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Why is there nobility in sl*t shaming?

Personally, I see no reason for virgins or non-virgins to judge one another for personal decisions regarding sex. We have no idea as to whether the person is engaging in protected sex or not or whether they've a history regarding STDs. Furthermore, I don't believe anyone should be degraded for engaging in an act that has been done since the beginning of time. Whether virgin shaming or slut shaming, you're always going to be a label to someone else. You're also going to be a prude to one person and a "slut" or "whore" to another. But I don't understand why people find such nobility and pride in labeling those with opposing views towards sex as "sluts" and "whores." it's just ironic, especially when they complain about feeling left out or about not being able to get sex or how they feel judged. If you're degrading and judging another person, what makes you better than the supposed "slut"? Why is there such nobility in slut shaming?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • There is no nobility in it; people who slut-shame are judgmental, mean, insensitive people with greater-than-thou attitudes.

    I think (especially for women), calling another woman a slut (or a prude, for that matter) has a lot to do with wanting to feel superior.

    For men, I think there's an aspect of insecurity. Many men feel insecure if the girl they're with has had too many partners, so they want to shame women in general to to decrease the chance of having to face those insecurities (falling for a girl who has had a lot of partners). Some feel jealous because it seems like the girls "give it up to anyone", but they don't give it up to him in particular.

    Certainly there are people that simply don't agree with the sexual choices that another person is making (i.e. they think that sex is special and should only be shared with someone you love, or only been had in the context of marriage), but that doesn't justify calling people names/referring to people with words that only serve to dehumanize, stigmatize, and insult them. I would think that if you're truly comfortable with your own views, you wouldn't feel the need to judge people with different views so harshly. I certainly don't judge people who choose to abstain from sex; even though it isn't a choice I'd make for myself, I respect their right to make their own decisions and decide what's best for them.

  • For reasons I'll never understand people just feel better about themselves to judge others or they just like it for no legitimate reason and have no respect for other people. They are too ignorant to consider more than the moment... okay so maybe this girl you know is a slut, what do you know about her maybe she grew up in a broken home or was molested and doesn't know what love and/or self worth is.. who are you to say sh*t about what she does in her life & what the hell does it benefit anyone to call someone out like that or talk about them when they aren't around.

    I'll just never understand it haha, I'll stop now. I could rant forever... I have low tolerance for hateful ignorant people.

  • It won't let me click 5 stars :(

    One reason is a whole complex issue about the concept of purity in our culture and how much sex is tied in with someone's supposed "value." Like if a girl has a lot of sex, she somehow has less self-respect (as if treating yourself to some awesome pleasure means you don't respect yourself). There's a book and documentary called The Purity Myth, it'll give you the creeps about this stuff.

    One other reason is how much fun people have judging others while making themselves feel superior at the same time :P It can be about sex, weight, gender, race, money, anything.

Most Helpful Guys

  • That's because ultimately women control sex. They control access to the act, who they are going to have it with, whether or not they become pregnant, whether or not they have a child, abortion or give the child up for adoption and many other aspects of sex. If a majority of women are promiscuous, marriage is no longer seen as a viable option and we all know how well kids from broken homes fare compared to one where both parents are intact, or at least I think we do.

    Also, for a women to get sex takes no work, whereas for a guy, it does. People respect acts that require effort. That's why there's slut shaming. As most men can never be a super man slut, as it requires too much work/effort/luck, only all women and very few men can truly be sluts, that's why there's a one-sided angle when it comes to slut shaming.

  • Because people can. Nothing more, nothing less. It's fun to label and judge, it's why we do it.

    Having the right and doing the right thing are two different things. We always do the former because it's easier.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • It is a shame people just can't mind their own business and just live and let live! If it isn't hurting anyone leave it be is my thinking

  • Coz they're pathetic bitter people who can't get any. A guy will usually call a girl a slut if she won't sleep with them or they know they don't have a chance with her. To them, slutty means they're dating other people but not them. Chicks do it because they think she gets more attention than them.

  • A key that can open any lock is a Master Key.

    A lock than can be opened by any key is just a sh*tty lock.

  • Because there's depravity in slut-praising.

  • I think its the same reasons as bullying for race, gender, clothing, whatever

    Whatever the case may be

    "“Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good f***ing life.”

    ? Chuck Palahniuk"

  • It's hard to be "shamed" when you aren't doing anything wrong don't you think? I mean if you know you didn't do anything wrong, it really shouldn't bother you what people think and say if you're comfortable with your sexual activity. Maybe the question should be why are sluts so easily ashamed of their sexual history?

    • Because no one likes to be falsely labeled or accused of being less than a person over something as simple such as sex

    • I mean as much as some people like yourself want to deny that others are going to judge one another that is just the way it is. If you see a person with a gun you are going to think "dangerous" and judging the people and situations around us is natural we all do it. So no matter what a you do someone is going to judge you. If you feel like a slut and feel unworthy that's on you. Whereas if you are proud of who you are it's nbd. People are going to label you on based on your teeth, nose, skin, etc.

    • Labeling doesn't have to be degrading :) And I never said people don't judge, but when the person is judging then turns around and cries over being judged, what's to be said?

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  • Let sluts roam free I say! Live and let live. Sluts need love too! Don't judge. Live your life.

  • "If you're degrading and judging another person, what makes you better than the supposed 'slut'?" (sic)

    Because we're not sluts.

    • That makes no sense at all :)

    • It does :)

    • No, it doesn't ultimately, labeling someone as something doesn't make you superior or inferior It just means you feel a sense of superiority But I sure don't see this outlook when virgin guys are complaining about how they can't get any

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