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How to give a lapdance?

So I've never given a lapdance but I want to try it. I have no clue where to start. I don't dance much period and when I do its usually line dancing. I can move my hips but not well and I'm shy about it. I wanna know how to start one, how long I should take, what do I do, do I take any clothes off, what should I wear, and any other advice that I missed.
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What would be best to wear. or what would you like personally. I need some ideas
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  • take some advice from a woman who KNOWS. if you want to preform a GREAT sexual lapdance experiance have some music on in the backround whatever makes you feel sexy wear ur hair and makeup different than usual you can get sexy clothes from triangles or buy lingerie something he LOVES you in or something he's never seen you in b4. put him on a chair in the middle of the room have the room dark with candles lit come out slowly, sway ur hips nice & slow like side to side to model ur outfit & bod, walk over by him circle around him flirting a little with ur body language do some floor moves, (email me ill give details on that) take ur time getting on him, once you do don't grind right away that's cheap, go up to his sholders so he can smell ur purfume on ur neck and let ur hair come down to tickle his face, rub his chest slide down to the ground using his body like a slide come back up thru his legs add in ur own moves here and there, play with ur hair stroke the SIDE of your breast bringing ur finger to run ur belly, and then look up at his eyes and snap ur g string. once you move back to him,THEN a little bump and grind can take place. A lap dance is suppost to be sexual and exotic NOT cheap and half fast.its not about stroking yourself or spanking ur arce either. Make him CRAVE your body on him. anyway if you need more advice let me know. good luck and have fun!

  • youtube:)

    its not as hard as it looks

    you know how there's that song that'll play, whether it's salt shaker from the ying yang twins or bossy from kelis, that you just can't help but dance to?

    if you put a song like that on you'll start dancing instantly

    you can find pretty much any trick and tip on the internet

    remember, strippers do that for a living so don't give someone a lap dance and attempt

    to do something subconsciously you know you can't do with your leg that they do

    the dance could end badly haha

    good luck!

  • just circle around him at first..then take your hand and graze his body from his face down to his crotch. then turn around and sit on his lap. then kinda spread your legs and slide up and down his crotch until you feel him get hard. next I would turn around and straddle him..ya know like facing him. then I would rub my clit up and down his **** changing up the tempos. and don't be afraid to go in circles, figure 8s lol get creative!

    hope I helped!

Most Helpful Guys

  • Just have the guy sit on a chair that has no arms. You can start out by just sitting on him so that your butt in on his crotch. With some good music wiggle your butt back and forth and side to side to the music as if you were dancing as you grind your butt into his crotch. The effect is increased if you have a skirt/dress on and you push your skirt up on the back so that it's just your undies that are grinding against him. After a few minutes you can get up and straddle him and then do it facing him with your skirt hiked up the same and like you were dry humping him. If you're wanting to get him turned on with an erection I'm sure that'll do the trick. But don't be surprised if you get wet at the same time too. lol. You can do all this in jeans or shorts too but the effect won't be as dramatic in jeans.

  • Alright then. To start off with, go out to some clubs / parties or whatever, and just learn dancing normally. Lap dancing is a lot of the same movement as ordinary dancing, so as soon as you get those basics it will be a lot easier. Then, when you do a lap dance, do it to someone you know, or even a guy friend, and ask him how it was. The key is to move your hips a looot, and try to get as close with your ass / crotch / boobs as close to him as possible. I guess you can also go youtube some lap dances and you will get the idea. Hope it helped.

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  • also if you need ideas, YOUTUBE "dance like a stripper" or "How to give a lapdance" professional pole dancers can teach you some moves. xo

  • i love the answer the girl gave, hahah

    wow

  • Well I have had a few and speak with some experience so here it goes..

    I like a girl in a bikini or skirt, something sexy that can be removed easily. Maybe some stockings. Hot thong panties are nice.. I would start with a nice matching bra and pantie. High heels if you can balance well enough around him. A bench or couch, bed works good.

    Start just by dancing, moving slowly in front of him, rubbing on his legs a bit. Making sensual eye contact while you move in closer. Keep wiggling while you spin around and grab your ankles while your ass is in the air, briefly run your fingers between your legs slowly bringing back over your p**** then snap up spinning back to him. Step up straddling him run your fingers through his hair. At this point you can drop your shoulder straps, raiser your skirt etc. Your man will be eating out of your hands by this point.

  • Wear something really revealing, like a white booty shorts or thong, and braless white tanktop. You can always take if off too.

  • if you weigh more than 120 pounds why are you thinking you could crush or bruise the guys legs?lol hey take it from experience right now I have huge bruises on top of my thighs...lol ...

  • Use your ass or pelvis to grind on his hard on till he blows.

  • As you sit on him wiggle your butt as if you were dancing and grinding. When you're facing him you can wiggle your boobs in his face for extra teasing at the same time or alternating The idea of wearing a skirt and your undies grinding on his crotch as hard as you can will do wonders. Just wait and see. :-] If it's just the two of you, you can skip any clothes except your thongs and bra or just a t minus a bra. It all depends on what you wanna accomplish.

    • Are you joking? worse dance ever! and you're under 18, go put some clothes on!

    • Ha wow you are going to make him not want you with that on sorry but please don't give any lap dances and kike the chick said keep ur clothes on you can tell ur under 18 duh

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