I think I was molested, but I'm not sure?

[Anonymous]

I know this will sound weird , but I think I was Molested . We had this family friend , a man I never liked ( he creeped me out ) and he used to come over and I don't know the way he hugged and kissed me felt strange you know ... Anyways My parents had to fly out the country for like 2 weeks and I remember that he stayed with us to take care of us . This is what I remember : I was eight , eight year olds should be able to take baths on their own , but he insisted to bathe me , ( he said that he shouldn’t leave me alone as its unsafe ) so I went in and he stood there watching me as I took off my clothes , he looked at ever inch in my body , he observed me well …. I noticed that look and I got scared .. but then I went “ don’t be paranoid , what can a 40 year old want from a little girl ) then everything else is just blocked out of my memory LIKE BLANK , SERIOUSLY I can't REMEMBER ANYTHING but I do remember the next day : The next day when I took a bath , I closed the door with a lock and I started bathing on my own , he then came and POUNDED ON THE DOOR SHOUTING AND SCREAMING , I took the towel and covered my body and went out , I asked him why was he shouting so loudly outside the bathroom door , he didn’t answer , he just kept looking at the towel I had on and asked “ why do you have a towel on ?” , I gave him a strange ( I'm scared look) and he gave me the ( I'm undressing you with my eyes look ) Ive only been thinking of this recently as I have been having dreams about that bath and I wake up screaming and never get the chance to explore the memories that are blocked out Am I just being paranoid , or is there a possibility that I was molested ?

[TheAnswerer]

May be.

But does it matter now?

Don't get me wrong. I am not supporting or condoning this guy's behavior. However, I believe that the worst thing you can do right now is to ponder over a possible "dark memory" and feel bad about yourself.

This is not something to remember and feel bad about. What's done is done, and by no means do you have any fault in this. He was the pervert. He might have done some wrong things, but it is in the past.

Try and move on. See a therapist if you feel like you need to talk to someone, but the most important thing is that you move on.

[Asker]

Its the nightmares , I can't sleep , so unless I uncover what happened I don't think I will be able to sleep or rest

[TheAnswerer]

If you feel that way, then I suggest you go to someone that you can talk to. Such as a therapist, or a close family relative.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

There's a possibility. I knew a girl who was raped as a child, and she had a lot of intense nightmares later in life, but she couldn't remember the event herself. Her parents eventually told her about it. But yeah until then she had all kinds of unexplained nightmares, and even some serious issues with sex.

[EverythingReal]

My guess would be yes, but of course it is not in stone. The fact that he made you bathe with him is enough to label him as a creep, and should have been reported to your parents at the time. I'm sorry this happened to you.

[raven333]

Yes, you were molested.

[CuriousEddie]

There's a possibility you were. It is also possible that you aren't remembering clearly. Or perhaps you are remembering everything and he looked at you but didn't touch you.

I think you should consider telling your parents, and perhaps see a counselor. If this is any reason that you and your counselor think anything more happened, the police should be informed.

[TheAnswerer]

I'm not sure about the police. There would be no evidence to back this thing on, and, depending on the question asker's current age, this might have happened about a decade ago. So the police might not take her seriously and that would only hurt her more. But the therapist is a very good idea. She needs to recover and move on.

[CuriousEddie]

Memories can be suppressed. If in therapy she believes she was molested, then she needs to go to the police; that's a crime. Even if there isn't enough evidence to prosecute, that's not her decision to make.

[Lupianwolf]

Not not paranoia

It sounds quite disturbing so you have every reason to be suspicious

(and memories may have been blocked)

Even if he didn't touch you it's still inappropriate and you should  talk to your parents and especially a therapist because of the nightmares

(I'm not saying your crazy, just that you need to talk about, understand and overcome what has happened)

[ConcernedMale]

This scared me alot, but yes I think you were molested, sorry...

[MxSoman]

sorry but yes I think you where molested, and probably were disturbed by it that your subcontious block it off.

i'd say ether tell a very close friend/family member you can trust, seek professional help, or you be mentally strong and try to remember and you put your mind to rest.