Will using a dildo hurt too much if youve never had vaginal sex?

[Anonymous]

I'm going to buy some sex toys. Like a bunch lol I'm going to buy a dildo but I'm curious of what to expect. I mean the penis like dildos. Not all the dildos I buy will be like that, but one or two of them are supposed to feel very similar to the real thing and look like penises. Have any other virgins here used dildos before? what are your experiences? Any advice, people? The only thing I've heard people say is use lube and obviously be relaxed and turned on. I don't know how much lube I would need because I get really wet, but ill buy it anyway. help me!

[journeyman1126]

I'd say imagine pushing a blunt pin through the webbing between your fingers. If you think you'd be able to do it in order to enjoy things later, go for it.

Not to scare you. I've only been with one virgin, and it was damaging to my psyche hurting her like that. But I'm very very thankful that she went through with it. I've never been with a more insatiable lover. It was very good while it lasted, for years.

Consider if you would like to do it with one special guy. As in, you know him now, and think he'd be good for the long term. If there is no one, I think you're a very adventurous soul. You might think of the position, and try lowering yourself on one of those with a suction base. It will have some give, but you can also press down hard enough to break your hymen, on your own terms. I knew a woman who lost her virginity to a Rabbit, and those dildos are hardcore. Just dove right in, and afterward said, "Well, didn't you feel my ears fluttering on your clit? I was wasted. Sorry babe. Go get me another beer, and a slice of that carrot cake." But on the positive side they had a long relationship afterward, until she started walking around with "him" in public, talking to it. I was at the wedding. They had to take her away, because of that lush. Silly rabbit.

If you're making good money I'd recommend the Sybian, all the "testimonial videos" I've watched "describing them" have convinced me they're an excellent training tool. You ride them, as well, and there are several attachments so you can figure out what kind of stimulation you prefer. Speaking of which, they all have enormous, adjustable, built-in vibrators which go from whats-that-tickling-sensation to OMG!-I'm-losing-my-mind!-Is-this-real-life?

Other than providing a photocopy of your ID, with the birth date and name showing along with your pic, and sending some gas money, there's not much more advice I can give you.

Did I mention I ride a motorcycle? Cheap on gas, and vibrates, too.

[seasidehermit]

Well with loosing your virginity there is always the chance that you tear the small falp of skin (its name escapes me atm) whch will make it bleed very slightly. This may happen. As for everything else since it is a toy you can go as hard and as deep as you like. So if something is hurting then try switching it up a little.

Perhaps watching some p*rn with toys will give you some ideas of what you can do.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a thick penis and we couldnt have sex. It hurt a lot when we tried and felt he was just hitting a wall and it couldnt goin atall. So I had decided to "loosen myself up". At first even a finger hurt, but then it didn't anymore. I started using a tampon first, then carrot (i know shouldn't use food objects :p) and I bled abit, and then a dildo which is 14cm around. at first it didn't go in and hurt, but after the third try it didand with not much pain;So it took me quite sometime to get to a point where i can get something in my vagina... but if I can do it anyone can :) And finally I can have sex with my boyfriend.
I also must say it didn't really loosen up my vagina, itis still tight, but I am now comfortable with getting something inside :) So that is the point.

[Anonymous]

Actually, I have never had vaginal sex but I did th same thing and bought a bunch of toys. I found hat working your way up over time from say a bullet, to a larger bullet, to a small dildo, to a biger one is the perfect transition. Just make sure the dildos are made of soft material so its comfortable. And I find that constant clit stimulation does the trick while using them. You can go as slow as you want, rub your clit as much as you need to. I have never experienced any real pain like people describe because I used this method. If you know exactly how to please yourself even during penetration, by the time you do have sex, you will be like a zen master of your own pleasure, something that many women unsuccessfully struggle towards during a sizable chunk of their sexcapades.

[caligirl3]

I have tried 3 different kinds of dildos I didn't like any of them, Most dildos are a lot harder then a real penis so I will never feel real. and I tried a life like dildo and I thought they were going to be awesome but they were worse, they don't slide at all so they kinda hurt unless you have a lot of lube and patience

[sexyasianboi26]

Every female has different sex toys. Some girls use a dildo, some use a vibrator, and some... use a dildo that vibrates :0

[SexySam2013]

I used a dildo to pop my cherry cause I really didn't want that to happen with a guy, to embarressing. It hurt a bit, but if you go really slow (much slower than some horny guy would) then you'll be fine.

[Littlemissbee]

The hymen is something to be stretched not ripped or torn. Lots of lube and patience drill be your best friend. A vibrator and dildo combo might be best for you. Ifit hurts stop, IT IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HURT. Don't let misinformed men and women delude you.

[Anonymous]

You should not do that, your gonna have some plastic thing be the first thing you put up there and not a d*** that's very stupid. Just have sex with a guy first and those toys are for later use.

[Asker]

well everyone has different opinions. obviously this isn't an issue for me. if I'm asking this, then I've already decided that I don't agree with you.

[Opinion Owner]

So you think its OK to loose it to a dildo?

[Asker]

short answer - yes, I do. its not a big deal to me. its not even an issue at all, for that matter. long - virginity is a concept, not an actual biological reality. I'm intelligent enough to realize that. there's nothing there to lose. people even pop their hymen sometimes before they ever have sex through sports activity, tampons, etc. some people still have their hymens after sex. also, I have a more evolved idea of sex. its not just penis in vagina, and its a sequence of milestones.

[Asker]

having sex with another person,male or female, is an experience of its own that will come regardless. getting to know my own body and exploring that is an entirely different thing, and I definitely want to gain that awareness before I have sex with someone. I think that's how it should be, it makes the first time better. but it could just be me. I've always been a "be informed and prepared" type of girl. knowing my body before having sex is no different.

[Asker]

we don't have to agree. in fact, just by the comments you make, I can tell we are not the same types of people and won't have the same opinions. I'm okay with that, you do things your own way and ill do them my way. I think my way is much better, but I'm sure you feel the same lol c'est la vie.

[Opinion Owner]

Only some girls pop it riding bikes and stuff I popped mine having sex. Just wondering where do you live and what is your degree in?

[Asker]

lol that's a very random question. I live in New York right now and I (almost) have my first degree. I'm a double major in political science and philosophy. why?

[Opinion Owner]

Just wondering, I know it has nothing to do with the question but I like to know where people are from on here and what they do for work. Sorry to offend you.

[Asker]

no, you didn't offend me at all. where are you from and what's your degree?

[Opinion Owner]

I live on the gold coast area of Connecticut. Education I'm a History teacher.

[SteelyMcBeam]

As a virgin male I kind of appreciate the idea of the first time being awkward and special. It's like you are exposing your weaknesses to the person you love. I really appreciate what the answerer said, but I'm not going to judge if you wanted to loosen it up so it doesn't hurt or feel awkward for that first time (however if it was me it would make me like I'll be compared). Maybe get a really small one if you haven't already? Just saying.

[Anonymous]

I was a virgin when I tried a dildo and it did hurt the first couple of times, but not terribly. I would recommend buying one that's on the smaller side of average. I tried a larger one years later and it wouldn't even fit without a LOT of pain, even though I wasn't a virgin anymore.

[AnnVdB]

how big was it? I mean thickness?