Regret losing my virginity to my husband...

[Anonymous]

I wanted to wait until I was married to lose my virginity to my husband however after we were engaged we had sex. I was 33 (yea I know!) At first I was not sure it happened but the guilt I felt after was awful. He knew my stance to wait until married and I expressed it was my fault for putting myself in that predicament. I hate the guilt I felt. I don't regret losing it to my virginity to him, but it's when I lost it that eats me up with regret. I asked God to forgive me since but I still felt awful. After that, we would have foreplay (kissing and touching) but after a while I told him I didn't feel right doing so as it could lead back down the same road of having sex. He confessed he felt guilty too and respected what I wanted to do. We abstained until our wedding night. Sex after marriage made me feel great however every now and then I feel so bad about my mistake. It's been a couple months since we married. How do I get rid of the guilt. It makes me depressed I waited so long and screwed up. :(

[Anonymous]

:( I'm really sorry you feel that way, but it really is just psychological. There is nothing wrong with having sex with your husband (sex is meant to be inside of marriage). You waited all that time, which must have taken so much self discipline to do.

You don't need to have sex within marriage, but it completes it. Sex is sort of giving yourself to the other person, it's sort of like the physical side of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Jesus casts our sin as far as the east is from the west! If you were sincere when you asked for forgiveness then he forgave and forgot! We can't do anything about our past but make the best out of today and our future. God is merciful and he loves you:)

[Asker]

Yes I know this in my heart. I guess the devil is working overtime on my mind. :( I know we aren't perfect only Jesus was, but it weighs heavy on my heart.

[Opinion Owner]

Trust in the blood!

[Anonymous]

Jesus just texted me. You're going to hell for the improper spelling of "awful". He forgives you for getting down and dirty though.

[Curmudgeon]

Are you happy with him? Are you married? If the answers to both questions are yes, then NO PROBLEM!

Good lord, you have a higher purity score than just about anyone out there.

But thanking you for making me feel like less of a freak for being virginal until 26.

[Asker]

Yep. We are married already and he's a great man. I love him. He has integrity and kindness like no one I ever met before. He's a rare one.

[Curmudgeon]

Seriously, I think the Lord will let you slide on this one.

[ObscuredBeyond]

That guilt is totally understandable. The law is written on your heart just like everyone else's. The anonymous bashing the church is out of line.

But you did right by your man and God and got married. Rest assured in your forgiveness.

[the90swerethebest]

Keep trying, if you still feel like you're not getting anything, tell him..and see what you want to do about it

[Anonymous]

Talk about psychological brainwashing by the church. Under your religion it wasn't the right thing to do, so go to your church and do confession or whatever your church has. Get forgiveness from the church and move on. Live, learn, and forgive.