GUYS and girls but mainly GUYS! What Makes A Girl A Slut/Hoe By YOUR Standards?

Question

Top five things that people say makes a girl a slut/hoe:1. Having a lot of sex. Well how much sex is a lot of sex to you? Why does this make a girl a Slut/Hoe?2. She has sex on the first date. What if she was really horny and the guy was really hot? What about this makes a girl slutty?3. She has sex with a guy whose in a relationship. Why does this make HER a slut, why not him? He's the cheater4. Openly sexual, talks about sex, isn't ashamed of saying when she's horny. Guys have told me that's slutty/hoe-ish. Why though?5. She wants just sex and not a relationship. Why is this slutty/hoe-ish. Guys do that all the time, why aren't they ALSO identified as sluts then?Now I've never been called a slut/hoe, I'm openly sexual, I don't hide my freakiness. To a lot of females and a lot of males, that qualifies as slutty/hoe-ish. Now, no one has ever put me in these categories or have thought of me as such, but then they say this is what qualifies as slutty/hoe-ish.So my question to you is:1. What by your standards makes a female a slut/hoe? (what behavior, appearance, actions)2. WHY does the answer to the question, make the girl a slut/hoe?

OpenClose · Accepted Answer

I would say 5 is the only one I would call legitimately slutty.

Nope, wait, never mind. I reread it.

I would say the only sluts would be the ones who value sexuality over the relationship by cheating.

But yeah, actually guys are bashed all the time if they just want sex. Heck, many guys who are interested in a relationship are bashed for even wanting sex at all. It's like some sort of taboo, dysfunctional, disrespectful activity to some people. "Ugh, you WANT sex? I didn't think you were THAT kind of guy. What kind of girl do you think I am?"

But let's touch on the important part: Why do we even call girls sluts in the first place?

(I could go on to talk about why I think guys are called studs, but I'll just do so if someone asks.)

To me, I think it really comes down to sexual availability. The whole Supply-Demand thing you learned in economics. When the demand is high and the supply is low, you get a bad economy, and tensions are high.

Just watch a few movies, or just get any amount of exposure to the media, and what's the repeated setup? That men are so horny they would easily sacrifice their morals and dignity just to get laid, and that women are so opposed to sex, they have to be manipulated into it, use it as a bargaining chip, method of controlling men, etc.

In fact, this is how the term "Hysteria" originated. If a woman craved sex the same way a man did, it was considered unexpected and classified as a mental disorder. The treatment was "ovular massages" which became wildly popular at the time.

So basically, we're all supposed to be having a lot more sex than we do. so the demand is high, but the supply is low, because we teach girls to have low libidos, and we act like guys are a**holes for having libidos.

So what happens? Generally, if a girl has a lot of sex, jealousy arises. When a girl uses "slut" they're usually jealous that the other girl is having more sex, or is having sex with a guy they like (owch.) and it makes them feel bad for holding standards. "I've dealt with the frustration of withholding myself, but these girls just give in and give up."

When guys use the word "slut", they're usually talking about someone who isn't sleeping with them. It's like "Here I am, wining and dining my girlfriend and she seems sometimes insulted at the idea of sex. Or her libido is so much lower than mine. Then all the other guys get laid all the time by a girl who actually wants it!" It's frustrating.

But underneath it all, there's the problem that the word "slut" actually makes the problem worse. If we suppress sexuality like we do towards women, or we condemn the desire for sex like we do towards men, everything just gets so messed up.

For much more information, here is a talk by primatologist Christopher Ryan, Ph.D. Author of "Sex at Dawn"

wpmason · Accepted Answer

This probably isn't the answer you're looking for, and I personally don't feel this way, but I've made this observation many times in my life.

Guys generally regard girls as sluts if they know their sleeping around just not with that particular guy. They're jealous that they're not getting a piece of the action.

Otherwise, for a girl to be too slutty for a relationship, that's a very personal thing rooted in the guy's particular standards and expectations. I generally don't care too much about a girls sexual history provided it's not something that I'm just not comfortable in my gut... and that's different for everyone. I can handle one night stands, many serious relationships, experimentation, bad decisions and all that stuff. If it seems like it's a psychological pathology or addiction, or trading sex for favors/money/stuff with random people, that's what I can't deal with so much.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Women have always been iconic for sexuality, which is why it's not surprising we've gotten the sexual stigma of being " sluts " in comparison to men who duck the label.

Why?

For one, men are the more sexually enthusiastic gender naturally - testosterone is the hormone that is greatly responsible for sexual libido / desire, and men are full of it - some more than others. Even though not every man is sexually crazed, this has been an accepted part of male " nature " for SEVERAL thousands of years in human history.

Women in turn, are put on a pedistool if you will, due to this very active part of men, in which acquiring a woman for mating seems to be a heightened priority.

Also, since women are the one's who must expend much more biological resource carrying a child and raising said child, causes this phenomenon of female purity - why? Simply because humans are a two - parent dominated species; women usually seek a male partner to help in raising the child. From that stand - point, it doesn't make sense logically, to increase your chances of pregnancy by sleeping around with random men, without the promise of a male partner to assist with rearing the child. Nature has programmed us this way for unknown reasons, as it's not accepted for a man to leave a woman and child, ( hence child support laws, which at least force the guy to help financially -)

On top of this, men have an inherent desire to " spread their seed," that is to ensure his genes are beings successfully passed on. A study showed that men have a harder time knowing if offspring is 100% there's - because it is the mother who carry the child, she automatically knows her genes are within the child she's carrying - not so much for the father. Babies of other men being born to wives of other men, happens, and a lot of men don't take kindly to the idea of raising another mans child. An interesting fact about the penis, is that it's actually designed to scoop out the sperm of another male - hmm makes sense.

What's this have to do with the slut idea?

Simple - a woman who is with multiple men brings forth the idea that her biological reliability for passing on a man's genes is unreliable and unpredictable, on top of the notion of the woman putting herself at risk for pregnancy without a solidified male companion.

It runs a bit deeper than just a societal notion -

But to me, a slut is simply a woman who is promiscous, often with poor legitimacy or a lack of sexual self - control.

Coffinspire · Accepted Answer

Anything does lol I wouldn't think so much into it, a girl can be a flirt and do nothing with a guy and be a slut/hoe. It really doesn't matter.

Belgie · Answer

Nothing - I don't use the term slut or hoe to describe a girl who likes sex. I don't believe in the double standard at all.

BCA6010 · Answer

When they can't shut the hell up about their exploits when nobody asked them, bounce around between multiple dates, and basically do everything you listed - that's slutty behavior, and it's unattractive to basically everyone except for the people who are looking for exactly that, who in turn tend to be that way themselves.

I don't know where this delusion of guys not being looked down upon for carrying themselves this way comes from, because they definitely are. The only difference by my observation is that the men that act this way tend to be buddies with each other and will openly brag about it.

Maybe married guys getting away with having flings is a northern thing, but that's basically social suicide where I'm from.

Pegases · Answer

Most women would be surprised to know that sluts almost always have the same characteristics. Sluts often come from troubled homes, and most often grew up without their father. Promiscuity is a biological response to not being loved by a male figure during childhood, so sex is ultimately the way women seek that male validation, because it's the easiest way for a woman to get it. Most often, sluts lie more, cheat more, and usually have no moral compass, which is ultimately why women that are sluts were originally shamed in society. Lastly, once you develope a habit of needing "new" excitement, or have had a lot of bad relationships, you become less capable of enjoying a longterm relationship. Ironically, this is true for both sexes, not even just women. That's the sad reality of hook up culture that no one talks about.

tzdc21 · Answer

Remember, it's incredibly easy for women to get sex, that's why you're shamed for sleeping around. However it's incredibly hard for a man to sleep with just ONE woman. That's why he's praised if he can sleep around with multiple.

Prof_Don · Answer

Your points of 1-5 don't register "hoe"/"slut" to me at all; a girl has needs, you know! :-D.

To me, a hoe/slut is a girl that either:

1) cheats on her monogamous boyfriend (intercourse, any type of intentional sexual stimulation of another guy, including phone, video, or textual chat)

2) has no problems with being "the other woman" and doing such with a man that's "taken".

3) is with a guy with the intention of getting money or gifts (in essence, a de-facto prostitute), and really isn't that "into him" personality-wise

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I'm quite lineant on sexuality of females; I hate that damn "lock and key" double-standard. I don't know why, but some people presume that I wouldn't be into a female that's sexually open and want a more submissive female (prolly cauz of this baby-face I have for being almost age 27 lol).

But to answer your ?...unless it's one of the above points, and she's being safe, she's not a hoe. She a female with needs. :)

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

By my standar a Girl is a HOE, when she say she love the guy and cheat on him or broke up whit him. Don't say love you if you don't expect to stay forever whit that person. You get bored and whant to try something new > NEXT LEVEL> OPEN RELATIONSHIP.
Other will be to ask for much monney then the guy is able to pay and need to pay.
If she don't give a fuck about the sex , like, we have sex and she maby be like "ok, now live, i have something else to do"

Moloch · Answer

#Guys will never be called sluts because for a man to have for with a woman, he needs to have his sh*t together and be able to spit game. Women don't have to do anything. It's like a rich guy who constantly flaunts his new flashy car. Yes he can do it, but it shows that he's egotistical and a jerk.

1. 5 men at my age (21) is too much. (for a relationship, not a hookup)

2. Not slut, just easy.

3. If she knew he was seeing someone, makes her a slut. The guy is just an a**hole.

4. It's deemed slutty because that type of behavior is viewed as unladylike.

5. See # up top.

dirtydee · Answer

slut is about the number of people. sex with over 5 dif guys in a month is getting to be kinda slutty. 10/month is ho fo sho. blowing 10/month is fairly slutty. wouldn't care if a girl blew 5/month.

girls can dress/look slutty - overly revealing & sometimes how her makeup is done can make a girl look a little slutty (or hot). I'm not one of the 'girls wearing makeup are sluts' people either...im talking about how it is done. I'm not gonna lie and say its not hot but it has its time & place...not everyday

guys can be sluts too it just doesn't affect us the way it does girls...

WhoKnoes · Answer

Well i call my buddies sluts (and they agree) but i have never called a girl a slut

nasty4fun · Answer

I personally don't use those words to describe but I hope you will stop. Everyone has done something that would make them a slut.

Ambition37 · Answer

She pisses you off some how lol.

gps181 · Answer

Sleeping with men she isn't married to.

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Anonymous · Answer

well. actually guys can do/be the same without being called gigolos. thus I don't think I will call those girls sluts unless they are prostitute girls. and its a profession.

Anonymous · Answer

none of the above. I think its a double standard for a girl who craves sex and sleeps around to be branded a slut.

But one of the exceptions is when she uses sex as a manipulative tool. I knew a girl who slept with her ex boyfriends enemy who she didn't even like just to make her ex jealous. I thought that was really slutty and I lost respect for her for that.

Anonymous · Answer

If she has sex with more than 4 guys in 2 days. If you ask her if she is bi-sexual and she says "no I am tri-sexual... I will try anything at least once". If she always thought the word brother meant sex buddy. If she has a baby while making scrambled eggs and says "honey can you please pick that up"? If while giving her head your ears get wet. If when you yell while giving her head and you hear an echo echo echo. If when she walks her vagina gets a wedgie with her grannie panties and you can barely see them before picking them out. If her dog likes her a bit too much. If when she kisses her daddy bye bye and she leaves a streak of lip gloss on his neck etc etc

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