I'm jealous that my boyfriend had sex with many girls ?

[AlessandraRossa]

My boyfriend had sex with a lot of girls and he tried many things.. And he was my first boyfriend and I still didn't do so many things.. Like he had sex in the sea, on a boat.. etc.. It's me who asked him to tell me about his experiences, but still hearing it hurts me somehow .. I think if I'm worst than this girls? if he still thinks about them..? and I'm really jealous It's really terrible., how can I get over it ?

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

By remembering that he's with you here and now. That these girls had nothing to do with you, and that if he didn't like you, if he was so disappointed, he probably wouldn't be with you. That if they were so great, he would still be with them. So he had sex. So what? Here's here with you. He's not still with them. That should tell you something. That should tell you alot. You have nothing to be jealous about. Has he given you any reason to doubt him? RATIONAL reasons? Any reason to assume the worst? If he has given you reason to worry, then leave. If not, then let the past be the past. It's just the past. But remember...

YOU WERE THE ONE STUPID ENOUGH TO ASK IN THE FIRST PLACE!

If for any second you think you might have a problem with someone having exes, if in any way you think you might take issue with your significant other not being a total virgin, if for any reason you thin you're going to be upset that such a person would have a past at all, DON'T ASK! If you are actually so petty about it and you can't get past something that is complete and utter history and nothing else, then fine, break up with him, because frankly he deserves better.

But seriously... get over it by getting over it. Get over it by realizing it's just the past. It's over. It's done. He didn't cheat on you. He didn't hide any of this. When you asked he told you what's what. So if you keep this up, your relationship is doomed. So grow up. Yes I know I sound like I'm being abusive, but I mean what I say. You're acting like a child. Grow the hell up. Think about what you did, and think about all advice that I and the rest of GirlsAskGuys gives you from here on out.

Good luck. You'll need it.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Let this be an example of not asking questions you might not want to hear the answer to. No guy is ever going to forget the sexual experiences he enjoyed, even if he's happy with you now. If you had lots of previous boyfriends, do you think you'd be able to completely delete them from your brain? I don't think so. You need to focus on good communication with him and ways to make him happy. If you sense he's trying to make you happy as well, then you just need to deal with the jealousy quietly, as bringing this up again will only make you sound insecure and jealous.

[CrystalMinds]

He's with YOU now, not with any of those girls. Some people can have sex with someone they don't have feelings for. Maybe your boyfriend can? He may still think about them, but so what? As long as your on his mind most of the time, let him think. I'm sure he's not remeniscing about them. They're just...present in his mind, not "wow, she was hot" kind of thinking.

It's normal that you're insecure and jealous. But to solve the jealous part: he's with YOU, not with any of them. It's the present that counts, not the past.

As for your insecurity: I'm sure guys (including your bf) don't really analyse the sex they're having with someone they love. Yes, first times may be tricky and goofy and funny and not as smooth as you wish, but hey, we don't live in romcoms or p*rnmovies where everything has to be perfect. Just try to calm down, not overthink things and just enjoy your relationship. Again, he's with YOU, not with them ;) He's with you for a reason.

[NoOneListens21]

Idk it's late so I'm going to try to keep this short and hopefully it will make sense. lol. It's just something you're going to have to get over or else it's going to ruin your relationship with him. IF you really had a problem with this then you should have asked before you got together with him. If you love him and you want to be with him then enjoy him or if you want to explore your options break up with him and get more experience with different guys. I will say this though, You do not need to f*** a million people to create something unforgettable and worth while.

[ilovemen]

wow I'm exactly like you!

[Maxen92]

Why would you want to care about his past having sex with other girls?

How can you be jealous of him having sex with a lot of other girls in the past?

Either you ignore his past and be with him, or you finish the relationship already because otherwise his past is going to bug for the rest of the time.

A real man wouldn't talk about his sexual experiences in the past as if he was bragging about it.

(I might be wrong, but that is how I interpretended your text.)

[AlessandraRossa]

it's me who asked him about his past sex life and he just said honestly ,but yes he seems to be proud of it . I know if was past but I feel like it's still alive in his memory and I'm afraid like he compares me with others and having sex with him I feel like taking part in competition :( but I hope I can get over it

[Maxen92]

You should tell him if he keeps being proud of his past that you'll leave him. I know that you want to be together with him, but there is a risk that he'll be doing it and the past will drag him back from what he started to do. Tell him exactly how you feel, and just hopefully he will realize your situation.

[kheserthorpe]

If these things are appealing, why did you not do them together?

[Rooven]

Look at it like this, those girls are gone and he chose you so you must be doing something right =)

otherwise one idea you could do is if you can figure out what his most fave/memorable experience was and then recreate it but in your own way.

so for example sex on a boat, you could rent a boat out for a day but get special underwear to wear for him etc.

hope this helps