Why does my boyfriend like telling his friends about our sex life?

Question

Last night my boyfriend and I were at a friends party all the girls were kind of hanging out together and all the guys hanging out in their group. Me and the girls got the ideal to be quiet and listen in on what the guys were talking about. Well it happened to be my boyfriend talking, he was telling his guy friends things that I do to him in bed while we are having sex. He told them that after sex I always let him come in my mouth or on my face and that I am addicted to giving him blow jobs and how good I am at it. We also overheard some of the guys talking about the sizes of our boobs and my boyfriend told them my boobs size and I could hear him describing what mine look like.  I was a little embarrassed because the rest of the girls were hearing all of this too. I don't know why my boyfriend was talking so loud about this I guess because he was drunk and didn't realize he was so loud. The girls were pretty cool about it some even given me a high-five for being so good at it and calling me a naughty girl which this also embarrassed me more. I am a little shy when it comes to talking about sex publicly I only tell my close girlfriends things that I may do to him in bed or he does to me. I'm not mad at my boyfriend or anything but I don't understand why he would be telling that to a bunch of guys and some guys that I don't even know that well. Why do guys want other guys to know about this type of stuff I mean it's kind of personal and I do all of these things just to please him not for everyone else to know. has your boyfriend or husband ever talk to his guy friends about your sex life?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend always says any man that has respect for his girlfriend and their relationship and a little bit of class will never speak about it to his buddies. He says he can always tell which one of his buddies are actually satisfied and actually "getting some" and which ones aren't. The ones that aren't feel the need to tell stories. The ones that are, keep their mouth shut and go meet up with their girlfriend or go home to their wives. Plus, he said the guys that do speak about their sex life, they are detail it with a ons or a hookup, not their girlfriend. No guy wants his buddies to know how wild his girlfriend is in bed, that's for him to know and enjoy. they will protect her image (lady in the street and freak in the bed). No respectful boyfriend would want his girlfriend to be seen as a "freak" always as a lady.

I'd tell him to stop bragging if I were you.

Nicci · Accepted Answer

Yea it really pisses me off when this happened to me in the past, I didn't speak to my boyfriend for about a week.

It's pretty common though, guys always do this, I've even had guys telling ME what they do with their girlfriends and such.

To be fair, we girls do the same thing as well, we talk to our friends about it, but usually it's different usually it's only a small group of very close friends, whereas guys will pretty much tell anyone they are even remotely acquainted with.

You could tell him you don't like him taking about it but I really doubt it would actually change anything.

udolipixie · Accepted Answer

Why does my boyfriend like telling his friends about our sex life?

Likely because guys see getting sex as something to brag about and a status thing

Why do guys want other guys to know about this type of stuff?

Status as being able to talk.brag about your sex life equates to he has an active sex life rather than he's not some whipped guy whose girlfriend is using sex as a weapon

Has your boyfriend or husband ever talk to his guy friends about your sex life?

No as your question and a plentiful of other reasons is why I consider it all cons to have a male partner.

CrystalMinds · Accepted Answer

Well, he didn't say anything bad and he was kinda bragging to his friends about how good you are, so I don't think it's that bad. Ok, a lot of girls, including me, would be a bit embarrassed, but it's kinda funny as well. It's not like he said you suck at blowjobs (not literally) and that your boobs are to small/big/funnyshaped, ...

Girls talk about their sexlife to their girlfriends, so do I. Nothing wrong with that.

I wouldn't see it as bad, just funny. En plus, he was drunk, so I wouldn't think about it too much.

kholland65 · Accepted Answer

Well as you already know, its normal for men and women to talk with their friends about sex, even as it relates to their partners.

However, I will admit that your boyfriend went into quite a lot of detail that isn't really normal. The only time I go into that much detail is when I'm talking about a girl I'm not longer with. Not just out of respect for my GF, I just rather not the entire world know all the details about my girlfriend. Sometimes are just for me to know only.

Like you said, he was probably drunk. Plus it sounds to me like he was putting positive spin on everything (i.e. complimenting your BJ skills), so he was likely trying to show off to his friends a bit.

Ubetiburn · Accepted Answer

Be happy that he was advertising for your next boyfriend. Did you say anything to him?

Men, we are stupid. We will stand there in front of you and talk about you as if you are not there or that you are an object. We think with our cocks and not out little brains.

Men think that it makes us look better, that our lady wants us so bad that they will debase and humiliate themselves for us. That we are macho, king of the walk. Had you listened to the whole thing his 5-6" penis would have been 10-13" and soda can thick instead of the pencil it is.

Men and sex stories are like men and fish stories. It gets bigger and better with each re-telling.

MrOracle · Answer

When you are drunk, you lose two important things: your inhibitions and your judgement.

Your guy was happy and wanted to brag to his friends, but probably wouldn't have done that sober, because it wasn't a smart idea. But drunk, he no longer cares, so he will talk about anything that comes to mind. That's exactly how most people are when drunk; they'll say anything.

astutefl · Answer

He's just bragging.  He is trying to show his friends how cool he is and what a great Girlfriend you are.  It's all very complimentary to you.  If it bothers you, def tell him you overheard him and ot please not discuss your sex life with anyone.

kheserthorpe · Answer

A) he was drunk B) he's proud.

JohnWhilkins · Answer

Tell him to f***ing stop, cause its weird and gross. If he doesn't feel it, I'm sorry to say you've lost a boyfriend. But better lose a boyfriend now than a husband in 5 years.

normalice · Answer

almost all guys do this, and we really wish women would too.

Chiarac2003 · Answer

Tell him he shouldn’t be so open about it.

arashmenalagha · Answer

It's a good thing, girls like to have their egos stroked if not more than guys. I do it too, but I wait for the most awkward moment possible which never comes as frequently as I wish.