Is there any way to not give my boyfriend blue balls?

I'm a virgin so we don't have sex and I don't want to because we graduate in 9 months so I feel like I'd be just asking for heart break if we did. But the thing is whenever we make out (which involves me being completely topless and biting his neck)I give him blue balls. He says its worth it but I feel horrible. At the same time I don't want to start giving him hj or bj after only 2 months of dating and have him see me as easy. Plus all I've done before him is kiss a guy so this is all new to me and I don't know how to give hj and stuff. What do I do? Is there any way to avoid it our do I have to finish it off for him.
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  • He's got to learn to release himself soon after you make out. This happens sometimes with me and my partner too. I spend time to help her to cum, and then lose interest in myself. To avoid blue balls, she would just give me a little privacy (in the bedroom or bathoom), and I would work on myself.

    In our case, it's not about not wanting to go the full way. But issues of time, privacy. Also, sometimes, when one partner climaxes she/he loses interest in continuing. So it's not all that unusual.

  • You don't have to do anything you're not comfortable doing, but I don't see giving a handjob after 2 months as easy at all. So if that's the only thing holding you back, I'd say go for it.

    The only other way not to give him blue balls is not to make out at all.

    Now as to how, there are plenty of websites that can teach you. Easy to find.

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  • watch p*rnos, seriously just type in hjs and make notes

  • yeah have sex with him. you think you'll be broken hearted if you have sex before graduation? huh? I don't get the logic there.

    hes not going to think you're "easy" if you give him a hj or bj after 2 months. 2 months is more than long enough to wait.

    So you've never given a hj or bj before, well you're going to learn at some point so why not with him.

    girl logic is so confusing.

  • if you want to learn how to give a hj ask him to start & then you can see what to do

  • just give him a handy. after 2 months its not slutty esp when he's had you topless