Boys, do you get bored with girl after having sex with her?

[Anonymous]

Tell me honestly, do you get bored when you start having sex with girl? are your feelings more intensive before having sex with her? I'm with my boyfriend for 8 months and haven't had sex yet, but I noticed that our kisses don't feel so amazing like it used to be. I always had butterflies and felt so amazing that I can't describe! But after kissing so often I don't feel it anymore , it's just kiss. That's why I wait with having sex with him, because I'm afraid it will get bored easily for me and for him also. i know he fantasize about me.. but when finally we will do it he may get bored with me? Tell me if I'm right, boys do you get bored with girl after having sex with her? was it good decision to wait long for it and make this feeling longer?

[michael21]

What you are feeling is not boredom but the end to the "butterfly" stage of the relationship. It is a absolutely normal part of a relationship, it means that you are past the stage of excitement and pleasure inducing hormones, you are now in a stage where you both are comfortable with each other and this is not a bad thing. Regarding the sex question, men don't get bored after having sex with a woman, at least not usually. The only men that get bored are the ones that were in their respective relationship only to have sex with the girl, and after the accomplish that task they don't have any further interest. If he cares about you then sex can only make your relationship stronger, if not then you will eventually lose him no matter what you do. You should not you sex as a means of keeping him around, he may get frustrated by this tactic, instead talk with him about what you are feeling, if he understands the you will be on your way to a healthy relationship, if not then you will know were you stand. Have faith, and good luck

[kholland65]

Actually its quite the opposite for me. Sex an intimacy bring me closer to a girl and makes me more attracted to her. If a girl hold out for too long, I'm going to get bored and lose interest. I'll also start to think there are some other issues at hand.

that being said, I wouldn't ask a girl to jump in the sake with me within the first week of dating her, but I would say after at least a month or 2, we should be having sex.

[Asker]

but my girl friends said that after having sex their relationship changed.. not for better, He stopped being affectionate or romantic, stopped telling compliments, .. they are not sure if it's because of this anyway. But we don't have sex yet and my relationship is great now.. I'm afraid of losing it

[kholland65]

Your girl friends are dating guys who are really just in it for the sex then. If that is is ultimate goal, then yes, he's going to ease up once he achieves it, but if a guy has genuine intentions it should bring the two people even closer. That's how its always worked for me. Think about it in reverse. You can argue than a women's end goal is to hear the words "I love you" and the guys is to get sex. If a guy said I love you right away, it would scare you off, but if he waited forever to say it

[kholland65]

Then vise versa, you would lose interest and think he's just not that into your or isn't very serious about the relationship. So its about finding that happy medium. Same goes for sex.

[shyguy89]

no we get bored with girls when they stop trying to keep up. no sex has nothing to do with it. as far as we know all girls are the same its your attitude that attracts us.just like a mean guy looks more fun than a prince charming.

[justincider]

No, he is getting bored because you are not having sex. His kisses are withdrawn because he is resentful you are making him wait so long. Usually sex takes the relationship to a new level of sharing and intimacy, so your whole relationship is stagnant because you can't make up your mind or justify it to yourself. It takes years of sex before the newness and doing it 24/7 stage subsides...

[MikeK]

Couldn't have said it better myself :)

[MikeK]

No way.

This is one (of many areas) where girls get it wrong. Frankly, I get bored with a girl if I don't have sex with her. Unfortunately, women think that so many of us guys lose our infatuation with them if they have sex with us, that they are reluctant to do so figuring we'd think less of them. In fact, if a girl has sex with me, my estimation of her only grows :)

[Xwtxx]

No. Nothing does not change with me.

[Anonymous]

if she just lays there, yeah they get bored

[MikeK]

BINGO!

[Anonymous]

No.

I think what you're feeling is a common slowdown. Some slowdown is to be expected, but don't let things slide too much.

For men, I'd say that slowdown hits kissing more then sex.

By which I mean, men have a _drive_ to have sex. We don't have a drive to kiss, and when things are fizzling we can fall into ignoring kissing and just having sex. But focusing on both is important.

Kissing for men early in a relationship is kind of a sexually charged tease. But with time it becomes less.

[Anonymous]

No. I get bored with a girl for much better reasons. Starting to have sex is never the reason.

The exception being where I was only pursuing her to get her in the sack in the first place - in which case, that's not getting bored, that's just completing the objective and moving on to the next target.

[Asker]

I haven't started sex with him yet only because I'm worried our love won't be so intensive like now, now it's intense as we wait for it.. and I can feel some sexual tension between us. If we start having sex I'm afraid it will disappar

[Opinion Owner]

Well, that's because you think what you're feeling right now is love. It isn't. You're being pursued. Wooed, if you will. To the end result of having sex. So obviously, when he gets sex, your relationship will change. That doesn't mean that *this* is love, and what comes after sex isn't love. You're mislabelling what you have. I can tell you this much - if you don't progress towards sex, if you try and keep things static, he will give up and it'll change then anyway. That's certain.

[Asker]

but if you have girlfriend with who you have sex , and you would see beautiful girl with who you haven't had sex. Which girl you would want more? your girlfriend or this new girl with who you haven't had sex yet? that's why I still wait..

[Opinion Owner]

Me? I'd stick with the one I got, because I'm past that stage of my life. But I still think you're confused, and don't really understand what the guys here are telling you. And like I said already, you may wait.. but he won't wait forever. That's a fact.