Why do women like to be dominated/submissive during sex?

I don't mean this in a masochistic way, like bondage or anything.. I mean that every girl I have ever known likes sex to end up with them submitting to the man, with the man dominating them. You probably start slow, but no matter how sensual, at the end, the girl gets the most pleasure out of the man pounding away.

Why? Why is that so pleasurable for you? I know why I like to do it, but I want a women's explanation as to how this feels and why it feels so good.

I should clarify that I really mean more about the attitude and actions of the man, no so much how is f***ing her. No matter how you slow you may start, it seems that in the end, the women usually likes the man to "take her" and be in charge of her, possessing her body. Why/How is this so sexually satisfying for women? Why do they like submitting to a man during sex?


Most Helpful Girl

  • Well, this sounds to be more about speed of sex than domination/submission.

    Slow and gentle feels great, so does fast and hard; but they're different types of stimulation. Slow and gentle will bring me to orgasm, but there's more of a build-up and it takes longer (but when I finally reach orgasm, it can be incredibly intense). Fast and hard provides more stimulation, so it brings me to orgasm faster.

    Slow, romantic sex is intense because I feel a greater emotional connection and I'm able to pay more attention to the "details" of how things feel. This is the type of sex that can feel so good that it brings me to literal tears. But fast, hard sex is more animalistic, and so it has a whole different feel to it. It's raw, and passionate in the sense that we lose control.

    I wouldn't say that one is more pleasurable than the other; they're different experiences and I love both.

    • Thanks for the great, detailed answer.

What Girls Said 6

  • it's a nice physical sensation to be annihilated sexually, especially if you completely trust the man doing it then it can take care of your emotional well-being as well. It's not easy to describe but it's akin to being f***ed inside out that, personally makes me feel like I've been screwed properly. Being dominated I think is different to me dominating him, I get a double physical and emotional fix from it whereas his is purely physical for a sexual release.

    • Thanks for the detailed answer. It's hard to know what a woman feels and how.

  • becasue it rocks our world

  • when you get my BFs big penis you don't like to complain !

  • I am in charge all day when I have sex I want him to take charge and I want him to take control feels better

    • Can you expand on that? Why and how does it feel better, if you can tell me?

    • I like him pulling my hair and grabbing me it make me feel good hard to explain

  • lol I like being dominant. my boyfriend loves it better when I am on top, cause I control how fast...or slow...I also like being dominated by my boyfriend cause it feels good.

    • Can you give me a little more detail on how it feels good. Thanks.

What Guys Said 5

  • Letting go and having someone else take over can be a really great stress reliever actually.

    • Good point. I do like to let her take over sometimes, but mostly she wants me to be the driver.

  • Your question sounds like every woman likes that...

    Anyways, I guess the ones who like it like it for the same reasons why some guys like to be submissive. Same goes for daminance - there are women as well as men who are into it.

    Other than that, what you describe sounds more like a physical stimulation thing. Obviously a woman likes the feeling of the man "pounding away" during sex. But the man would like it too if the woman was on top, don't you think?

  • If men were all submissive then women would have to be creepers who chase down a man to milk his seed.

    Men have a natural desire to plow the vagina hard and it just so happens to be the way babies are born. It's a bodily function that keeps the population afloat. Women have to take it. That's just hiw it works. Men aren't cows that graze a meadow then get milked when she wants d***.

  • I guess girls get lazy

  • man has to be a man and make that vagina his in bed imo