i don't know hun, but I went through something similar. Only thing was I was a lot older when I lost my virginity. It was by the most heartbreaking thing to ever happen. To be honest, I'm still not over it. I can't even think about the night I lost my virginity without being in completely tears. What I've learned is men that have been previously treated like sh*t apparently enjoy being treated like sh*t. They say they want a good girl that will just treat them right and they can build a life with, but when they find that they just use and mistreat her.
I wish you nothing but the best dear. For me, I've never been able to get over it. I've actually never been in another relationship of any form since. I became so depressed that I lost all my friends, and well I don't trust any man not to do that again. Plus how do I even explain this to a guy? He may act like he understand and is caring but once he sleeps with me he'll do the same. Men just don't have any respect for good women.0 0 0 0His exes were just so horrible. I did everything I could to let him know I loved and respected and supported him no matter what he wanted to do and I always made myself available if he needed advice or to vent or whatever and he did the same. I just don't understand what could have changed that quickly.
i don't know dear.. but I do understand. Trust me I went through the same thing. Even now I have no idea what made him change so quickly. It went from being the greatest man ever to the most heartless human being I ever came across.
It just sucks...he told me he loved me and then to "just hang up" in the same conversation. I thought guys were supposed to be simple. Just sucks is all. Thanks for your input though; it helps.
Wow, sounds like a real winner. *sarcasm*
You did nothing wrong, he just seems like an a**hole who simply used you for sex. I mean, why else would he break up with you right after you had sex? And he didn't even say it to your face, he waited until he got back home to say that. I'm sorry that happened to you but trust me, not all guys are like that. It sucks you gave your virginity to a jerk like that.
You just have to keep your head up and try as best you can to move on. Yes, it will be difficult but it is possible. Time heals everything in my opinion. Forget about that loser and find a guy who REALLY cares about you. Again, I'm sorry that happened to you but all you can do is move on with your life.0 0 0 0He did and said everything right. He invested so much time in me that I thought there was no way he would try that hard just to get me in bed. In the end it was like a bad movie though. We had sex a final time before he left, I came back in the bedroom from the bathroom and he said he should get going then a few hours later calls and we break up.
I lost mine to a guy I loved for two years and a month later he just wanted t be friends. Try to let go of what's gone.
I spent years regretting it and feeling worthless, I also wondered for a long time if it was my fault. You need to get over thinking that, it was him. You need to move on and realize that he wasn't worthy. This should teach you not to sell yourself short and never to give yourself to someone who doesn't deserve you. Once you realize your own worth you'll find that you don't really want a guy like him anyway.0 0 0 0I know my worth already...I think I just overestimated his.
same with me, he treated me amazingly, he was so sweet and said all the right things, that's why its so much more puzzling when he didn't want me. he had commitment issues, I don't think it was his intention to get my virginity then leave. Maybe whatever your guys problem is had nothing to do with you. But still, don't pursue him, its a waste of time
I don't plan to pursue him. If it's over it's over and I'll just deal with it and move on. If he decides he wants me back then I'll have the upper hand to decide if he's worth it.
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Do not ever initiate contact with him again. If there is to be any communication, let him initiate it first. Otherwise, you're going to look desperate and that's not good.
"Did I do something wrong?" - this is not the right train of thought. Don't think you did anything wrong. If you felt good about everything that happened until you guys broke up, you didn't do anything wrong. This is his problem, not yours. He's stupid not to know how this may impact you.
But at the end of the day, why would you want to be in a relationship with a guy like that? (Don't answer, it's a rhetorical question.)0 0 0 0He knew it would impact me. When we talked he said he regrets that he took it because of the emotional situation it puts me in and that he felt terrible. And I know I didn't do anything wrong, I do. I just miss him, you know? Everything was perfect and then it was over. I don't understand how you can go from loving someone to not in mere hours.
He might be attracted more to crazy, dysfunctional girls. While it isn't logical, it can happen. Also, you said that he lived quite a bit north of you, meaning he had quite the drive. The distance may have played a factor, especially when you factor in the time and cost of extra driving in these days of high gas prices.
0 0 0 0I thought about the drive up and down and if that's his excuse it's a lame one. We took turns driving back and forth and whoever didn't drive usually ended up paying for whatever we did. He came down here this time and I paid for pizza and his movie ticket for example. I don't even really want to think about the attraction to crazy women. That makes no sense whatsoever to me. I always treated him well; made him feel like a man when he needed it and kept things equal and easy.
Hey, something can not make sense, but you can still be attracted to it. Many girls go back to men who beat them up, ignore them or generally treat them like dirt. Attraction isn't a choice, even if it is towards something that is completely illogical.
Fair enough I guess. Just sucks when the good ones get the short end of the stick.
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1 2I didn't read this whole thing, but I can tell you he was BSing the entire relationship.
0 0 0 0For four months?
It's not actually that long of a time period. If you read on here, you'll see that all these guys talk about how if they don't get any in 3 months, they'll leave. Maybe his was 4. Or maybe some other things were going wrong.
It had to be something else. The guy was in a two year relationship with a girl who never had sex with him because she was religious. Idk. Thanks though.
Unfortunately, many guys are like this...
0 0 0 0What would make him change his mind so quickly? Who drives four hours and spends $80 bucks on gas to nail a virgin? It couldn't possibly have been just for sex...right?
Just imagine if you meet another guy that loves you and marries you, you have to explain to him that you gave your virginity to a guy who didn't even care about you
0 0 3 0I wasn't saving my virginity for marriage; I never expected to marry who I lost it to. I waited because I wanted to be mature enough to handle the situation however it ended up. If I had lost it at 16 I'd be a much bigger mess than I am now. And how exactly was that answer supposed to comfort or help me at all?
so your virginity had no value to you?
Of course it did. If it didn't I wouldn't have waited till I was almost 20. But I'm a realist; I wanted to save it for someone I cared about but just because you love and care about someone doesn't mean that they're going to be the person you end up with.
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