My boyfriend wants to see me touching myself!!?

[Anonymous]

So, we were talking yesterday and he says that sometimes he touches himself and that he doesn´t care if we just had sex, he says he still does it anyway. I told him I understand, because even though we have a very healthy, fun and incredibly satisfying sexual life, sometimes I want to do it by myself. It´s another kind of sex to me, not a big deal. The problem is that he started asking me how I get off and a lot of other details that I´m kind of embarrassed to tell. He also said he wants to see me doing it. I can touch myself with my fingers and it feels good, but I don´t really have orgasms that way (I do when he does it though) and the only way I can have an orgasm by myself is when I ride my pillow. I know it´s weird but there´s something about having the whole area stimulated that makes me orgasm very easily. However, I´m worried he doesn´t think it´s sexy and instead he freaks out. Guys, do you think it´s a turn off? I heard a lot of girls do it. Would you be freaked out and not want to see it?

[HandsomeRaj]

1. It's very normal and common for a man to want to see his woman playing with herself. Men usually consider this very erotic and a major turn on

2. Your riding a pillow or anything else I personally think is a HUGE turn on and VERY EROTIC

3. Your boyfriend playing with himself is not a thing that men generally do (there are things that are common with men and things that are common with women), this is something that women do generally though there's nothing wrong with him wanting to or enjoying touching himself.

4. Again nothing wrong in doing it by himself too. I do it too even when fully satisfied with my woman.

5. He probably wants / wanted you to:

5.1. feel and make you feel similar with you too touching and playing with yourself since he does the same so that you don't term him a freak

5.2. feel erotic seeing you touch and play with yourself

6. The problem here is his 'freaking out' when he sees you ride a pillow. THIS IS WRONG!

6.1. His wanting to direct how you plesure yourself singularly is merely displaying his will to direct your self pleasure for his viewing and stimulating pleasure

6.2. He wants to control you in your domain

Whichever way this is not done.

Bottomline I'm sure you will have guys saying that they'd LOVE it and want to see it.

[MrOracle]

A lot of girls hump pillows and things, especially younger girls. I suspect that most girls who do that end up transitioning to more common methods of fingers or toys, probably out of convenience, but I've had many girls talk about humping pillows or stuffed animals.

As for telling your boyfriend and letting him see, that's up to you, and if you aren't comfortable, you don't have to. But keep an open mind and realize that no matter what you do, he's going to find it really hot, and having you explain, in detail, what works for you is only going to help him find new ways of giving you pleasure. For example, you obviously like pressure on your pubic mound, and that's something he can incorporate into what he does, but that's not something that's going to be obvious to him without seeing it or hearing about it.

No matter what, he isn't going to be freaked out.

[heatherlu]

He's going to be turned on so long as you're enjoying yourself.

Plenty of couples watch each other masturbate. It's helps them know what gets the other going - but also it's just hot being able to just watch with your full attention instead of being mostly focused on either giving pleasure, or getting your own.

He won't be freaked out, maybe a bit surprised, but honestly that will probably make it hotter for him because it's probably not exactly what he's imagining. But so long as you're getting yourself off, he's going to be turned on.

[Anonymous]

guys think it's really hot but I would feel weird having anyone watch and so embarrassed I would really have to be extremely comfortable, have never reached that level with anyone

[Anonymous]

Why don't you tell him what you do and see if he's still interested?

[kheserthorpe]

hooooooot.

[Reginelli]

Dont worry he won't think its weird or anything. He will find it sexy. He will like it no matter what. So I don't think you would worry. If you want to show him just do what you normally do and he will like it. He might even do himself while he watches.

[MikeK]

I always make requests for the girl that I'm with to masturbate in front of me... it's great and I have no trouble returning the favor... I wish girls weren't so self-conscious about this!

[Anonymous]

Well...I'm now turned on after reading you question and everyones answers lol

[Anonymous]

I don't see why he'd be turned off. If anything I think it would really turn him on because he can imagine you riding him and not the pillow