Voluntary female circumcision - yes or no?

[Anonymous]

Do you think I should do it? I probably wont, but here's how I stumbled across it. I'm talking about removing or retracting the clitoris hood (the skin over it) much like you move the skin back (or I guess off) the head of a penis. I have serious problems masturbating, as in nothing happens. I know where my clit is, I've tried rubbing in circular motions, lightly touching, heavy pressure, etc. Nothing happens. Sometimes a very faint tickling sensation - nothing worth talking about. I did some "woe is me" googling and came across the term clitoral phimosis and apparently some women have their clits hidden by the hood too much I guess. I'm not even sure I would qualify for this (in fact, I'm almost positive that I dont, because pulling the skin back over mine is not an issue - I can see the clit. its just broken. plus most of the pics I've seen of this in before/after pics are of women with large inner labia and mine are pretty small - I have an "innie") so this is hypothetical. just because its really frustrating to be horny 90% of the time and not be able to masturbate, like ever. I also get nothing from fingering. at all. my body hates me lol What are your opinions, on both my broken clit and this type of circumcision?

[MrOracle]

I don't believe this is going to be the solution for your particular problem, and IMO it's not something you should do unless it NEEDS to be done to fix a specific problem (i.e., not just for appearance). If it *was* going to fix your issue, then I'd be all for it, but I suspect it isn't.

In my experience, your problem *could* be physical, but it's more likely to be mental. What I mean by that is: sexuality comes naturally to most women, and they figure out how to masturbate because it feels good, and they enjoy fingering and oral because it feels good, etc. But for some girls, nothing seems to work, much as you describe. It's like the communication is "shut off".

What that seems to be is that the pathways in your brain that connect all the systems together that allow you to experience and enjoy sexuality never got formed. It's kind of like a stroke victim who loses the part of their brain where speech is, and they have to re-learn how to talk. Or, like someone learning a new language, or learning to play a musical instrument. It takes lots of work, practice, and repetition, but over time, the pathways form in the brain between all the right parts, and soon you can speak the language or play the instrument, and without having to consciously think about it every second.

IMO, it's still worth talking to your gyno about, and possibly being referred to a specialist, but I still advise you to keep at it, because a LOT of girls with this problem report that at some point, things start working for them. Many times it doesn't happen until they're in a relationship and have a DEEP connection with the person, and those emotions become the catalyst that helps get everything going. For others, over time, it just starts gradually getting better until they get to "normal" levels of sensation and pleasure.

Start with the gyno, and if that doesn't seem to go anywhere, try to get some counselling and see if there isn't a mental block in there that's preventing you from "turning on" that sensation. Whatever you do, DON'T GIVE UP until things are working right.

[sa230e]

If it's not broken, don't "fix" it. If you can retract the clitoral prepuce (the "hood"), there is absolutely no indication for surgery. If you don't get any feeling from your clitoris touching it directly, clearly the prepuce is not the problem.

Instead of spending your cash on useless surgery, I suggest investing in a good vibrator. Also suggest trying out other methods of masturbation to find out where the "right spot" is for you rather than worrying about your clitoris.

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[Anonymous]

your not doing it right, use a vibrator or water pressure. Some people need more than rubbing, that's never worked for me either

[novembergrey]

Well if you know it will help, then I'd say do it. Noone wants to live a life without pleasurable sex. However it sounds like it probably won't help your situation. If you're giving direct stimulation to your clit and can't feel it I don't see how removing the hood will help.

Have you tried using a vibrator? I've never met a woman who can't get off with a vibrator. Do you play with your nipples? Erogenous zones, like the nipples, can make a huge difference.

[Zerokoool]

This is a bit of a radical solution for your problem. I suggest you explore all of your other options first. Have you tried going for your G-spot orgasm? Though it isn't as common, some woman find it easier to come through penetration as opposed to the clitoris. Also have you tried having someone else attempt to bring you to orgasm. A boyfriend or trusted girl friend perhaps. It's not uncommon for people to be dissatisfied with masturbation and need a secondary presence to get it done.

Lastly, have you ever had an orgasm? If you've never successfully achieved orgasm, that is something you could bring up to your Gyn. No need to be embarrassed.

[kheserthorpe]

Clit hood removal if it helps, great.

Doesn't sound like its the issue for you.

Out of interest, have you tried hitting other zones? G-spot? Deep spot? Cul-de-sac?

[Red_Arrow]

You may or may not have conditions similar or identical to things you have read about. Since you are not a doctor, and have not seen hundreds or thousands of (whatever the plural of clitoris is), you are not qualified to judge the medical state of yours. Talk to a specialist (gynecologist) to get accurate information. Once you have a true medical diagnosis, plus any alternative solutions, then you can make an informed decision about what to do with (or to) your body.

[cavmanier]

I don't think you have a phimosis if you can expose your clit. If anything I would think removing the hood would cause callusing which makes you less sensitive.

[Dragan]

If the head of the clitoris does not see when you're excited. then it needs to be corrected. Visit to the gynecologist. Just because you do not have big labia, is no importance to orgasm.

[Anonymous]

i wount help you.

[Anonymous]

This is not clitoridectomy , but rather surgically enabling your "prepuce" to be retracted or shortening it so the "bean" can emerge. I've seen closeups in p0rn where the hood us far longer than the bean beneath and if your doctor thinks this could help, go ahead. The procedure is probably a quick office visit. Never heard of this being done, but it can probably do no harm, since women have a rather large bean that is always exposed.