so I know a lot of girls who don't like to have sex when there sober and I find it really odd and sad.
They need to be either drunk or high but not sober and this is just really strange to me. do any of you ladies feel the same way?
why do they not like to have sex sober? are they just not into the people they f*** and need to be in a different mindset? or is it that there just that nervous about it?
to the people who can't read well I never said getting drunk and having sex is a bad thing I'm just asking a question for starters.
getting drunk and having sex is something everyone has or will do. what I'm wondering is why some of the girls I know only have sex while being drunk or high. from what I can tell they will not have sex sober and I am just curious about it.
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Ive only done it sober, and I've only had sex twice, with someone I love. The only way I will sleep with someone is if it is out of love not for fun. Clearly the girls you know are just stupid and insecure. Hooking up isn't even safe, I guess I'm the only person that fears STD's and HIV and AIDS that's just me.
It seems like a lot of girls numb themselves in order to do it, a lot of my friends don't even remember it but they keep doing it because they are young and that's seen as fun and lots of men call them and I guess they like the attention in the moment. Plus they start feeling bad about the last hookup and start to drink which leads to the next one...
Personally, I'm with you, that sounds strange and sad. Even though I'm a girl, my guesses are as good as any guy's. I would've guessed the same thing, though, in addition to maybe they don't want to remember it or have it not seem real. Easier to downplay? If they've done it multiple times and have a "rule" I couldn't believe it's nerves.
I'm 31 and I rarely have sex sober. It's awful. It has nothing to do with the guy or how much I'm into him. It has to do with anxiety. I have an anxiety disorder/social anxiety and what have you. It has little to do with how long I've been dating someone or how comfortable I feel with them... being super comfortable with them only helps a little. Having sober sex for me is awkward and strange and not sexy and I don't enjoy it. You have to relax to be able to enjoy sex and when you can't relax, you aren't going to enjoy it. I envy anyone who can have sober sex and be relaxed enough to enjoy themselves :/
Women are not like guys,they can't just be skin to skin with someone and move on in a sober mind.For a girl to have sex she must feel something first so when they are just hooking up something has to work in them to make them want to unlike guys who want to have sex first inorder to feel something.
I get more kinky and willing to try new things when I'm drunk. However, being buzzed and having sex are both of my decisions beforehand/ while being sober. I've already decided that I want sex and booze is there to exemplify my desire.
But then again, I'm not in a relationship. I'm just having fling with this guy. So if I'm in a relationship, I would not mind f***ing sober for sure.
Probably because sex when drunk or high is funner and you're more likely to try new things. Now that I think about it, I've only had sex sober twice. I don't do it intentionally, but for some reason I always want to hook up when I'm drunk.
my sex life is great but sex is even better when I'm drunk because I'm more uninhibited and kinky, I'm able to cut loose more than I normally would. And it also might be that we want an excuse for being freaky and nasty because were worried about what our guy might think if we did these things sober; he might want it all the time then or he might think were nastier than we normally wanna be
I am the complete opposite and I think I am alone on this one. I don't like drunk sex, I can't come and pretty numb when I drink. So there is no point in getting drunk and having sex, the plumbing just doesn't work.
It could be either of the ones you mentioned, it could also be they don't like sex at all but feel more brazen when wasted and think it will make it feel better or they do like sex but sober are afraid of getting a bad rep and are throwing caution.