Girl says she doesn't orgasm because its too intense?

[Anonymous]

Basically I'm posting this question preemptively so that I make sure I know how to deal with what is likely soon to come. Anyway, I have a female friend of mine who I have recently spoken to about dating, we both seemed up for it and things have begun to escalate between us so we'll likely soon be dating. Me and my friends however (her included) are pretty open about our sexuality. In the not so distant past, her and her best friend revealed that they don't have orgasms because its to intense. They stop themselves just before it happens since they can't handle it. I've personally never heard of this before and am not sure if they are even being really serious, even though it appeared they were. If you do think this can happen, I would appreciate if someone could shed some light on the situation or give me tips on how I should approach this situation if and when I do have sex with her. I know she is missing out so I would like to be able to work through her problem with her, and I'm also afraid that it may ruin sex for me if she feels like she has to keep stopping because it becomes to painful or something.

[snaves04]

I can "come" as in squirt...or I can simply have an orgasim..which is sort of separate but the same thing at the same time. when I orgasim, it feels really good but not overwhelming. they are probly talking about the gspot orgasim (squirting) which is different from a basic orgasim. it took me a very long time to get over the overpowering sensation of a gspot arousal. it can sometimes hurt but feel good at the same time. with me, I feel really taught and wound up when getting hit in the gpot over and over...my body getting ready to squirt. BUT, when really close to the actual finale...it feels like I have to pee really really bad. identical feeling to when you apply pressure to a full bladder...that feeling of "i gotta go now!" so, at first..i thought I was going to literally pee on him if I were to 'push' and allow the gpot orgasm to release. and feels really similar to going pee after holding it in for a long time. its more of a mental thing, I have to tell myself that I am not going to pee...and try to push even though I feel like I'm going to. it is very liquidy like urine...so even if the girls have released their gpot orgasm..they may have seriously thought they peed and too scared they will "pee" again. I go to the bathroom first and make sure there is no pee in my bladder so that I can reassure myself it seriously isn't pee. sounds really gross, I'm sorry for the explanation...but that's how it is lol hope this helped, if you have any questions please feel free to ask. I'm an open book

[snaves04]

look up gspot positions and avoid them if she can't get over the gspot arousal. you could always try it again on a later date.

[Asker]

I am familiar with pretty much everything you said and it makes a lot of sense. I guess I was just assuming she was referring to a clitoral orgasm since that typically is the most common type. But good to know that information for if and when I decided to work her past it.

[normalice]

It could be one of those rare girls for which "stop" means "faster." I had an ex like that. She was fun. I held out the first couple times then once she told me to stop and I told her no, I want her to come with my d*** in her. That made her come faster. She didn't complain so I did basically this sort of thing every time, and she continued to not complain.

I think she wanted to orgasm but didn't want to be responsible for it. I don't know what mind-game she was playing with herself, but that was my impression.

[Asker]

I thought about doing something similar, like when she didn't think she could keep going, I wouldn't stop and would try and push her past that brick wall she has set in her mind. I just wasn't sure if that would piss her off because I wasn't listening to her.

[Anonymous]

i would roll it past my elbows lol

[Opinion Owner]

wait wrong question. Yes, sometimes it can be way to intense!