonymous]

i like a little pain while having sex but my boyfriend doesn't really seem to like to bite or pull hair or spank. he's spanked me a few times and I told him to do it harder which he did but he hasn't since then. sometimes I bite his neck and a lot of the times I will grab onto his hair kind of hard. I've done it hard enough where he will say ow and that turns me on a lot. would you be annoyed/pissed if your girlfriend did this?

[K1985G]

I love it when my dragoness digs her nails into my back and scratches some nice red lines. When aroused, a little pain is just more intense sensation for both of us, and we like pulling each other's hair, spanking, biting the neck, ears, and nipples. I'm the dominant partner, but we share in giving each other pleasure (the secret to great sex is focusing only on pleasuring your partner, and he does the same to you--you both win big!) If something's hurts a bit much, perhaps because we're not yet aroused enough, we'll comment and the other adjusts, or we may give a slap to the bottom and say something like "whoa, cowboy!"

[l-hedoniste]

Have you sat down and had the "I like pain, giving and receiving" talk yet? It sounds like your man's getting a little more than he signed up for. Not that he can't adjust, but he should know that there are lots of welts and bruises in his future.

[Asker]

We haven't talk about it but I'm getting that he's not into like I am. I'm really lucky actually that he hasn't been scared off, I was really bitey when we first started seeing each other and we would be really nice and say oh not so rough in a nice way so I let up on it a lot and just nibble lightly and try not to hurt him. sometimes it's hard for me when I'm in the heat of the moment so I do pull his hair sometimes but I try to be gentle. I usually will bite my own arm instead now.

[l-hedoniste]

Talk about it. Give it a try. Like I said, most guys adjust. You want to bite and be bitten, and if you hold back too much for too long, it'll make you a little nuts, and start biting yourself. (Whoops. You're there already.) Just let him know what's coming.

[thelittlethings]

Ha ha I am the same way. I am such a biter and I am always hurting him. He makes jokes about the bruises I leave when I bite him (he bruises easy, I am not crazy :)) and I can't tell if he is half serious or not. He likes it sometimes though like when we are having rough sex. He also likes it when he is drunk. And he has even learned and started doing it to me, YAY!

[minenick]

I'm like this with my boyfriend. When we make out and such, I like to make him hurt.

HAHa that sounds weird, but I just like it for some odd reason.

But he gets really annoyed by it. When we always talk about it he's always like "yeah and you ripped out my f***in hair" So yeah, he doesn't like it. But that's just him.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and me like some pain in sex. He'll pull my hair gentle and he likes to spank me. I don't like doing any of this to him and he's not into me doing it to him but I know how much he enjoys doing this to me. You should ask him.

[lefthand]

I'm ok with it if they know how to do it right. Good hair pulling isn't sudden. I favor slipping my hand into the hair and slowly making a fist. This subtle increase in pressure give the jolt they are looking for without the "ow" and the loss of scalp tissue.

[wally]

I love that espc the biting part I do bite a lot while having sex and spanking the girl turns me onnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.

you should talk to him and tell him what turns you on and make you enjoy having sex with him.

[quantumdefender]

some men are gentle, tender lovers. some men are pillow fighters, and there are a few who will leave bruises. you can tell a man to be rough, and he might do it, but his heart won't be in it.

just be glad he is gentle. you might not be turned on, but what if you got an abuser for a BF?

[Asker]

Yes I am lucky that he is gentle. he has told me that he doesn't want to hurt me like if we are play wrestling etc. he's a foot taller than me and prlly 70lbs heavier so maybe he thinks I'm fragile or something but I know I can take it, but I do appreciate that he is gentle and respects me so I don't ask him to be rough with me anymore ... but I would like him to be >:) but I can live without it because I do love him and it's not that important and I don't want him to do things he's not into.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I'd like to have my hair pulled. Scratching my back might be good, though.

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn't. The more pain the better!