Guys and girls: Advice on first time giving a hand job?

[Anonymous]

I'm 17 and I'm going to be giving my boyfriend of almost 7 months a handjob for the first time . I want to give him his first handjob in the woods late at night under the stars with candles in mason jars all around us, I want to do it in the woods because we both hunt and it would be a big turn on for him. I'm not sure how to make the fury experience great for him so please give me some tips. And do I have to buy lube? Would that be a better idea for the experience to be more pleasurable for him since he is circumcised? Please help! ;)

[normalice]

the penis is most sensitive at the tip. use lotion or lubricant at all times. Other than friction and piercing, the penis can take a lot of abuse. The basics are to squeeze and stroke.

stroking - You can stroke at any pace you want - generally the faster the better, but don't do anything that you can't maintain for a while. The upper half of the penis should be stroked the most often. You don't essentially need to stroke it all the way to the base, but you certainly can. Feel free to use both hands as well.

squeezing - you don't want to cut off circulation, even though you can without many problems. As mentioned, the penis can take a lot of abuse. It's likely that any grip strength you are capable of maintaining for 10+ minutes will not be too much. You certainly don't want to squeeze it 'not enough' though. You can for short intervals if you get tired, but don't do it the whole time or you're likely to drag it out for hours and eventually wear out your arms before you can finish.

This concludes the basics of a handjob. Some other things to note:

The base of the penis is not very sensitive to either pressure or rubbing. Moreover, the skin is typically loose, so you don't need lubrication. Excessive squeezing won't really have any effect, like it does for the top half of the penis, so don't bother. Stroking the bottom half of the penis is a good way to sustain him if your grip starts to waiver. You can make a guy ejaculate by only stroking the bottom half, but it is far less intense, and thus less gratifying - however, for whatever reason this also seems to cause the sperm to shoot further, if that's what you're into. Speed is the key for stroking only the bottom half.

"twisting" the top half is also perfectly fine, you can even grab it with both hands and twist them in opposite directions - again, use lotion or lubricant.

if you know a guy is about to ejaculate but you want to delay him for some reason, you can grab the base of the penis (not tightly). then open your other hand flat and put the palm on it directly on the tip of the penis. Push into it and rub in circular motions. Again, lotion or lube is important. About half the time, if you catch it early, the penis will not ejaculate and instead go soft. It will become hard again quick enough though.

If you grab the top half of the penis with the tip poking out of your hand, you can use the 'open palm rubbing' method during ejaculation to make it more intense. you should still be squeezing, stroking, and twisting with the hand that is on the top half of the penis, while pressing and rubbing in circles with the hand that is on the tip of the penis. Again, I can not emphasize this enough: lotion, lube, or even spit will work - but don't touch the tip if you have none of these things.

[front2back]

Lube- not really, I masturbate using my own spit, not the greatest lube but good enough

Pleasure- it doesn't matter if he is circumsiced or not, he's going to feel great anyways. but here's a few tips:

-Make sure you enjoy it, or at least act like it, nothings worse than a girl treating your pleasure like a chore (or vise versa for girls)

-use your dominant hand. if you are normally right handed this will be good. you can either sit to the left of him and do it, or sit on your knees behind him and do it from behind (this feels awesome!)

-try to show a little something off, if you can just show some cleavage if yo uaren;t comfortable with him seeing your ta-tas.

-try to be intamate, if you are kissing and making out with him while doing this, he will feel more better and more connected to you as a partner.

[EverythingReal]

Every guy is different, I would recommend asking for the best job, but that doesn't seem like it will be happening. For example, my boyfriend is circumcised, and he doesn't like lube.

The best advice I could give you is to focus on the head, don't "tug" to hard, be gentle, but apply pressure and gradually pick up pace. You don't have to go all the way down the shaft. Make eye contact with him and smile, or kiss, whatever feels natural, sometimes talking dirty can help.

If you are unsure about lube, just get a mini travel size thing of vaseline or lotion and throw it in your purse or pocket. That way if he requests it, complains of chaffing, has an oversensitive head or whatever, you are prepared.

Don't be afraid to ask him for guidance!

[MisBHaved1]

That sounds like the dumbest thing ever... like super country. and it's not like you are having sex, it's a handjob it won't be that special, and 7 months in... pretty slutty.

[EverythingReal]

How is 7 months slutty?

[MisBHaved1]

It is just so soon to be sexual with someone especially at 17

[elizabeth_vega]

7 months in a relationship when you are 17 IS NOT slutty at all... i personally thought it was the opposite really. All my friends that are of that age have done much more than a hanjob. You are doing great sweetie

[kthillman]

you don't NEED lube, just rub it.. if you need lube use spit.. ;) and just rub it up and down and do different motions

[Anonymous]

Lube is recommended. The head is more sensitive than the shaft. The glans is typically very sensitive too. Don't neglect the balls, and have a good time :)