So...what does this mean? Should I change my sexuality?

[Anonymous]

So, I was sitting with my roommates (I just moved in) and some of their friends come over. Suddenly, I find that I'm kinda turned on...and when I went upstairs, my panties were wet. So, mentally I like guys (though, I'm rarely ever get turned on by them), but when I was around the girls, I didn't feel "that way" about them mentally. So...does this mean I'm bi or what? I've heard that other girl get turned on by other girls...but I was wondering if this ever shifted their sexuality at all. And like, I only got a pulsing feeling down there I was horny or anything. So, any advice?

[allie604]

You were aroused! Its completely normal, you are most likely bi if your getting those feelings.

It doesn't mean you have to change your sexuality, just be who you are. Its okay to like both guys and girls. You have to decide whether its just sexual or emotion with the girls though, and same with guys. cause in the long run that might add some confusion/tension. Did you want to act on your arousal while you were with your room mates/friends?

Give it time, I'm sure it will eventually make better sense to you as you grow older and wiser. :)

[Asker]

Not really. It came across as more of just a "Feeling". Like, I felt no reason to act on it at all. it was kinda like "huh...I'm turned on. oh well". But, mentally, I don't feel that way about them or what to pursue them in that manner. Like, mentally I like men, but I'm afraid that physically I won't get turned on at all (and if I'm in a relationship, it'll all go downhill). but thanks!

[lefthand]

People get turned on. Sometimes they get turned on by things that don't fit with their self-concept. Don't worry about it too much. The majority of people go through some same sex arousal. Some experiment with it, others don't. In the end, your sexual preference is retrospective and subject to change over time. Simply because you have sexual feelings for one particular set of partners now doesn't mean that is what you will want your whole life.

[wendellfish]

the simplest way to find out. Talk to a female that you "could" be attracted to and explain that you have never been with a girl and want to try it out. Go for it and see how you feel when you are done. If it is not for you, no harm no foul. Make sure you are comfortable with the girl and trust her. I know this sounds like the typical guy answer, but it is meant truly to help you in you quest for clarification.

[l-hedoniste]

Go make out with a hot girl. Or, alternatively, forget about it.