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"because guys are selfish, after they get what they want (sex) they don't care about what you want."
Um, no. That isn't it. It's scientifically proven that after sex guys typically want to sleep, it's a part of their sex drives. Girls, are scientifically proven, to want to be even more involved (i.e. more sex, cuddle, talk, etc.)
Given, it is a douche move for him to not say a nice sentence or two, and give you a kiss goodnight. (if he does too that however, by asking more, you're asking too much.)
Make him a sandwich during the day, and he'll give you that hug. ;)
But I need this hug exactly after sex, so this idea with sandwich wouldn't risolve it .
If you really want the hug that bad, I can't see why he wouldn't do it just for you then. :P He might be tired, but it's a freakin' hug haha. Tell him you need that to make yourself feel good! Aside, I don't have this problem, my man is wonderful & loving. :) Ditch yours for a new guy if it's that important, :P
because guys are selfish, after they get what they want (sex) they don't care about what you want.
It's normal, he's selfish, he only take care of his needs.
Because after we "finish" there's a feeling like a tranquilizing dart has hit us.. it makes us sleepy and sluggish, I've heard there's also a scientific explanation of this but I can't recall it right now.
However from my personal perspective that effect is not that "strong" to justify such behavior - it's still perfectly possible to maintain normal attention span after it.
It's normal for SOME guys. I know that my girlfriend and I usually talk and cuddle after sex (usually it precedes Round 2. Haha), and I know other guys who do exactly like your boyfriend does, but it just depends on the guy and the relationship.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Most guys experience a short term loss of interest immediately after they cum...sex may even seem disgusting to them...this does not last very long...anywhere from a couple of minutes to a half hour or something...I can understand why he might not want to kiss...or even hug...but it would not hurt him to...and I would mention this to him...
Men hate cuddling and we get tired after sex.
Its normal behavior
LOL He's a normal guy it sounds like to me.
Guys feel a great relief of tension and stress and get really relaxed after we have sex so sleep naturally happens for us after sex. Just imagine your guy is so relieved and satisfied after you share sex with him that he feels comfy enough to fall asleep and know it's because you make him feel like that and he is all relaxed and comfy because of the feeling you give him.
but why is this problem for boy to hug me for 5 minutes and kiss after it, and then fall asleep? that way we both would be satisfied, and otherwise it's only him
Girls have always complained about this. This is probably the most common complaint in relationship history. Most guys if they knew how much it really meant for a girl to hug and cuddle after sex would do it but being we're guys we just don't understand it. As a guy I think I already gave her the same feelings of hugs and kisses through the sex plus I had to work hard and got really sweaty from the sex so I just want to lay down and sleep lol. The feeling of the girl accepting me is relaxing.
From my perspective: I really really don't care if he is sweaty. And I feel like he used me like a toy and when he is satisfied can go to sleep not caring if I was satisfied, what I feel, if I am relaxed etc. I don't know if other girls feel like this too anyway , it's how I feel .
Nothing abnormal about that. Different guys feel different way just after sex. I often don't feel like hugging my wife after sex. Sometimes, because it did not go too well. Sometimes because I just feel unclean after that.its better that YOU hug him and just leave it at that. The way we feel after sex is different from what girls feel.
It's normal behavior . Men are biologically wired to sleep after sex. That's just how it is.
Women like to cuddle and talk and bond, but men just sleep.
Asking how you can change a mans natural behavior is as offensive as saying "How can I make my girlfriend just shut the f*** up for a few hours a day?"
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