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I get too wet around my boyfriend. How can I stop this? help!

This is so embarrassing, but I went to get dessert with my boyfriend and when I got up to leave I noticed my seat had a moisture or wetness stain. and then I felt my pants and noticed they felt moist too. I was wearing grey pants and they turned dark there. I get so turned on just looking at my boyfriend. We've been together for almost 2 years so its not like we just met. I thought over time this problem would diminish but it hasn't. My boyfriend is sweet enough not to comment or bring it up since. ( its been 3 weeks). Someone help me please! Even when I go to his place I have to wear either panty liners or pads and then go to the bathroom and take them off before I think we might get intimate. But sometimes durning foreplay my panties get REALLY wet. even my pants get wet. Its so uncomfortable to wear damp panties afterward. My pants generally dry off by the time I'm ready to leave but my panties feel weird. How can I stop myself from getting so wet just looking at my bf? Or before we even have sex. I've soaked right through panties numerous times before he's even really touched me, from simply sitting on top of him talking to him (not even dirty talk, just general) or kissing him.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Why would you want to try to stop something SO NORMAL, that you feel? He's apparently not bothered by it, knowing, seeing.
    I would feel AMAZING, if I could get my GF that wet, showing, in public!!
    I don't know ANY guy that would be grossed out, or embarrassed with a woman he loved, that got so wet, with him, in public, that she was embarrassed that she showed how wet she was!!
    If you are unsure, or embarrassed, wear black leggings, and cotton panties, and maybe a little 'teasingly short' skirt, but keep doing the 'wet thing' and ENJOY IT!!!
    If my GF got 'embarrassingly' wet, I think I would think it was an AMAZING turn-on, like she REALLY liked me!!
    It's not like you are leaking battery acid, or something bad!! Girl Juice is really nice, to some guys!!
    Why do you feel like you have to hide it? Most guys would LOVE that the woman they are with can get that 'uncontrollably' wet, even if it isn't because of them!!
    So go to his place, get wet, have a GREAT TIME, but bring a change of pants/panties, for the next morning!! :)

  • I hate him.

    • huh? why? He's a really nice guy. Treats me well. Why do you hate him?

    • I'm just jealous. This 'problem' is like ... a dream come true for the guy, lol.

    • I have the same problem nothing you can do guys actually like that they it makes them feel powerful

Most Helpful Girls

  • Omgsh, I'm like that tooo! Even if we're just sitting and having anon sexual conversation, il get up and feel my panties wet. It's so embarrassing and uncomfortable. And I've turned to wearing pads at times too.. But that's horrible too if he tries to feel me up then feels the bad. Lately I've been wearing black jeans around him so it's not noticeable if my pants get wet.. I don't really know what else to do. We've not even slept with each other yet. And it's only Been about 4 months .. Soo I'm hoping it will stop soon too.. But reading thi is making me doubt myself. But I understand where you're coming from. I hate it!

    • ahhhh im so glad this is SOMETHING else other people have. And guys its nice to think about but i grant you this feeling, have you ever worn a wet bathingsuit and chaffed your thighs because of it. That is what happens to some of us, that dampness is awful. I work a weeklyshow and my boyfriend performs in it and sometimes plays the character that I first saw him in when I met him back in November and for some reason I literally will just be wet for the entirety I see him plus the show plus the aftermath of the show and and we do stuff when we can but it's like ridiculous to have that because it also can smell bad after a while and I hate the smell and then like I said we can chaffe and because I'm performing it's fucking awful...

  • Did you have this problem before or is he the only one it happens with?

    Because if you have had this problem for a long time, then you need to consult a gynecologist or maybe a general doctor would be fine at first (this doctor might know what's going on or direct you toward which kind of doctor you have to consult).

    If it's recent, then you have to understand what's going on in your brain, and this is more about consulting a sex therapist.

    • I have this issue with my x but we haven’t talked in about 7 years and he recently hit me up and it started happening again

    • @Starfish571 that’s probably because you find yourself fantasizing about letting your ex open your legs and spending some time enjoying that tight, warm, wet piece of heaven you have waiting to be enjoyed

  • Have you tried using a “light” tampon. I use that on occasion when I’m super horny. If not just keep on using liners and keep a spare pair of panties in your purse or jacket pocket. Better to go home with clean fresh smelling panties then smelling of sex. lol

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  • They do have OTC med for females that get to wet during arousal.

    Also you could take to wearing panty liners...

    • do you know what they are called by any chance?

  • Most people would envy you not think you had a problem..

  • I don't get it...does this bother him? Most guys find a "wet" girl to be really hot..is he complaining?..I would be really turned on by this...could wipe your wetness on my face and mouth...(:(:(:

  • Why don't you try making yourself squirt it all out before you meet up with your boyfriend that way you have less

    • i've tried to masturbate before I see him (because I hear that what guys do). But it doesn't seem to work the same for women I guess :s

    • Have you really squirt it out most of the time and I heard if you drink more water it produces more juice.

    • i do drink LOTS of water ( I'm a bit of a health nut) so I try to drink one litre of water a day. That can cause you to get turn on or wet easier?

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  • wow! you sure is not just sweat? but damn, that sounds like a wish come true

    • i wish it was a sweat issue lol I'm really tiny and I don't sweat much at all. This is by no means anyones wish come true. Who would want this? I even feel embarrassed for him, I can't believe he's still with me. How about if people in the restaurant noticed? omg I honestly don't know why he's even still with me.

    • He's still with you because hey, it's very flattering for him to know he can make you get wet that way. From a guy's perspective, that *is* a wish come true. Perhaps you should move in with him, indeed marry him. If you *still* have this kind of reaction after a year of being together, that is something. But for most of us, the novelty wears off and I suspect after a year of marriage, he will just be your husband and he won't make you tingle.

    • exactly! and make sure you drink plenty of water on the mean time

  • Holy fuck sell me your dirty panties please’!!

  • I agree with the guys here... from a guy's standpoint you have a GREAT problem. I can see where it could be uncomfortable or embarrassing at times for you. I can pretty much say with all certainty that your bf has no problem with it and more than likely loves the fact.

  • You can't, you are human. When I had a girlfriend ( long story but things end) I used to get hard all the time. It's okay you are human. I'm sure you aren't a pervert or anything. I think it's the thought of us being close to something that gets the juices flowing so to speak. So don't be embarrassed.

  • Wow... What a lucky guy! I'd love for a girl I was dating to get as wet as you do over me... Just my 2 cents

  • Did you found out how to 'stop' it? I am very interested in this topic because a lot of girls has this "issue" (which is a shame they look at it that way) but not many knows any answers. by the way you are lucky that he still turns you on that way, not many couples after years do. Keep it up and please let me know...

  • this sounds normal to me. however if it bothers you enough, you can go see an OBGYN, what they can do is prescribe you contraception with progestins which helps fixing the normal female hormonal cycle and possible anovulatory conditions. (i'm in medical school)

    • Thanks for the helpful tip :)

  • OMG that is hot. Your boyfriend doesn't mention it because he doesn't want you to stop doing that. Every guy has been taught from a very young age that they are the ones who are horny and want sex, so when the woman they are with is that turned on, it makes us feel amazing.

  • I have the same problem 😭 it’s actually embarrassing and I don’t even tell him about it. He just keeps talking and I look at him the next thing I know is I’m wet 😭

  • Saying boyfriend in your 30s seems wrong... maybe that's the issue. ... you're not in hs, call him your man friend. . ... f#boy would even be better than boy friend

  • I have the same problem and I am male, I have to wear dark color clothing so wet spot isn't as noticeable. Other than having to hide a wet spot occasionally I don't mind at all

  • I think you'll get over this in time.

  • awww cute ;p

    • not cute at all. its very embarrassing. I'm constantly worried that he can tell I'm already wet. He doesn't comment about it but when he puts his hands down my pants to feel my bum he just kinda giggles to himself. Its absolutely the most embarrassing thing ever!

    • im sure he likes it a lot

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