Why do so many guys worship vagina, like getting "action" is the supreme life goal?

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Whenever I go "out", I go out to have fun and meet new ppl, including girls. ;-)I've NEVER went out with the goal of getting laid.  I've never been that type of guy.If I get some "action" , it's a plus, and happened naturally.So many dudes act a certain way, dress a certain way, exercise a certain way, talk a certain way, JUST to get some sexual action.I think it's sad that the desire for something can push someone to change the essence if who they are just to get it, and for many guys my age that "something" is pu$$y.But I'm like some dudes who act like their entire night is a bust or failure because he didn't get any action.  Why are so many guys so focused in getting sexual / intimate action that it literally becomes the driving force of almost all their social interactions?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To start with a response (to WonderingNomad): If guys want female approval, then women too crave for male approval. That works both ways.

I agree with the QA. When I meet new women or catch up with my women friends, the last thing I have on my mind is sex! Yes, they are attractive. Yes, they turn me on (some of them). And yes, I'd like to spend time (in a general way) with some of them, and feel close. But sex? Definitely not.

Firstly, I don't believe in the more-sexual-partners-is-better theory. Secondly, sex, while undeniably pleasurable, can also cause huge problems and issues of its own. Have a sexual relationship with anyone, and it's almost guaranteed to ruin your friendship with that woman! All kinds of power and other equations come in once you go sexual. (Unless it's one-night stands, no strings attached... which brings in different kinds of complications).

I think some of the non-sexual relationships I've had with women have been the most exciting. Whether these are platonic, just-friends, intellectual-level friendships, ideological-based or whatever...

To answer your question, why do guys give so much emphasis on sex then?

Some pointers:

* It's addictive. And ego-boosting. Once you start getting it, you want more of it.

* Peer-pressure.

* Sexual-addiction. It's huge, and widespread, and all over town.

* Sex has been used by industry, advertising, media, to sell almost anything.

* Guys like score-keeping too.

* The hopeless dream that you're going to one-day meet an angel!

* New-relationships give us a big high. At least for awhile.

* Women can be very ego-boosting. Specially at the early stage of a relationship.

* Most of us guys see it as a free meal: if you're getting it, take it.

* Increasingly, women too want sex, and are open about it. It's very flattering to know that you're wanted by a woman!

Moloch · Accepted Answer

Because they have nothing better to focus on in their lives.

oOsweet~o~nessOo · Accepted Answer

Why are guys so focused on it? Probably due to biological reasons. Men are the more sexually driven sex of the two, so it only makes sense p**** would be a priority in life.

Now as for the guys who are like overly crazy for it - I believe that stems from something a lot deeper than just wanting sex; perhaps he really desires a closeness with a woman that sex can authenticate? Maybe he's afraid of getting hurt and instead prefers sex to avoid it?

A lot of young guys seem to just go after the nookie or pretend to go after the nookie in order to establish himself as being " male " according to the perspectives of the society which they are in. I mean, guys are bombarded with several messages telling them they absolutely have to have a woman, need a woman, desire a woman, and chase relentlessly after women - messages broadcast to them since they were young enough to begin getting them.

Ha ha, me and some of my buds at work were asking the guys why they always were talking about girls, and this exact same thing -

My friend was like, " when girls go out, we usually just do it for fun - when guys go out, it's always about getting a girl or getting laid or something."

All one dude replied with was, " Hell yea I wanna get laid - "

And that's as deep that conversation got lol :P

WonderingNomad · Accepted Answer

I grew up with a lot of brothers and mostly guy friends, so this is based on my observations of them so I apologize if anyone doesn't agree. But it seems to me that for a lot of guys the ultimate ego boost is female approval. I really think we women have a lot more power than we realize just because most guys crave female affirmation. For a lot of guys who for whatever reason don't want to seek a more intimate connection with a woman, having sex with a lot of women is a way to satisfy that need for affirmation. Just my theory.

ImperfectDVM · Accepted Answer

Because it's the only way they define themselves? Maybe it's a release? Maybe it's a run-away from reality?   Maybe that's all they have to do? That is the light of their life?  *shrugs*

shyguy89 · Answer

im not going to lie if you can't get an answer on this topic.(good for you) you don't wanna hear what I have to say. it would flip your world upside down. but you will figure it out one day

Brando · Answer

I don't understand this either. I like females and all, but I just never have been a puppy dog, nor will I ever be. I just can't grasp how dudes boast on how many girls they've banged, when they don't realize they're still a slave to the p**** lol

gonyr · Answer

for some "broz" who go outwith the sole purpose of getting laid every time with random chicks, they are either insecure with themselves. or just good at what they do, either way.

In a way, we are naturally inclined to want that, its part of our male biology, but not to the extreme that some take it to.

I think I'm basically the same way. In the end, I think girls prefer the guy who is just going out to have fun and drink and not so worried about getting p**** every night.

baliguy11 · Answer

you never went out with a "goal" of getting laid?  OK  If you say so.  Watch the movie "scent of a woman". early in the movie  the character played by Al Pacino sums it up.  "there are only two syllables that matter in this world...pus-sy"

taster · Answer

I have to "split" your Question...I am not fixated on getting laid...eh...however...I am totally fixated on vulvas...I love them...<3<3<3=D

MikeK · Answer

It's pathetic, but peer pressure is a motherf***er

Xx_DRE_xX · Answer

I don't know, that's the part I find intriguing.

Hades · Answer

Probably some massive insecurity they have, which they believe will be satiated by female affection. Poor souls.

Anonymous · Answer

Insecurity and underlining mother issues

Anonymous · Answer

yeah sometimes I find the male libido to be a curse

Anonymous · Answer

Sex is pleasurable in and of itself. Sex with many different hot women is even better. That being said, most women will not help you become a better man, so you will left with a feeling of emptiness if you try to seek affirmation from women. It simply isn't going to be there. You are far better off improving yourself, doing better at your profession or hobbies and making strong male friends. Sex is great, but don't expect too much more from women and you won't be so hungry to do anything to "get some".

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