Boyfriend can't stop looking at pictures of naked people (M/F) on Reddit

[Anonymous]

I am with my guy for 3 years, and we just moved in together recently. Before we moved in, I knew he watches p*rn and it's not a big deal for me, everyone likes to watch p*rn, right? When we moved in together, the first thing I noticed was that he likes to spend a lot of time online, and mostly on Reddit.com. He also spends most time on Reddit looking at sexual and nude pics of guys and girls. A lot of people on Reddit submit their own sexual/nude pics and they ask for feedback about their body. I know he looks at those pics because even though he tries to hide it, sometimes his click is after I walk and sit down next to him. I then pretend I didn't see it and don't even mention it because it didn't bother me. Last week, I was having troubles with my work, so I was stressed out and depressed. every time I look for my boyfriend from needing some intimacy, he is online looking at stuff. When I walk near him, he turns his screen off and makes guilty facial expression. I asked him what he's up to, and he says nothing. But it felt like something was wrong. After he went to bed, I turn his screen on, and he was on reddit, not a surprise. But my boyfriend looking at other girls' vagina/ass, and guys' hard d*** didn't make me feel great. The next day, I was using my computer and my boyfriend came to me and asked me what I was doing. I said "I am looking at naked pics of hot guys" and he asked me why I need to look at naked guys' pics. I jokingly replied "you watch p*rn and naked pics too" and he denied strongly. He said "Why should I look at them? I have you". This could be a flattering and sweet comment, but after knowing what he looks all the time, it just sounded like a lie. I know looking doesn't do harm to anybody, and I really don't mind people watching p*rn, (honestly I do watch them too) but somehow I am getting funny thoughts about reddit. Maybe thoughts of the naked pics my boyfriend is looking could be my next door neighbor or coworker makes me uncomfortable. I just wanted to share my situation and get some advice. Any similar experience or thoughts for me?

[Anonymous]

"I jokingly replied "you watch p*rn and naked pics too"

But you weren't joking, you were looking for a reaction. By saying that things are tit for tat, you're trying to teach him a lesson. You're saying "see, I can do what you do, and I hope it hurts you as much as it hurts me".

You might not have intended to say that, but that's what you said.

"Oh, I forgot to mention that my boyfriend is bi, which I have no problem with."

Kudos to you for that. Most women have a hard enough time handling the fact that there's a world of women out there that could potentially take their guy away from them. Adding to that the idea that he could be secret butt-buddies with any one (or even several) of his so called "friends" is a little more than most women can deal with.

[stubbsy]

the factthat your fella is bi magnifies your problem, because this is a form of cheating, he decides its you or a guy he's attracted to, because the relationship will not work as long as he is feeding his desire for men, you really need to stop it or move on,x

[Anonymous]

I found this out about a boyfriend too, that he was on reddit looking at the pics people posted of themselves naked and here's why I didn't like it: I don't care about p*rn or magazines at all. But, these are everyday chicks...like you said, just girls next door or whatever and for some reason it actually made me nervous. Like, it's him getting bored with me and looking at what he really could have out in the world or something. I don't know...with the p*rn and mags, it's all manufactured...he may look at them but not want to date/or be partners with them in real life b/c he wouldn't want to date a p*rn star or whatever. I can't explain it, really but all I know is I hated it when I saw it.

[lola2lip]

i think its good you are accepting of him looking at p*rn as a girlfreind, because I know there are a lot of girls who hate that. but it becomes a problem if he is addicted, or won't even let you do the same! its good you stood up for yourself. but he shoudl know he doesn't "need to" that's selfish of him to say. you shoudl just tell him if he can do it, you can too. and he really does sounds addicted if he has a girlfriend and looks at p*rn that much, a little is totally normal but I feel like his is excessive