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Is it bad to deny my girlfriend sex because she's baby crazy?

short story: gf has been baby crazy and its made me not want to have sex with her, is it bad of me to deny her sex? long story: I'm 20, my girlfriend is 19 and obsessed with babies... she keeps saying she wants a baby and when she sees something babyish like a toy or card she is like I wish I had t a baby to give that too and stuff like that... and I want nothing to do with babies any time soon. we've been together for 2 and a half years now, and since she started this baby stuff I have just not wanted to have sex with her at all... she's on birth control and we usually use condoms and I know 100% she's not going to like stop taking her birth control to like trick me into having a baby or anything, but I really just Haven't wanted to have sex... to the point that my penis doesn't even work half the time when we do it because she wants to... and I've told her before that I didn't really want to because of the baby stuff she keeps doing and we ended up doing it anyway, but yesterday I told her I'm not having sex with her again until I'm ready to have a baby and now she's acting really like... depressed I guess would b best way to describe it and like making me feel bad about not wanting to have sex... she keeps saying stuff like "I'm sorry you ever had to sleep with me"...is it bad to deny her sex because she's baby crazy?
Yes, you are a horrible person/bf for that.
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Yes, its bad.
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I don't know
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No, its not bad.
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No, that's definitly the right thing to do.
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forgot to put this in b4... her cycle is never right and every other month she starts saying she thinks she's pregnant even though we use both condoms and BC...and then when I tell her she's not she yells at me and starts crying about it and asking if I would make her abort it if she is... even though there is a 99.9999999999999999999% chance she's not...
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  • Your girlfriend wanting a baby is very natural and some women the urge is stronger in some then in others. Yes the two of you are still very young and babies are very hard work. However with holding sex because of something that she can't help is wrong and probably makes her feel bad. Talk to her let her know you love her but right now your just not wanting a baby until certain things are meet for example school,getting a job and whatever else. Let her know that when you feel your ready you will let her know. If you don't want children then you really need to reevaluate your relationship and see if you should even stay with her because I wouldn't want to waste any more time with someone if we didn't see things like marriage and having a family.

    • How can she NOT help it? It's her f***ing mind and body.. she can control it if she has will power and mental strength in general to deal with it -_- I love double standards... women withhold sex? It's OK. Men do it? it's not ok...

    • Look I knew I always wanted to be a mother, that urge never went away. obviously the urge to have a baby isn't that strong at 12 but it was stronger once I was around this guys girlfriend is. You can't control was comes natural. You will never understand that. There is no double standard just immature people who who make stupid choices and lack of communication between two people.

  • I don't think so. She seems kinda too young and immature to have a baby anyway (although I don't really know her obviously). Maybe denying sex completely is a little extreme. I think you should just talk to her, tell her you are not ready for a baby at this point in your life.

    Say that you love her but it's too soon for a baby and you would appreciate it if she stopped with all the baby talk. Hopefully that will get her to realize it and you two can have sex again (with birth control and/or condoms).

    • sadly I have already talked to her about it and its only gotten worse... we used to not use condoms but then when she started the baby sh*t I said its condoms or no sex and told her to cut the baby stuff out and she has only gotten worse with it.

    • Well then yes I think you need to cut out the sex. She needs to understand that you're just not ready. And until she understands that then you probably shouldn't have any sex with her.

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  • God no it's not bad. If she's baby crazy and you don't want a kid, it's perfectly fair to not have sex with her cause you don't want to get her pregnant. Hell, why should you have to take care of a kid when you don't want it and have stated as such to her. She sounds immature and not ready for taking care of a kid... she probably has attention/love issues and, like most girls who want a kid young, are trying to get that unconditional love from a child.

    • The amount of women saying it's wrong for you to do so amazes me... and I bet they're hypocrites. I'll bet they've denied sex for arguments or to get something or whatnot... apparently it's OK for women to deny sex for petty reasons, but if a man is doing it cause he doesn't want to bring a child into the world since he isn't ready for one? Oh apparently that's a big problem! F***ing immature twats...

    • that is exactly what is going on. you got her pegged pretty damn well from just that little paragraph. she even says sh*t like a baby would love me no matter what... and then I tell her that in 13 years when it hits puberty it will hate her for no reason and she's like "ill be a good mommy" and doesn't get the fact that all teens hate their parents until they grow up and realize sh*t. and thank you for pointing out the double standard sh*t... I hate it when girls pull that crap... if you wanna sit

    • home all day and be a house wife, then sure you deserve a door opened for you and to go first... but today that kinda sh*t doesn't fly... and they have only themselves to blame for all the stupid womans power crap... if I was a woman id rather be a house wife than go out and work all day...

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  • not only she's baby crazy she IS crazy.

    "I know 100% she's not going to like stop taking her birth control to like trick me into having a baby or anything"

    strike #1. you cannot be 100% sure. ever. just erase this from your brain.

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  • Yes, its wrong.

    She cannot control her feelings or urges to have one. But the fact of the matter is that you and her are using two forms of contraceptives, so you have really no chance of getting her pregnant.

    When she speaks of having a baby, just tell her the time will come but not anytime soon.

    • well I also forgot to put in the question that her cycle is never right and every other month she starts saying she thinks she's pregnant even though we use both condoms and BC...and then when I tell her she's not she yells at me and starts crying about it and asking if I would make her abort it if she is... even though there is a 99.9999999999999999999% chance she's not...

    • Wow, I didn't think it was this extreme. Run for the boarders my friend! Someone this obsessed with the idea of pregnancy is bound to try to pull a stunt (like not taking because pills or putting holes in the condoms). Its okay to want to be pregnant but its another to let that idea consume you. I really think you should re-think your entire relationship, rather than focusing on the not giving sex aspect.

    • IT'S HER F***ING BODY AND MIND! IF she can't control herself, she's still a child and immature. Have some god damn control over yourselves... the women in this thread saying it's wrong are appalling... bet you're all OK with a woman denying sex. Hell, probably for even stupider reasons she might like over an argument.

  • Don't blame you. Let her calm down a bit and realize she's too young to have a child and that it's ruining your sex life. Have sex when you both want it next, it's nice to take a break too, more exciting next time you get frisky.

    • Reply to update - She sounds a bit too obsessed with this whole idea, I'd suggest time apart to reflect on her behavior if that's possible. You need time to think if this is going to work out in the end, you both obviously want different things and you don't want to end up in a situation where she is pregnant and that leaves you cornered.

  • She sounds completely insane about it, especially in that update. You have every right not to have sex with her. it's your body, and you can decide what to do with it. Don't let her guilt you into it, because by the sound of it, I wouldn't put it past her to stop taking her birth control or something like that.

    You both sound far too young to have kids. If she doesn't let up, I would just end it with her. She seems a little irrational.

    • shes completely irrational... but I love her... I honestly have never felt any kind of love for anyone... parents, friends, anyone... besides her...

  • No, it's not bad at all! I've seen girls like that intentionally, selfshly trap their boyfriends because

    1.) they are extremely self absorbed

    2.) they are a little stupid and/or niave and not thinking about the realistic stress and huge responsibility of being a young mother

    3.) They may be failing in their relationship so they are under the impression that a baby will dissolve all of the issues in her relaitoship.

    I don't blame you. Also, some girls say they are on birth control but they skip pills so that they can get pregnant. Or they may also poke a hole in the condom so that the sperm will spill into them anyway. I'm so serious, I know girls who have done crazy sh*t to get pregnant on purpose. You have to look out for yourself.

  • Don't freak out if you use a condom but make sure you buy it and open it yourself so she doesn't poke holes in it. Or just get a new girlfriend she sounds psycho.

  • she needs to get her head on straight. psycho.

  • Uhm yeah denying sex until you are ready for babies...? Hell yes that is wrong... well in my opinion. I mean she had it and now all of a sudden you just decide no more? I would be VERY upset and angry if I were her.

    • what if you diddnt want a baby yet and your boyfriend that you love and don't want to leave kept telling you he wants to get you pregnant? how would you react to that?

    • Ok then, so if a kid results cause she doesn't use birth control or cause she tricks him and puts holes in the condom, then he shouldn't have to take care of it or pay child support.

    • TheGodEmperorLeto: Uhm.. is he not capable of buying and keeping condoms all on his own..?

  • No. Honestly, my sex drive is very high; due to me having baby fever. So I have to warn guys ahead of time.

  • Dude, drop her. Next time you two have sex she might try to take the sperm out of your condom.

  • That seems like a wise choice to me

  • She may not be taking her birth control she sounds really desperate like o was but

    i actually got pregnant and had a son at 19 tell her she should really wait till yall are both in yall careers because even if she does get pregnant babies cost a lot of money and she still gonna sit there and say I wish we could by our son or daughter that and she gonna wanna hang out but can't she's gonna want to get a new outfit or her hair done but can't plus she going to want some sleep but won't be able to babies are more than just being cute you have to pay lots of money

  • I work at a kindergarden. Tell her she should work at a kindergarden and she'll see a small prefekt on how tough it is.

  • If you think she's not capable of tricking you by "forgetting" to take a pill, then you're just as crazy as she is.

  • Do NOT have sex with a girl that is baby crazy. You are WAYYYYYYYY too young to be a father. I suggest you break up with her. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't throw it away for this girl.

    • Oh, and I forgot to mention, she could poke holes in your condom or lie to you about taking the BC when she really doesn't. I've seen crazy chicks that wanted to get preggo, they will stop at nothing. Seriously, man, no sex with her.

    • You should. Buy your own condoms and hide them so she don't poke holes in them. Flush your condoms Down the toilet so she won't steal your sperm

    • Best yet, no sex period with her. It is simply too dangerous.

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  • You're girlfriend is kind of psycho...just saying...lol

  • She sounds a little unhinged about this.

  • Just end it, it will only get worse with her if you really are set on the whole kid thing. Also not having sex with her is quite harsh and not the right way to go about it.

    • why would you think its harsh? and I don't really want to end it, I do actually love her. I just can't stand some of the stuff she does...

  • E. def the right thing to do

    if you're not ready to be a parent, you know how the drill goes. be safe and be wise.

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