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Ex girlfriend had an abortion today..should I send her flowers?

My ex girlfriend had an abortion today. I was the father. We were working things out between us then got into an argument couple of days before the abortion.She wouldn't speak to me. I text her today she said it was horrendous experience and excruciating pain. However she still doesn't want anything to do with me and says talking with me makes her mad and stressed, that's the last thing she needs after today. I told her I will respect her wishes and leave her alone. But I still care about her was wondering of sending her some flowers because I know the whole experience was bad for her. Should I send her flowers even though she said she doesn't want contact from me? I don't want to seem like a stalker If do send flowers what should I put on the message?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • While your mind is in the right place, don't give her something she loves in a moment of extreme agony. This pain isn't the same as a relationship fight that you can fix with flowers and a little make-up sex.

    In this situation, it won't cheer her up. It will ruin flowers for her forever.

    If you really want to show you care, I don't know. Send her a card or a letter telling her how you feel and then wait it out.

    • agreed. you could kill her love for flowers. if you MUST send her some, maybe send one flower and a lettter. I know I would love a letter a lot more. mention some of the good times in it.

  • Flowers would be nice.

    But the way she is acting, what would she do with those flowers? Trash them?

    I would save my money,breath and effort.

    You tried to reach out numerous times, only to get rejected.

    She knows how you feel about the whole situation.

    i say from this point on, take a few steps back and allow her to contact you when she is ready to (if ever).

  • No, don't send flowers. I know you care, but she isn't saying that stuff so you will cuddle with her-she means it.

    • wanted to show I care and cheer her up a bit because she does love flowers. But maybe I should just leave it and step back. Let her contact me when she's ready, she's going through a very tough time and pain. I want to be there its hard. Just want to hold her and tell her everything will be ok.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Send her flowers. Do it now. Say you are sorry and wish you were on friendlier terms or something. But she deserves something for everything she has gone through by now and flowers might just make her day that much better. You could even consider taking her out somewhere when she has recovered.

  • Do nothing. You have contacted her already, she doesn't want to hear from you.

    Flowers ? Why not a condolences card while we're at it ?

    • She's very upset at the moment..she loves flowers just thinking of cheering her up and showing I care for her

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  • Flowers sound like a bad idea

  • flowers for killing her unborn child? No thanks. Might as well send a child murderer some flowers as well. Both are equal in my book

    • She's sad at the moment and flowers I know she loves flowers..thought they would cheer her up a bit

    • she killed her child. She deserves to be sad. Let her soak in it

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