Does anyone else sometimes think the "nice guy" is not as sexually attractive?

[Anonymous]

I don't mean if you like his personality but...i just find that I perceive nice guys to be less sexual in general and sometimes its hard for me to even picture them being really hot in bed. it just seems so wrong to think of them that way, like you're corrupting some innocent, angelic image with your dirty, nasty thoughts. I guess obviously that reveals that I've never dated a guy with that goody, nice image, but I sometimes wonder "what ARE they like in bed?" what do you think? anyone else feel that way sometimes?

[stubbsy]

Well I like to think of my self as one of these nice guys you speak of, where in my wildest dreams could not and would not dis respect a woman in any way, nor intentially hurt, but I have never been addressed as boring in bed or lacking the essentials needed to keep her interested during a moment of passion, so I think you are stereo typing the ones who disregard women as partners and treat them as objects as in being the best in bed, because unless you actually get to know guys like me, we wouldn't be interested in sex anyway, because like I said, we wouldn't disrespect women by using them as an object for our desires and pleasures, so its your choice as to what you prefer, but for me, I like the women who take the time to get to know me, this way I know the sex would be amazing between us, otherwise it just don't happen,x

[Asker]

yeah well to each their own, right? I'm just jotting down thoughts that are flowin through my head is all. all good. :)

[stubbsy]

absolutely, no disrespect meant, just think it a shame you don't get attracted by the men who really know how to treat a woman,x

[Asker]

im happy with my choice in men. how you interpret what is the correct way to "treat a woman" is your own prerogative, love. no biggie.

[stubbsy]

An interesting perpective, I just feel girls should want more from a pottential mate than disrespect and abuse, but like you say, everyone to their own, and as loves no biggie, you won't get hurt either, so alls good,x

[Asker]

yay, so we can both pursue whatever types of people we want? sounds like a plan to me. I think we're on to something here! :D

[stubbsy]

lol maybe one day your meet that nice guy and pow, he suprises you in all departments lol,x

[Anonymous]

Outstanding! stubbsy I can tell just from the length and keywords in your reply that your one of those guys OP was talking about.

"you gotta stop being so right dawg.. Try some wrong"

[Anonymous]

I agree. Labelled 'nice' guys like taster said don't really assert themselves. Don't display any sense of control or dominance. I am the type of girl who is regarded as a nice person but it's not my label (mine's more party label like trooper or branzen). But yeah the point is that when I feel the need to I can assert myself and ask the blunt questions that some people may be afraid to ask. I can't be attracted to a guy that isn't able to do far more than that. He needs to have some O0omf to be sexually attractive!

Then again some nice guys do get this once they get comfortable with a girl, but they are harder to spot since it's not here already.

[Asker]

yeah except I'm not really talking about control or dominance. I'm talking about the guys who just seem incredibly pure. true, many of them do seem meek and unassertive in nature but I've known really laid back guys who werent that assertive who were really sexual and I got that vibe from them as well. I've known guys who were nice and avoided direct confrontation or upsetting people, but were still very sexy. its a bit more complicated than that I guess but that is often part of it, I guess.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, hmm I've never met a guy I would consider 'pure'. Guess I can't really answer this question.

[Asker]

yeah I'm probably not explaining this clearly. lol they only want to do the right things, or what they think is right, they follow the rules, they judge others who dont, lots of self righteous conservative morals, maybe really religious or "traditional", many of them are shyer or timid, and I guess being unassertive goes along with that, but not all of them are. some of them are outgoing as well.

[Opinion Owner]

I am religious myself, and I guess you're right some of them do have that timidness about them. Good natured doesn't make a guy less sexy imo. Traditional, maybe. Too much judgement eventually makes a guy a hypocrite and that is the trait I hate the most (not at all attractive). I can see sexy in any good moraled self-righteous man that has a good body. Shy/timid guy's can change once you get to know them. Unassertive guys, nope not at all sexy.

[Asker]

oh sorry, no offense. I can't really tell these things ahead of time. lol oopsie. :)

[Opinion Owner]

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[sarcasticbella]

personality effects the way that I see people, so a totally hot guy could somehow seem ugly to me when he opens his mouth and it turns out he's a jerk. I love good guys, they turn me on because of how truly nice they are.There's no appeal in a bad boy who won't call you the next day, but my good guy boyfriend will be up making me breakfast in the morning-much bigger turn on.

Nothing gets my gears grinding like a sexy piano playing, science geek who writes me poems and talks like Shakespeare *swoon*

[Asker]

well hey, looks like they have a fan club after all. lol jk I know girls who are into the good guy image. and that's really specific. I don't know too many science geeks who get/like English literature and poetry, AND have musical talent. that's a rare breed, girl!

[sarcasticbella]

my boyfriend is a bit of a history geek, occasionally writes poems and used to play guitar, that's close enough for me lol, and he wears glasses =)

[whateverdude]

makes sense...i feel the same way bout nice girls.

[Asker]

i know some freaky nice girls though. I'm not really a nice girl but I've had friends who were "good girls" and "nice girls" and they were some of the freakiest bitches I've met. lol I guess I should assume the same can be true with nice guys, but there's distance, I don't have close male friends who fit that image. I know guys who are nice that are freaks but not the "nice guys."

[Markezzo]

I would consider myself a nice guy but that doesn't make my inner thoughts any less sexual and dirty. And for the record, I personally like the thought of getting corrupted ;-P Which might be why I like bad girls over nice ones who don't want to dirty my image.

[gotc147]

No, I never feel that way because I KNOW what I am like in bed and I also know that the vast majority of males 15-30 wouldn't be able to hold a candle to me in bed.

[Asker]

someone's cocky.

[woohoo_friday]

He really is. But it's true. He's a freak, haha

[woohoo_friday]

And just to clarify, I know this from talking to him, not from personal experience, haha

[gotc147]

Thank you woohoo :)

[jackflynn7]

And you are also very humble.

[Lupianwolf]

yeah but I think it goes both ways

for the girls who are shy and quiet as well

I'm a virgin and a shy guy

but I think about sex a lot

[taster]

LOL..This should be interesting...think you gonna make some people mad! You mean this---> link

[whateverdude]

that links about hamburgers and milquestoast wtf?

[taster]

Definition of milquetoast: "One who has a meek, timid, unassertive nature."...sorry certainly did not mean to confuse you...o.O

[Anonymous]

True. To be really good at sex, one has to be an exploitative, selfish bas*ard really. When you think too much about others, your selfishness level goes down and you can't enjoy as much.

[Asker]

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[Anonymous]

We probably are a little less sexual because sex does not mean as much to us as it does to hotter guys. That does not mean we do not like it but rather that we have other things on our minds as well. But many of us develop a technical interest in sex and we study it like science. I for one have studied and become expert at and comfortable with oral sex. And girls I am with are surprised at my nice guy image but how ravenous I am at oral sex.

[Asker]

dont be stupid. people who don't have the good/nice guy/girl image have other things on their minds as well, everyone does. if you like sex less, you like it less, but don't try to make assumptions about other people to explain why YOU are the way you are. you don't know what's going on in their lives or on their minds. all you can talk about is you and your own feelings about sex. that is all. :)