At what age do guys start to feel more secure about their penis?

Any difference between being it soft and hard with the way you feel about it?

ex. when it is hard, you feel it more manly.


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  • I think it's an elasticity problem. Call an economist. j/k

    Caucasians have a more elastic penis than other races, according to the Masters and Johnson studies. Which means ours stows away in a more compact package than most, and varies in size when soft more greatly dependent on temperature, but inflates as the 2nd largest tool in the competition. Unfortunately on average most white guys are about an inch shorter than the average black guy. So if your dude is racist, he's got millions of reminders walking around America every day. Maybe that's why racism is so bad in this country in the first place. hmmmm.

    Anyway, it's more an issue of point of view. You see, it looks smaller when you're looking down on it, but bigger if you're looking straight at it. So Ron Jeremy, if he could see past his belly, would look down at his penis, and then across the room at an average guy, and could feasibly think his was smaller. If he wasn't a p*rn star.

    Tell your man to look at it in a full body mirror, and shave his pubes. Lose a few pounds, and it will look longer too because the pubic mound will shrink back.

    I felt more secure about some time around 30, when I was divorced and women seemed to suddenly have no problems with flattering me about mine. Until a girl tells a man he's got a nice one, he'll always think it's inadequate in some way.

    • Interesting theory.

    • Yeah, just don't wait to hear him ask, "so what do you think?" when he pulls down his pants. Compliment it immediately. But don't let him get cocky. Pun intended.

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  • The day I lost my virginity I was no longer insecure about my penis.

    My d*** is my d***. I see it multiple times a day, whether its hard or soft, it doesn't make me feel more manly.

    • i always thought it makes you feel more manly...why do people use the term as part of their manhood then?

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    • that's great! makes you feel good all day :)

    • Not all day, but maybe until I get dressed lol. Dick size just isn't something that plays much of a role in my mood. I'm one of the few guys that realizes its really not that big of a deal and most women don't care all that much as long as you aren't like 3 inches. I know my d*** is fine and has given away many orgasms to some lucky ladies, so I don't need a confidence boost in that department, I already know now where I stand.

  • I don't think there is age. We don't necessarily start being insecure about it in first place. But perhaps when they realize that it does not matter that much. So probably when they go to college or start working. It sets in. I think.

    No difference at all. It's the same penis in different state.

  • It isn't a question of "age" being a factor in feeling secure about the size of our penis. It is more tied to experiences with women and how they relate to the size of the penis, and some women are uninhibited enough to comment on the size.

    I woman 'friend" said to me at dinner one time "You never know what you are going to get", and she said she had seen everything from 3 inches 8 inches, and everything in between.

    The "Short" answer is that some men will never be secure about their penis size, if it is in fact on the "small" size, since most, if not all men KNOW where their pens fits on the "Bell curve".

    A woman with 38" "C" cup breasts, is not going to feel insecure about their breasts around other women unless she is on a farm looking at a cow, and the same thing applies to a man who has a 4' x 5" penis, comparing himself to a 7 1/2" x 6" penis ! The smaller penis man is always going to feel Somewhat insecure...regardless of his age or experience.

    My opinion only

    Geeeze "C"...another penis question ?


  • I like to think my penis is pretty awesome! If it can would! LOL XD

  • I'm 24 and I feel real secure about my penis soft or hard. A year ago I became roommates will two of my female friends and since then I've became 100 secure with my penis I think its cause they've accidentally seen it so man times know its no big deal. We have one bathroom that we share and know ill even get in and out of the shower while they are doing there make up or hair. Just a few years ago I really started to work out and feel more confidence.

  • Good question.

    I think it depends more on his experiences and attitude about things than it does about his age. Some guys are never insecure about it, but I'd go out on a limb and say that most guys at some point, and in some way or another, has had thoughts about his penis and if it is "acceptable".

    Some guys I'd say it happens once they move beyond their stage of puberty and start becoming more secure as a grown man in general. Others it might involve getting more sexual experience under their belt. And even still for some, it will never be "cured", but this is probably more of an attitude problem than actual penis problem.

    So yeah, that's my vote. I would say post-puberty is the time when a good sum of men settle their own thoughts about it, so anyway from early to mid or even late 20's?

    • Having sexual exp. if the first girl find it repulsive due to her own insecurity wouldn't that totally dave you ?

    • Well see again, it would depend on the guy. For me, it merely came with age and security. If I had sex with a girl that made some kind of negative comment about it, sure it would feel odd but it wouldn't destroy me because despite her, I'm pleased to have what I do.

      Another guy might react the same way, or it might crush his spirit. Know what I mean?

  • I always thought I had a cute little penis =)

  • Now, if you had asked what age guys start securely feeling their penis, you'd get an entirely different set of answers...

  • No. I really like my penis, actually. When it's soft, it still looks pretty good, I think. Some guys' penises completely retract. Mine stays fairly long, but obviously very soft. I kind of like looking at it in the mirror after a shower.

    When it's hard, I think it is good, too. I am bigger than average, but by no means am I "porn size". Every woman I've been with seemed to like it, too.

    No complaints. I've always been pretty secure with it.

  • I feel comfortable about my penis when I'm with a woman who prefers my size. If she prefers a large penis, why would I feel comfortable around her?

  • I am totally secure about mine. I have yet to hear a woman complain about it when she has had a G spot orgasm.

  • When I'm soft I don't look that impressive, when I'm hard I am average in size & I'm not worried about it. It is what it is. Not that I'm insecure about it but if I had one wish that would be when I'm soft it would hang a little better as it is I look small when I'm soft. I don't feel any more manly when hard. I do feel more manly when I'm hard & she admires it & tells me how big it is. Maybe that's a guy thing but I think a guy or girl gets a thrill when your GF/BF tells you how great your genitals or any other part of your body looks.

  • I'm 22 and I'm secure with my penis size

  • I never felt insecure about it until a month or two after I got onto this site. Some of the girls' answers were a little disappointing. I've gotten to the point where I usually don't care anymore.

    I really don't feel different about whether it is hard or soft, but I'd rather a girl's first viewing of it to be hard, because I honestly believe that some of them haven't caught onto the flaccid and erect thing.

  • When I get penis enlargement surgery.

  • Never

  • I do feel insecure when it's soft. It's really small and I don't like that. Apart from that I'm fine with it. I don't think it has changed over the years. So not sure about age...

    • being soft so you can walk around and be comfortable...why insecure?

  • when we have sex


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