Sadly yeah it does seem to be a semi common fetish. Especially among the S&M types. For some girls they like this stuff. Some guys see this as domination and get off on it, and some girls like it. Personally I think choking is a little too much. Too many things can go wrong. Plus sometimes it makes me question the motives of the person doing the choking.
But whatever. Look, if you don't like the idea, just tell him you're not interested and you never will be, and there is no room for discussion on this, and if he keeps bringing it up, start worrying. if he does it anyway, kick him in the balls, and kick him to the curb, and run for hills. Seriously this is not something you wanna screw around with.
Well, he hasn't brought it up since. Or tried to do it anyway. And he DID ask my permission instead of springing it on me without my consent. I really don't think he's going to push the subject, or do it without me telling him it's OK. But I'm still a little weirded out that he fantasizes about choking me.
Yeah, not cool. There is a difference between kinky sex and murderous.
I see. Yeah I would be worried too. Your choice. I initially said run, but if you wanna stay, I guess the first thing you should do is talk to him about this with genuine concern, and address it. Ask him why he wanted to try it. Maybe ask him about what's going on in his head. Better you find out, before you make any decisions. If you don't like what you hear, and it still troubles you, then maybe you should get back to thinking about dumping him.
Not cool. Look, it doesn't hurt to explore new sexual positions, kinks or use new toys - but choking can be *extremely* hazardous and is thus rare outside of all but the most gratuitous p*rn.
Even if you develop a safety measure that prevents him from getting too eager and encourage only light foreplay (I don't assume that he has no reflex control, but most people have different thresholds), you're still looking at potentially damaging your larynx or the nerve tissue around the upper trachea.
My boyfriend does it to me. It turns us on. Obviously he doesn't do it to the point where I have trouble breathing, just a light grip, and if it ever did get to be too much all I have to do is tell him to stop and he will. I wouldn't be into it if I didn't trust him, but I do and know that it's just something we find hot and can stop whenever I say to. I don't think you should be weirded out by him. Unless he's actually violent or aggressive, it's just something he finds erotic.
Whoa everyone is making this sound so awful and I'm not sure what exactly your boyfriend meant by choking you (you should ask); I assumed it to mean not literally grabbing your throat so hard that it leaves bruises and impedes your breathing but again just a light hold. I don't think the latter is too uncommon of a thing during sex. And he's at least respectful enough to ask if it would be okay before assuming it would be.
"literally grabbing your throat so hard that it leaves bruises and impedes your breathing" That's what I read it as. Scary.
I wouldn't want to be actually chocked. That is dangerous, but I wouldn't mind if he put his hands on my throat as long as I trusted him. Maybe a little pressure but not enough where its painful or I feel like its affecting my breathing.
I don't think choking is as uncommon as you think. It's a control and and loss of control kind of thing.
Dont be weirded out unless your boyfriend is abusive, this is just simply what a lot of guys like to do because it makes them feel "in control".
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Ew! That's not cool, and very dangerous; borderline abusive (abusive if he does it without your consent). Run, my dear, run.
By choking, I'm assuming it means literally cutting off your air supply, not lightly holding your throat. People get brain damage or die from that.
i wouldn't even want to date you if you don't like to be choked. choking is an important part of every quality hardcore sex session. it's a must.
Probably more common than you think..but I have no desire to try it...not planning on hanging myself and jacking off either...o.O
so you don't want to be like Kwai Chang Caine? lol
He just wants to be dominant.
it makes your orgasm crazy awesome & its thrilling. just be sure to not go too far and make sure he is not into really choking to where you can't breathe at all...its about blood flow not total loss of breathing. its fairly common. see if he wants you to choke him and how he feels about it being done to him.
I agree with the previous answers, you could easily cause serious damage by letting someone choke you.
Choking is a little freaky. But I hear it's common for guys to want to grab a girls throat, not choking though. It could be tricky, and personally I'd say no.
Whoah, no not common at all. Google erotic asphyxiation... that's the fancy word for choking during sex. Extremely risky. Too much pressure in the wrong area, and your trachea gets crushed. A little too long, and your either dead or brain dead. Not joking, Google it. So... run as far away from him as possible.
Wow, 3 thumb downs? Sorry for pointing out how easily she could die from it...
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