Why are men so picky and women aren't?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone ever noticed that men no matter how ugly, or heavy or poor what have you are super picky? But a lot of women go out with ugly guys. It seems like men date up whereas women date down. A pretty girl will settle much faster than the average guy. I mean even beyond looks girls will be with a person that is ugly on the inside faster than a guy will. Has anyone else noticed this? You more often see a guy like this: link having higher standards and demands than a woman like this link will. It just seems odd to me that women have such low standards. What are your thoughts?

[jpinka]

im glad you ask!. my bff feels that caus she look good her boyfriend or girlfriend HAS to look good. I dissagree and I think pple who think like that misses out on good pple.

i been datign my guy for 8 years and wer gettign married soon, hopefully lol when he 1st asked me out in high school I didn't think he was all that cute as I wouldve hoped but I was single and I took a chance and he is perfect! perfect guy! my other half. and I love him. he is a good looking guy no prob thr but I was expecting/maybe hoping for a drop dead gorgeous guy I but none of that matters when you have a good person who will do anything for u.

n I tell u! so many girls ask him out and wana date him caus he also a good friend to have and he says no, that's my woman over thr. smile ima call my baby right after I post this lol

but yea I agree with u

[Asker]

I love your answer I hope to someday have a love like yours :) Good luck to the both of you getting married it sounds so exciting you are such a lucky girl, you have no idea!

[jpinka]

thank you. I am! he's great. he is everything I've ever wanted and a guy and we have everything and common.

[Asker]

So jealoius! Argh lol

[want2helpout84]

Just wanted to start Drama didn't you? LOL, just be happy you're not with that guy you are thinking about! There's ALWAYS a better guy when you're out and dating

Good luck my friend! Good luck :-) or should I say best of luck!

[Asker]

Thanks I'm not really thinking of a certain guy in particular but I had just watched this fat ugly guy on t.v and he was just ripping on this woman who was slightly overweight but not nearly as heavy as he was and wrote this. haha

[Betwyn]

We crave the attention.. the touch... we'd rather have someone, then no one at all...

[Asker]

My friend dates an ugly loser and she has pretty much said the same thing. I would rather be alone forever than with a guy that's ugly and mean that's just bogus

[Betwyn]

That just makes you different from her..

[Betwyn]

but thanks for thumbs down :)

[Asker]

I didn't give you a thumbs down. I agree with it if you want I'll give you a thumbs up. You shouldn't assume its me :p

[Betwyn]

um.. sorry about that lol.. just the comment, and the timing.. I assumed... :/ ty for the thumbs up lol

[Asker]

Gave you a thumbs up :)

[Asker]

No worries I probably would have thought the same :)

[toulouse]

@That just makes you different from her.. Right. So say "I" not "We". I would rather be alone. You would rather be with a a**hole...or w/e species of human.

[Betwyn]

as a general rule, we females, would rather be in a relationship, then not in one.

[G_GTom]

Perhaps it's just me, but I'd rather be alone that with someone I didn't want to be with or with someone who didn't want to really be with me. In fact, I'd rather die alone than be with someone who I don't be with.

[Betwyn]

yer also a guy...

[Asker]

Listen, Betwyn isn't the only person that feels like this a lot of women in particular would rather be with a guy than alone so she isn't the only one.

[want2helpout84]

Wow that's pretty right on G_GTom. As long as you're happy with yourself it shouldn't matter. I mean, wow, here's a guy that is So confident, if he wakes up one day and is 50 to 70 and single and childless childfree, wife less or wife free, he'd have died alone or maybe married at that late in the game, but at least he had a happy life! DAMN! I am all for that! totally

[ASOIAF]

Is that why women are well known to pay for attention and touch of the opposite sex when they can't get it for free? Oh wait, they don't, men do.

[Betwyn]

@ASOIAF Some women do. Some don't need to.. and the others.. they get cats.

[ASOIAF]

Virtually no women do. Lots of men do. Your argument is shit.

[Betwyn]

ok. lol

[ASOIAF]

You're joking right?

Even obese women generally have several options. Most obese men are virgins unless they pay for it.

This is me - s1285.photobucket.com/.../bhvjhjhnhh?sort=3&page=1

I've messaged thousands of women on online dating and can't get a date with any of them. If I change my picture to that of a male model suddenly I'm inundated with messages saying they haven't been on for ages or missed my message... I wonder why lmfao.

Women hold all the cards in dating and can pick and choose whatever sort of guy they like from their many suitors - jonmillward.com/.../the-final-results.jpg

If a guy like the one in the question has a good looking girlfriend its because she is milking him for cash.

[Hemorage]

Ha well I don't know where you go and see all this happening because my life experience has it the exact opposite but I see what you're saying. They probably gave up on their perfect guy because though they are beautiful they could get discouraged easily and in a few years of high standards and no luck they will lower their standards and experiment with different people that were never open to them but are now. And as for the guy part of dating up they try merely as a hit and miss kinda thing where they most likely know it won't work but if you don't ever try you will never know.

[Asker]

Makes sense, it's just that I've personally never really seen an ugly woman with a good looking guy but I see the reverse quite a bit.

[kandyflip]

it's not a question of standards. it seems a certain way if you only look on the outside.

in my opinion, early on, girls tend to be superficial and date a cute or hot guy, and find out they're more so d***s that don't wanna settle and play the field or what have you, since they can get pretty much any girl they want. (date up in looks, down in values)

Later in life they figure they want more of a family and may date down in looks, but date up in values (loyalty, money, responsibility, family oriented)

i think it's a question of evolving your standards to pick out good guys... and also about probability.

you probably have a ego-centric personality if you're good looking.

[Asker]

Thats not true though ugly guys are often a lot worse than good looking guys. For instance my uncle is at least like 300 lbs and he nags my aunt for being 10 lbs overweight. It's just a total double standard and she is beautiful, him not so much. I can see an ugly but nice guy but these guys are ugly both inside AND out, which is why I really don't get it.

[want2helpout84]

In that case, your aunt is desperate... or she's staying for the kids...

[emmabee11]

I think women can be just a picky lol you might not be but other women are sadly... men and women try to act so different but we arent.

[Mr_is_fine]

I think you have it ass backwards. It is women who are the picky gender. Even attractive men can have a hard time. But attractive women? they have guys coming at them left and right, literally.

[kheserthorpe]

Women date down on looks, and up on everything else, when young.

[ASOIAF]

More like up on everything when young and down on looks but still up on everything else when they are old.

[Nokino]

Everyone have the right to be picky, both males and females. I just don't understand why one wouldn't be picky. People are being picky because they think by doing so benefits them, but lets face it... they often end my making bad choices.

And to determine the beauty of someone is really subjective, you might find him ugly but some other girls might find him attractive. Who knows? You can't just make a generalization like this.

[SandPlanet]

Women aren't picky? That was a good one.

[foolycooly1001]

Where the f*** are all these women who don't care what a guy looks like or how much money he makes? Seriously, why am I single if reality is like you say?

[Asker]

Maybe because you answer the same question twice... how the hell should I know why your single, it's not my problem.

[want2helpout84]

Lol! Aww keep looking for her! If you really want a wife or gf then go out more and introduce yourself :-) Network!!!

[ASOIAF]

@asker Its actually very relevant, since you are claiming women aren't picky at all, which would mean any man can get a girlfriend whenever he wants.

[foolycooly1001]

How many women go out with guys who are ugly and poor?

[Asker]

Lots of women do, I know girls that even pay for their guys who bitch and moan about putting up even their half. And the guys are fugly to boot

[foolycooly1001]

hard to believe

[Asker]

Go to the mall and look around just look at some couples, and then tell me that women don't lower their standards...really.

[want2helpout84]

Maybe they're pretty/handsome to them. Who made YOU the judge of what beauty was or attractive was?

[EngineeringStudent]

No gender is more picky/shallow than the other. There are some things men are more lenient about, and there are some things women are more lenient about. Suggestion otherwise would be a "grass-is-greener-on-the-other-side" complex.

[rjroy3]

Lol I'm sorry, but this post is funny. I've seen girls turn down good guys and her only reason was "look at his face" or "he's too short". Guys and girls just tend to compare potential partners on different things. Looks matter for both guys and girls, but in general looks don't matter (as much) for girls as they do guys. There's always exceptions to the rule tho

[rjroy3]

Anyways, if you know what you're worth then you have every right to choose what you want in your life. It's a silly idea that someone is considered shallow if they don't want to date someone that looks like an ogre. Even if they are a great person, if you can't get turned on by the one you're with it will never work.

[G_GTom]

My thoughts? Women are fairly shallow. They just like to believe they are not. And I like Louie Anderson.

[want2helpout84]

Lol! That was his name! I remember the toons back in the day lol!

[Steelcore1085]

You're kidding me, right? Women are called "the choosier gender" for a reason. I sense that in this society, women expect to have it all (looks, money, popularity, personality, etc...) in one guy, and get so angry when they don't find the guy who, in their eyes, is "perfect".

Hell, I've met plenty of girls who tell guys to f*** off because they don't have the right eye color! Women are DEFINITELY a lot pickier than men are, but don't wanna admit it, at all!

That's my two cents...

[simples3]

It's because most guys watch too much p*rn, and most p*rn actresses look hot 9/10's. So that image is constantly in their minds of a hot girl and that she should be easy, and they want that.

[ihatetakingcharge]

weird, when it comes to online dating, a guy's profile description matters a whole lot more than a girls

[Moose1964]

Define "picky". I am 55 years old and have dated a lot great looking gals and some, not so much. I am sure I have criticized by them. For me, her eyes, hair and smile, personality are huge. A "connection" is best but as I get older the pool gets smaller and smaller.

[Anonymous]

How many women will date a short guy though? Women are picky when it comes to height.

[Anonymous]

i thought it was the other way around

[Anonymous]

Honestly from what I notice around me, the prettiest girls get the first pick and they pick the best guys. You really aren't seeing beautiful women dating ugly guys unless he's loaded. And you certainly aren't seeing them dating poor guys with no money. They get the first pick and they usually snatch up all the fine guys and the ones with money. Guys will take whatever they can get, but will choose the sexiest option they have.

[Anonymous]

My thoughts are that you don't live in reality. It's a biased question. I'm not saying that men aren't picky, but saying that women aren't is a lie.

[Asker]

I'm not saying that all women aren't picky, I'm saying that if you look around in our mutual reality it's actually pretty obvious that women date down and men up.

[Opinion Owner]

Women are pretty hypergamous. That's obvious.