"HAVE TO PEE" feeling makes sex far from enjoyable, any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

I am very new to sex (I have only had sex 4 or 5 times) but when I have sex it feels like I have to pee, I know according to the people I have mentioned it to and what I have this is natural and it usually feels like you have to pee when you are one your way to getting an orgasm. BUT for me it feels so intense it's not enjoyable, I have tried to relax and just ride it out but it just keeps getting more and more intense. I'm not exactly sure how to describe it but the more we go the more I feel like if we don't stop I will actually pee everywhere and I start feeling a lot of pressure. My boyfriend seems to think that it might be female ejaculation(squirting). He thinks the idea is really sexy so I'm not nervous about it happening with him but I have tried to just relax and let things take their course but it gets unbearable before anything happens. Any suggestions to help lessen the sensation? Does it just take time to adjust to or? Ladies do you have any tips for making things more enjoyable? I love my boyfriend and I love doing everything else with him but this type of thing makes me not want to have sex sometimes. As much as I care about him and I want to be with him that way the whole intense "HAVE TO PEE" feeling makes it less than enjoyable.

[timetowaste]

He's probably pushing right up on your G-spot, which will create that sensation. That sensation also occurs, like you mentioned, right before an incident of female ejaculation, but if it's that sensation the entire time, I'd say it's him pushing on your g-spot. It's much more likely if his penis is somewhat curved. If it has somewhat of an upward curve, try reverse cowgirl, or even doggy. That should take the pressure off of the g-spot.

[katiesmuff]

It is exactly that pressure you want to release when it gets intense and either you are going to squirt pee or female ejaculate and either one is fine. The feeling when released will be astonishing and so fullfilling. Let it go girl and realize the pleasures.

[scnbabe89]

Its not pee your going to have an orgasm I get the feeling too just let it out and it will feel great.

[shinnygold17]

i thought this too. What I do is go pee before sex so then I know its not pee (:

[normalice]

well, if you know for a fact beforehand that you don't actually have to pee, then this is probably the exact sensation you are supposed to try to relax - try to pee once and see what happens: again, be sure you don't actually have to pee beforehand.

also, it could be an angle problem. You may want to try a different position. Girls, of course, would have better answers for this, but these are my guesses...

[Anonymous]

When you are having sex and you get that feeling, first pinch it off (kegel). When it starts to hurt holding back, let loose and even push a little. Not only will you get the pleasure of the release but it will also let the orgasm come on.

[stubbsy]

you need to go the duration to see if you do ejaculate, because then you would have the orgasm, and apparently their worth having,x

[kheserthorpe]

Have sex in the shower, and go ahead and pee when you get the urge.

Worst case, you pee. But you'll at least know what's happening, what that would feel like, etc.

[7gnat]

smart

[7gnat]

He may be right and it may be a female ejaculation. Use towels under you so you do not mess the bed. If you do actually pee then from now on when you get that feeling use the bathroom and try to pee any remaining urine you have in your bladder. Good luck and try to take a risk. It just may work out and you will be very happy if it does.

[larry69]

pee before sex..then if you get the urge to be when you orgasm,.let it flow..it will be incredible

[Riviliz]

Female ejaculation, or squirting, begins with a hard "have-to-pee feeling". Maybe you should try to let it flow when you have it while having sex (use some towels). You'll find out if it's squirt or not.

[Anonymous]

That's because you're about to come and then orgasm, but you're holding back, you're not going to pee.