How to calm your nerves when it's your first time being fingered?

Question

I'm currently in my first relationship and the guy is much more experienced than me, he was my first kiss and everything. So when we took things further and he was fingering me it just kept hurting and I said ow and he seemed shocked when I first said it and looked at me and asked me if it hurt. So he pulled out and went back slowly but it just kept hurting and he seemed a little frustrated when he told me it was only the tip not even passed his first knuckle, and its not like I wasn't wet, he was surprised I wast that wet so fast...just I think it was because I was nervous because it was my first time doing something like that. I just want to know if anyone else ever experienced that and how did you get over your nerves or help your partner with that.

sikoo31 · Accepted Answer

this is why I don't want to hook up with girls that haven't put anything inside them.

but you're in a relationship, you have the time and the will to work at it.

i'd suggest you finger yourself a few times a day; maybe when you wake up, or before going to sleep. both would be better.

that way when he wants to do it to you, you won't hurt so much or at all.

normalice · Accepted Answer

If it's just fingering and not sex, the very easiest way to relax is to get a little tipsy - just a half-glass of red wine will do.

Anon100 · Accepted Answer

Get him to start by just rubbing your clit so you can get used to his hands down there. Then get him just to run his finger around your hole. Then get him just to put the tip in very slowly and tale it out again. Then in a tiny bit more and out. Then more and more until it's all the way in. That's how my boyfriend & I sorted that problem. Hope this helps :)

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

Relax, relax, relax and open your legs so it is even easier to insert his finger in you.  No reason it should hurt as it is less of an intrusion than inserting a tampon.  Do however make sure he has short cut fingernails.  Long or ragged nails can hurt.

Claireluvskaren · Accepted Answer

I agree with the other girls, but when you masturbate and finger yourself, does it hurt, ?  Like Katie said, open your legs a bit more and relax, show him how you masturbate and then let him do the work.  :).

cheergurl18 · Answer

How do you do it, show him how you like it , masturbate and see what feels good to you, then you can show him , Just go with it :)

Joedog · Answer

Thing is, do you want him to do it? If you are just doing it to find out what it is like, you will not relax and it will hurt. If you have feelings for him, then tell him to be patient with you - you will relax and it will get better.