If you get pregnant from a one night stand, should you tell the guy?

[Anonymous]

Would it matter if you were planning on having the baby or getting an abortion? Just to be clear, this is completely hypothetical. I just heard someone talking about this situation and was thinking about it. I also know someone who, in this situation, decided to tell the guy about it (she didn't really know him at all) and he turned out to be a crazy a**hole.. So, if I were keeping the baby, I would tell the guy, most likely, but situations like that one make me a little wary of it. And if I were getting an abortion, I don't even know... he might be easier for everyone if he never knew

[ShesSoSilly]

Hypothetically if I was the type to hook up and I did get in this situation I would make my best effort to contact the guy and let him know. I personally feel that especially if I decide to keep the child, he has the right to know.

Whether he wanted to be in its life or I wanted him in my life or not I would deal with that then but I still feel he should know. I would not want to have my child miss out on possibly having their father in their life and when they found out or asked me about it I would have to explain it to them or lie to them. But that's not the kind of person I am to lie especially about something that big could you imagine if your parents did that you? So in the end they would probably hate me.

This is just my opinion, I do understand there are different circumstances and all that could make it different for anyone. It would be a tough choice, makes me all the more uninterested in casual sex lol.

[imperatriz]

No, why would you tell him?

I don't think it would matter if you plan on having the baby or just getting abortion. Having it would be incredibly selfish, you would be ruining the guy's life if he decides to assume his responsibilities and that type of situation never makes for happy families. Or if he doesn't want anything to do with you and the baby then you would be ruining your baby's life before it was even born by not giving it the chance to have two loving parents. And if you get an abortion great, what's the use of letting him know? Very few guys would care but then again those aren't the type of guys that have one night stands.

[peace-love-couture]

I would tell him because he has the right to know

But I also wouldn't be in that situation because there's such thing as birth control(which I'm on) & condoms(which I'd never have a ONS without) AND Plan B(which I'd get after a ONS). A combo of all three of those and I'll be suing someone if I end up preggo

But, I'd tell him and let him know I am considering an abortion. Chances are, he wouldn't want the child and I wouldn't either. He has a right to know though.

[Asker]

you shouldn't be taking plan b like that

[peace-love-couture]

Did I ever say I've taken it? No But if I have a ONS and think I could be pregnant I'll sure as hell take it Why risk having to get an abortion when I could just take Plan B?

[Asker]

even if the situation is hypothetical, you shouldn't use plan b under those circumstances, one night stand or not. Its got nothing to do with that. If you "hypothetically" used a condom and birth control, there would be no reason to use plan b. That medication takes quite the toll on your body and shouldn't be thought of lightly. its a last resort

[peace-love-couture]

I said if I think there's a chance of pregnancy But if I'm gonna get lectured on something it should be to not have ONS's(which I don't), not whether or not to use it. But if I felt there was a chance cause the condom broke or I didn't use the pill right I'd use it toll on body from plan B> $1000 on abortion that takes a worse toll on body

[Frunkiss]

I think for the kids sake you should tell the guy so that the kid will have that much more support. While I am loyal to my own gender in that situation the guy should have wrapped up and pulled out so he deserves what he gets. Unfortunately you can't trust women with birth control. All guys should learn this sooner rather than later.

[gonyr]

if you keep it you have to tell the dude. its not fair to him to have a kid out there he never knew about, and its not fair to the kid to not have a father

if you get an abortion, its really up to you. maybe you want him to help pay for it?

[TKDKidd]

The only way I'd want to know is if you were keeping the baby. If not, don't need t know.

[NoOneListens21]

I highly doubt that I would be in that situation but if it was a one night stand then I doubt I would be able to contact him...unless I knew him. In that case I would think that I would tell him. Some situations are different from others. It does cause some difficulty because he may not support you in your choice on what to do.

[beinghelpful]

yes. you have to tell him. It's as much his child as yours.

[Anonymous]

No, regardless of whether I keep it or not. Like you said, I don't know the guy, I don't know what his reaction is going to be or if he's suddenly going to go nuts and want to be some huge part of my life or something. In my opinion (only applying it to my life, not anyone else's), it's not his responsibility.

[Anonymous]

id want to know if she was going to keep it..even though I don't really know her its still my child that I put inside her ;\