Why did my boyfriend ask me to do this??

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend was having sex and he ask me to squeeze my vagina walls around his penis and I did but I began to get real self conscience about it I asked him was it something wrong with my vagina and he kept insisting nothing was wrong I guess I messed the mood up because he never came after that...I haven't had any children but I have had multiple partners before I was with him I'm 27 and I've had 11 partners and I became sexually active when I was 18 years old I'm really concerned that my va jay jay is not tight and good enough this is so embarrassing I'm tempted to go to a male gyno and ask for a honest opinion I just want my boyfriend to be satisfied and I felt like I disappointed

[MrOracle]

This has nothing at all to do with your "tightness", and there's nothing wrong with you. You've completely taken his request the wrong way (girls always seem to find the worst possible way to take everything!).

If you've ever watched a guy jack off, you'll notice that a lot of guys squeeze themselves rhythmically, about one squeeze per second or so. And the reason they do that is because, whether they know it or not, they are mimicing the feeling of a vagina squeezing them during a woman's orgasm. When a girl cums, her vagina squeezes in pulses, about once a second, and for the guy, it kind of feels like she's milking your d!ck with her pu$$y, and it's fantastic. But that is something normally girls do involuntarily during orgasm.

What your guy was asking is for you to do it voluntarily, on purpose. Girls can learn to do that and it can blow a guy's mind because it feels so good. Apparently it's something that higher-end prostitutes learn or teach each other, to set themselves apart from "civilian" girls, but plenty of normal girls either figure it out on their own or hear about it in a book or from a friend and learn how to do it.

A couple of my ex's became masters of that technique, to the point that they could milk an orgasm out of me by sitting on me and not otherwise moving. THAT is amazing.

But your guy is just trying to get you to try it out and see how you (and he) likes it. That it; no hidden subtext, just trying something new and fun in bed. So stop worring that there's something wrong with you, or that he isn't happy with you. He's just trying to add in a little spice to keep it interesting for both of you.

[AidenBlue]

Good answer. Secondary substitute is to put your fingers in a V around him as he pushes in and out and gently apply pressure to his shaft. Its a similar experience. And I totally agree with taking it the wrong way. He's trying to explain what he likes - not point out any deficiency in you. It may get him off just knowing that you are trying to please him.

[Alexeiv]

When some women get very wet, their vaginas become "looser". This is more indicative of genetics than your vagina not being tight anymore. If you don't stick anything there for a week it should tighten up substantially so yeah...past partners has no effect.

[Anonymous]

well after that many partners its expected that your not as tight but that doesn't mean he isn't still getting pleasure, Certain positions like legs on his shoulders and him thrusting upwards can make it feel better for him. He probably just asked because he needed more friction in order to come; and no guy would flat out tell a woman she's loose because it would hurt her feelings. Do some kegels and that may help re tighten your muscles

[SimplyLexi]

I heard that girls tighten up over time, so maybe lay of sex for a while and when you guys get back on it you might be tighter even if its just a little?

[judyra]

He just wanted more pleasure out of the sex experience

[G_GTom]

Well, some women are naturally tight. I don't know how to explain it. They just fit you like a glove. Others not so much. So, if you tighten things up, you feel more like the woman who fits you like a glove.