Guys, are these things deal breakers?

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All this talk about shaved, trimmed, bald, landing strip, big boobs, small boobs, fake boobs, nipple size, nipple sensitivity, innies, outies, is making me want to cry. Guys, are things like that deal breakers in a relationship? if you fall in love with a girl, you love her personality, she makes you laugh, you are compatible and she is extremely beautiful, and then you find out she has an outie, or she is not fully shaved, do you stop loving her?I don´t want to sound as if I don´t care about sex because that´s not the thing. Sex is very important, but it seems as if it´s nearly impossible to be what some men expect women to be. I´m sorry guys, I´m sure not all of you are the same, but some of you have pretty unrealistic and unfair expectations from girls. Most of us are not p*rnstars therefore we don´t act like one and we certainly don´t look like one. So, my question is, if you are in love with a girl or in the process of falling in love with a girl, do these shallow factors actually matter? Maybe I´m too romantic for modern society...

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

For me, fake boobs are the only thing that approaches being a deal-breaker, and even that isn't always going to be a deal breaker for me. None of that other stuff is a huge deal. I prefer my girl be shaved, but nearly every girl I've dated (since I was in my early 20s) has come right out and asked me what I preferred, and then done that. There was never any drama about it.

Personality and attitude have always been FAR more important to me than physical attributes. I mean, I have to find her attractive, but it's not like I only find 9s and 10s attractive. I've dated girls who others might consider a 4 or 5, but they were cool girls so I didn't care what anyone else thought.

Keep in mind that there are a lot of YOUNG, IMMATURE guys posting here, and many of them think that they "deserve" Victoria's Secret models who are virgins but totally down to do the sluttiest p*rn stuff. In other words, they are dreaming, and are likely to either end up alone, or end up with a 3 or 4 because they can't seem to find any 9s or 10s who are interested in them. In other words, keep those responses in context: many of the guys who post this crap haven't even ever seen a girl naked before.

Too many girls take this stuff way too seriously. Most guys feel like Superman when they get a girl, ANY girl, naked. They don't get out a clipboard and start inspecting her and marking off points; rather they thank their lucky stars and pray she calls again so he can have a second round.

Would you really want a guy who was that shallow anyway?

Belgie · Accepted Answer

No they are not deal breakers. They are preferences only. Sometimes not even serious preferences, just a "Oh if I had to pick one, then..."

Guys have a HUGE variety of likes. And the only one putting unrealistic expectations on women, are the women themselves.

It's the girls who look at p*rn and start worrying that they don't look like that.

It's not the guys who are saying "I'm not dating her, because she doesn't look like a p*rn star"

It's all in your head girls. And you are your own worst enemy.

peace-love-couture · Accepted Answer

Some of these things may not be preferred or may be a turn off, but few guys will dump a girl over these things.

I think this site creates a sense of every little detail being a deal breaker, but for those who've actually had sex and been in relationships and maybe even married, they typically aren't.

I think this site focuses wayyyy too much on height, virginity, breast size and hair down there. People on here are obsessed with liking "XYZ" and saving the self esteems of people who don't have desirable traits that it seems like these things matter. Of course, insecurity is nothing new, but the people on here just zooms in on irrelevant sh*t

Like yeah, a few guys on here talk about being bald down below being a deal breaker. C'mon? If you're that much of a retard you need to re-evaluate your priorities

Or how guys on here hate big breasts and find them a deal breaker and turnoff. Really?

Or how girls with fake t*ts will never find love from them? Don't worry, they don't want them anyhow

It really doesn't matter

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Accepted Answer

I just think hairy is the only thing on the list that would be a major turn off,  now there is nothing wrong with being an outie and please, please keep the hair of your labia.  And women have deal breakers for guys too so don't feel bad

Bvroon · Answer

Ok, here is the deal, it really just depends on the guy, and the more mature he is the less likely it's going to be a deal breaker. As you have pointed out none of us (I think) are p*rn stars, so with this in mind I have to say that all of the things you have mentioned that are causing you concern are not really big issues for me, in that I Love my wife for who she is more than what she looks like, granted I am still very attracted to her, and this has a lot to do with our emotional connection. Both she and are could do to lose a few pounds, but I still find my wife physically attractive because she finds me attractive as well, and this has a lot to do with it. If she had something happen to her where she was changed physically dramatically I would still be very much in Love with her and do everything I could to make her feel sexy, desirable and Loved, so I guess that is really what a real relationship is about. I hope this helps you some, and that you too can find someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are.

Mtsmith · Answer

I am going with a person. Nothing that minor is a deal breaker.

Most of this can be talked over. I have had gfs who want my hair gone, but they were well trimmed. Ok, it worked.

Laughing, good communication, some common interests...that is what I want, the rest, well we all are different, so let us enjoy the differences...

misuzi · Answer

None of those things matter individually.

If a guy is interested in a girl he already knows what she looks like generally and obviously approves enough to go out with her.

However just cause he see's her naked and finds out she has an outie belly button, or pubic hair or whatever doesn't matter. Those are small things, and most people won't care.

joshuadwa · Answer

No... I have never heard of a guy that got a girl naked, then put his cloths back on and walked away because she had an "innie" or an "outie".

Little-Hippie · Answer

An outie is not a deal-breaker. The hair, however, WILL be shaven. Period.

Cantremember · Answer

No, you are too modern for an outdated society.  Physical aspects aren't a deal breaker if you are already attracted to the other.

Lupianwolf · Answer

No, I don't think any of the things you mentioned would be a deal breaker,

everybody has preferences but that doesn't mean you won't like other things or for one specific characteristic to be the only way you look at her

It goes both ways as would you dump a guy if he didn't have something you liked(six-pack, broad shoulders etc.)

I guess not

justincider · Answer

I think being very overweight can be a deal breaker, but having a few extra pounds is not.  IE-my exwife was about 130-135 when I first met her and she's 5ft 4in tall.  Not skinny, but curvy with big boobs.  By the time we got divorced she let herself get to 175.  I still loved her and we still had great sex until it went bad.  If she was 175 when I met her, I would not have dated her, but it did not matter that she put the weight on after we fell in love.  If she cracked 200 or so though I would have had a major issue with it.  We broke up for other reasons, and I would not have left her for that, but at some point those things matter.  Most of the other stuff you are mentioning is completely NA

taster · Answer

Hmmm..some of this is not so much about what physically is or is not there...but rather their attitude as to how is is presented...(:(:(:

antonlikesmlb · Answer

They wouldn't bother me if she is a complete person in general. Small things like hair can be fixed.

Anonymous · Answer

Outies , big bush, saggy boobs all deal breakers!

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer pubes on a girl.

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