Boyfriend has trouble getting/staying hard. Any tips on what I/he can do?

[xxHangingOnxx]

Well.. I have no problem turning him on. It's quite easy. We have amazing foreplay and everything goes great till we're about to get down to having sex. He'll either go soft right when we try to have sex, or shortly after. Then he can't get it back up or keeps getting soft right after he starts getting hard again. I've tried everything I can think of and all sorts of kinky things. Even giving head doesn't help. And I've been told I give amaaaaaazing head. I don't know if it's a confidence issue or what. He has very little experience with sexual things. I was his first. I have more experience than him, but not much more. And when we actually have sex successfully, it literally only lasts about 2 minutes. Any tips on making it last longer? (without using condoms..)

[Red_Arrow]

If I understand correctly, the problem usually is not that he cums too fast (though that does happen), but rather that he goes soft as you are about to have intercourse. And I assume that during foreplay he gets hard and stays hard until you are ready to move on to intercourse. If that is correct, then it appears that he has issues that are not a physical problem, but rather some kind of mental block. His physical response is normal until he is faced with the actual act of intercourse. Could be a religious fear of "The Big Sin". Or it could be a fear of pregnancy. Or a fear of moving into that extreme of sexual activity. Or any of all kinds of things. But the fact that he stays hard until that point points out that it is not a physical issue. Chemical help (Viagra) might help, but doesn't address the real problem. Finding out what bothers him is. Might need professional counseling to find out.

The part about the sex only lasting about 2 minutes when successful is probably just his anxiety and trying so hard to accomplish finishing the act that he achieves it at the expense of slowing down so both of you can enjoy it. Take care of the first problem (his tendency to go soft) and then he will be able to learn to last longer/

[Red_Arrow]

Thanks for BA. Always glad when I can help.

[risted]

have him jerk off before you have sex. that'll let him last at least a bit longer but honestly it just takes time to develop a stamina and get used to the feeling so you don't blow your load instantly

[Jager66]

maybe he has some unresolved things concerning what gender he is properly attracted to.

[Dragan]

Less p*rnography and masturbation. Kegel Exercises is very good for maintaining an erection.

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[Almostgrownup]

Maybe its an anxiety / nervous issue?

[Anonymous]

Have him masturbate in front of you as practice. Then go to oral then go to sex-if he watches p*rn he should slow down or stop until he gets better

[Anonymous]

How old is this guy? Maybe have him use a c0ck ring after he gets hard. Also, he should give up the p*rn.

[Anonymous]

Blow him and let him come give it a few min then get him hard again should stay hard or when he is hard and in you stick finger in his ass he will stay hard lol

[Anonymous]

Viagra...