Sometimes, I wish I were a slut...is that wrong?

[Anonymous]

I'm basically a "good girl"...always have been, but sometimes I wish I was a slut. I see so many of my friends randomly hook up with guys, have threesomes, have one night stands and all this other stuff and they seem like they're really living life (or, they're sex lives at least). I, on the other hand, am still waiting for love and I'm a serial monogamist. Plus, I would hate to have the bad reputation. But I sometimes, I wish I were like them. I'd love to go to a club and see a hot guy and bring him home to hook up. Or see a hot guy at the mall and go on a drive with him to a faraway forest and have him do me from behind while I'm holding on to a tree. I just have these fantasies of being and doing those things but I NEVER act on them. Is it wrong or even normal for wanting to be a slut? Am I just horny?

[Gawesome]

For a "good girl" like yourself, I think if you did hooked up with a random guy, have a one night stand, have random sex with a douchey mcdoucherson, I have a feeling that you would feel pretty ashamed of what you done just because that's not who you are.

People will respect you for being yourself and sticking with a set of convictions especially in this day and age without caving into peer pressure. And I don't think it's wrong at all to have these fantasies. I think you're just horny like any other girl...lol

Think of it this way. No one said you can't be a "good girl" and secretly be a slut to your future boyfriend! I think he'll love you for it!

[BadGrim]

NO! please don't so many women these days seem to be like hookers in training. please don't switch and be like them...women like that attract men like that. I wish you lived near me I'd treat you like a gentlemen. please don't be a loose girl you will regret it later, your friends may seem like there having fun but in the end there gonna be dead inside have kids from different daddies that want nothing to do with her or them kids...stick to being you for the love of god DO NOT become a whore.

[Asker]

Wow, you seem really adamant about this! I guess you see too many girls like this. Can I ask you as a guy, why do you think women like this are not attractive? Because I feel like the problem is I see guys go for girls who are loose and they don't want to be with a girl like me who has morals and I just end up being alone while they have full sex lives and tell me about them.

[BadGrim]

Good people are rare these days, having a meaningless sex is just that...meaningless. Being with one person who is worth it, is better then being with 100 that ain't. nothing makes me lose faith in humanity then seeing a beautiful women walking home at 9am hungover and doing the walk a shame...and in 7 days, or less... she'll do it again, And Because children love an easy women...but a real man likes a challenge, and a rep sticks with you for life, that's not a mark you want.

[innotdrunk]

Girl just do you. If you feel like you want to try it at least once go for it but if it coincides with your beliefs or values or whatever then DONT DO IT DO NOT FEEL PRESSURED TO DO IT.

[Anonymous]

OMGGGG! No me too! Like you have no idea I hate being the "good one" and even when I've had serious let's get down and dirty chances I NEVER take them and I always slap myself for it because sometimes I just want to be hot and sexy and be able to get any guy I want and make him mine by seducing him and f***ing his brains out buttt...then my morals kick in and the guilt and the attachment and I can never bring myself to do the dirty deed and it's like I want love and a relationship not just a one night stand even tho I hear those are really fun but I'm beginning to believe that's all hype

[diegoD]

you only live once. never forget that. I had opportunities and blew them for being ignorant. not just of getting laid but of meeting pretty girls. I would live as a slave for 1000,000 years if I could be 10 years younger.

[lola2lip]

i think all girls think this way, and its sad we feel we have to repress our sexuality. having sex with a guy, or hooking up, does not make you a slut. if you want to go to a club, and hook up with someone, its not anyone elses business. just make sure you are responsible and safe about it. you can let loose once in a while, and still uphold your good girl image. however sex with a person you love is definitely better, so if you feel strongly that you want a relationship you shoudl probably wait.

[diegoD]

I just don't understand if as you say most girls feel like that, and know many other feels like that, why care about a meaningless good girl image. the people who do the judging deep inside they dont care because they can relate to you. why not just ignored them. I was reading this article about how women are promiscuous by nature. My buddy went to Europe who is european, and they are more liberal. He said he usually went to dates with girls after hooking up as opposed to the opposite. Yes you are correct, about better sex, with someone who you care about, but if yo uare single , that should not stop you from exploring

[99PROBLEMS]

Its normal.

Its better you that you don't act on them. Be a good girl :)

[Anonymous]

Many "good girls" want that too and eventually do it. Unfortunately for me, there are less and less "good girls" everyday.

[Opinion Owner]

lol I'm not wrong, am I?

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you just have to let your inner slut out...unless you're my sister lol.

[Anonymous]

Be whatever you want to be.

you could go out and be slutty for a night, then for the rest of your life be a prude? Just don't tell anyone about your sexual experiences. That what I do, nobody knows my sexual history!