Sometimes I wonder if these questions are from those members who 'accidentally put female down' when they filled out their profile just to ask anonymous questions later on.
As to your question, just do whatever feels good. Just imagine the person touching you every time the water hits your skin.
no I'm a girl, really. but I don't have one at home so I'm not used to it, and for some reason fingers just feel much better but I always heard how amazing the nozzle was so I guess I was a bit disappointed
I hope you didn't purchase one just for that purpose. If so, try it out a few more times and if it doesn't trip your trigger than simply return it. It should have a dial on it to adjust how the water comes out. Like Betwyn said, pulse setting should do it. But it isn't for everyone. Some women say it isn't as sensitive.
massage/pulse setting.. aim at your clit...
as for temp and the other stuff..
You have to figure out what works for you..
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