Your frustration is understandable. I can't tell you what to do, because I haven't heard his side of the story (don't take it the wrong way :P). But I will give you my analysis:
1) A lot of people in here will tell you to talk to him, because communication is the key to a successful relationship. This is a good advice, but I only saw it working once or twice in my life. Because when both parties are stubborn and have an attitude, communication will be a waste of time.
2) Some people will tell you that p*rn isn't an issue, and it shouldn't bother you. I don't entirely agree with this one, especially since you are offering your body and willing to have sex with him. But remember that it's not you fault you don't have enormous breasts or a slim body or whatever, I'm sure there are plenty of men who are better looking than your boyfriend and have sexier bodies.
3) Some will tell you to ditch him because he's not worth your time and you are the GREATEST woman on the face of Earth etc... The break-up part sounds very reasonable to me, specially after reading this :"...since I've moved in, I'm always up his ass and my personality has changed and I have an attitude." which is a strong cue to leave this relationship.
Males and females can't live under one roof, sharing one life together. They have to fake, pretend and compromise most of the time, or else they'll murder each other. I just don't get why would anyone put themselves in a situation such as yours and your boyfriend's? You are both suffering and not liking one another, so say goodbye and leave, there is no need to revive or rebuild anything because relationships are simply meaningless, to be honest. But that's just what I think!
Good Luck. :D3 0 0 0At least you recognize that your relationship is in a death spiral because you both keep hurting each other, with makes you both more miserable, and the cycle continues. If you don't make a change, it's going to crash and burn and be lost forever.
Start by reading my article about why men look at p*rn:
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It isn't because he doesn't like you, or that you aren't good enough, or that he isn't attracted to you, and it isn't that he wants the kind of girls that he sees in p*rn. Lots of women make that mistake, but that's just not how it is. My article explains men's motivations, and should help you accept why nearly all men watch p*rn.
Once you can accept that and have a more positive attitude about it (because you are no longer threatened by it), then you'll find that you'll both want and have sex with each other a lot more often, and his desire to watch p*rn will diminish, and he won't choose p*rn over you, but rather only watch it when you aren't available.
Read the article, break the cycle, and save your relationship. You'll be so much happier that way, and so will he.0 0 0 0
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0 3Honestly I think you guys should look into counseling, There are more underlying issues than just the p*rn and not having sex for 3 weeks for me personally to understand how to approach this question. All I can really say is you both need to sit down with a professional and air out your problems even maybe sit down one on one and work out personal things.
0 0 1 0it sounds obvious, but talk to him about the issue with p*rn. if you know that is causing the attitude problem, tell him how it makes you feel. I wouldn't say there was anything wrong with p*rn, but if it's interfering with your sex life which in turn is damaging the relationship, some boundaries have to be set.
0 0 0 0Shacking up is almost always destructive, and sets you up for the opposite of what you think it will. Study after study after secular study has confirmed this; yet out generation will not repent.
But if he's visiting "Dirty Teens" regularly and he's my age, then he's got a problem. Leave that situation fast. You are only getting in his way, and he'll resent that enough he might do something criminal to get rid of you.
Realize that either way; once you're out of the way, the site won't be enough for him anymore. He may just become a predator. Hopefully that's not the case. But it does happen. All too often. I've watched enough episodes of "Cold Blood" on Investigation Discovery to know that. It starts with a simple guy viewing p*rn and thinking it's all harmless. The girlfriend gets pissed and leaves.
Then suddenly, 14-year-olds start showing up in ditches in plastic bags, with their heads missing.0 0 0 0
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