Why am I so freaking innocent? Is this a bad thing?

[Anonymous]

I am so innocent in everything and I am 20. I've always thought it a good thing to be pure and innocent especially since I was raised that way and it feels good and makes me proud but.. wow.. I got asked the other day where someone could get a drink and my answer was down the hallway there is a water fountain. The people looked at me and giggled. I was like, " ohh.. you mean a beer! Gotcha.. Um I have no clue! SOrry!" ... well when it comes to sexual things I just feel like I always have the lower hand when it comes to men. I normally just keep my mind on other things, don't watch p*rn and don't walk around feeling all sexy trying to flirt with a guy or "capture" him. I'm just goofball me. Yes I know about sex and am sexual but I save it for the right times and moments and then let go... Just when I hear about other girls and watch them " capture" guys.. it gets to me. My boyfriend has always been against same sex sex... I think that girl on girl can be hot but I've never said anything because he said that he wouldn't be with a girl who did stuff like that. So I jsut was like, " Whatever it doesn't bother me either way." .. well tongiht he was telling me about his first time masturbating and watching p*rn, ect. Then he said that one of his girl friends that he used to really lust after was underage and did girl on girl sex to try it out and he found it hot but just stays away because he doesn't agree with it. Then she would talk to him about sex and about how she did it with the other girl, send him hot pictures on motorbikes, etc. NO wonder why he liked her! I've never even opened up to him like that before and it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me. Like I should be doing that and sharing that with him. I've always felt like girls beat me in these areas and like I am some little kid. Of course, its freaking HOT but.. it's not me. Sometimes I wonder if I was ever meant to have a boyfriend and sex and all that jazz and should rather be off in my own world just staying innocent and doing my thing.

[LizTheWeirdKid]

I know what you mean! I'm exactly like this! I'm just a nice kid but people expect me to be some sort of slutty sexual beast just because I'm 20. I still feel like a kid. And I am also really innocent and I like it. I am comfortable this way.

[Asker]

Haha! Yaaay! I'm glad. :D It just feels nice and fun and pure and problem free... Idk.. I like it... I just know at some point everyone does the sexual stuff whether with a boyfriend or husband .. I just don't know how to be the "sexual norm" these days and don't think I want too.

[LizTheWeirdKid]

I know right? I'm really happy being a non sexual person. I always say that I'll worry about those things when I grow up. Maybe when I'm 30 or 40 or something. But right now I'm happy with who I am. :D

[Anonymous]

DO NOT BE INTIMIDATED BY THOSE GIRLS.. they'll all be washed up soon, no worries. Stay pure until you find your soul mate, then enjoy your sexually to the fullest with him!

[Anonymous]

ur corruption is inevitable, as it is the way of life.

[Asker]

Yeah... I figured... I just don't know when I fully want to let go of innocence.

[TheUglyOne]

When you're innocent, you remind people of their vices and bad things. Just don't give a crap about it and live life on your terms.

[Asker]

Thank you! I always have done that but having a boyfriend brings out insecurities that are new and difficult. Its like, " Oh.. is that normal? I'm supposed to be talking to you about that?... but I don't know how. This is different." .. Is it best to think about things like that and talk about it or just be me and when the time comes, it comes.

[aditya03]

there is nothing wrong with you

you just need the right guy

[Asker]

Thank you! I feel like I have the right guy... I just wasn't fully expecting that last night and I feel like he was pushing hoping to hear the answer that the old girl gave because he finds it hot. I do find it hot.. he just made me feel a little insecure without meaning to. I'll talk to him today. I feel stupid in explaining though and like I had ruined our communication last night.

[taster]

There is a difference between "being aware" and "how you live your life"

[Asker]

Yes, that's true. I royalty agree. I am aware I just don't talk, think about it or do which caused shock in my boyfriend which made me feel weird and insecure.

[taster]

I am not quite getting you..what is it that shocked your bf? I like shy girls..I am not really colorful...if my woman likes receiving oral and she will tolerate my love for her pee..then I need no more..I understand that most guys are different from me...some need lots more and some need less...you said "NO WONDER" but you need to remember that I would not go for that...for your OWN sake..try not to generalize us..you will not hurt me..only yourself..:S

[Anonymous]

You right don't need boyfriend I think you should
open up and eat you some pussy

[Anonymous]

no being innocent isn't bad

[Anonymous]

I am the exact same way, I just do my own thing and don't notice things very much. People always seem to laugh at my innocence (have barely done anything) but some people think it's cute. A lot of people seem to gawk at me or act surprised like everyone should know certain things. Typically I say things that turn out dirty to other people, when that was in no way my intention, I just don't think that way. I just always tell myself, if they care too much about my innocence, that's their problem.

[Asker]

Oh no! I accidentally pressed the down arrow. It won't let me undo it. Sorry! I meNt the other one! Hehe and I like that! About you. I've done that too. One time I was talking about food and everyone in the room looked at me and started laughing. I was like... " oh! That's not what I meant!" Do you have a because and this causes issues?

[Anonymous]

You sounded really cute the first half of this. I don't think it is a bad thing to be innocent.

[Asker]

haha Thank you! :D ... and how did the 2nd half sound? I'm just not used to stuff like that. Does it just come with time?

[Opinion Owner]

I liked the first part because you sent those people to a water fountain and you said that you are a goofball. It's really endearing to me. The second part was fine, but it conjured up my own personal thoughts on the subject. That's all. Does what come with time? Talking about sexual stuff?

[Asker]

Oh okay! .. and yes, talking about stuff like that. Idk, I'm just not used to it. What thoughts did you have?