Girls if a guy admitted he had fantasies to do these kinky things would you be open to it? Yes or no to each?

[Anonymous]

1. He wants to tie you down to the bed posts with legs spread and kiss you lightly everywhere on your body from your ankles to behind your ears. He moves up and down your body kissing every inch except your vagina. After about ten minutes of that he holds a shirt or towel over your mouth to muffle your screams and moans then he pushes his penis in you as hard and deep as he possibly can and thrusts at a fast pace pushing so hard that every thrust pushes your body with lots of force into the bed. He keeps you tied for a couple hours f***ing you until he cums, taking a few minute break and then repeating over again. He doesn't untie you until he's completely drained his balls in you. 2. After kissing you up and down your neck from behind he grabs your wrists tight and hand cuffs your hands behind your back. He pulls your arms up behind your back forcing your head down and rips your pants and panties down. He gives you a few hard smacks on your ass leaving marks and says how you're such a bad girl you deserve it. He then f***s you from behind hard and fast holding your head down by your hair and smacking your ass more during it. 3. He ties you up in one of those sex chairs that hang from the ceiling and has it so he can change the height of it. He leaves you tied up for half a day as his sex slave and he f***s you in your mouth, p****, and anally, as much as he pleases and you hang helpless. After each of these fantasy acts was over he would go back to being his normal gentle caring boyfriend self.

[Anonymous]

I've done some of these, my girlfriend loves being dominated.

1. Was pretty much as you've described, without the gag. If I need to muffle her, I use my hand. There's also some mild choking involved. Also, it's not hard and fast the entire time, I'm getting older, I can't keep that up forever.

2. Done this almost exactly. Threw her on the bed face down after cuffing her, and went to town. Held her head down by her hair (she loves it). Anal is where this one usually ends up.

3. Haven't done this, but it's a fantasy of mine. I'd incorporate a blindfold and make sure she couldn't move, although it wouldn't be for half a day. Unless... I do have a fantasy of bringing another guy into it. The thought of the pleasure she could potentially get from two guys at once simultaneously worshiping and dominating her while she hangs helpless is a bit of a turn on. Probably never act that one out though, It'd probably end up with me grinding dude's face into the ground. I'm pretty jealous. It's cool in fantasyland though.

[CatholicVirginia]

The first one sounds kind of violent. I was with it until he had to muffle my screams - wtf is that? I doubt there is something he can say to make me okay with that.

Second is disrespectful and plays with humiliation, as well as just cruel. So no, I'm not really into it. What I'm really not into is the underlying sense of violence and joy of that violence.

I don't like that he leaves me tied up all day in the third one. Even if that's my thing, it sounds uncomfortable and even painful.

No, these are all violent. Why would my boyfriend want to be so violent and dominating? It's like he wants to hurt me and/or rape me. Why?

[Asker]

I just get off on being dominant and it feels really good to my penis to pound a girl hard inside. I get my best orgasms from pushing hard and deep. Of course if I'm doing this and the girl said it hurt too much I would stop. Thanks for answering what you didn't like about it. All opinions are welcome : )

[CatholicVirginia]

I'm not against a hard pounding, nor against a little domination. The violence strongly concerns me. I'd need to KNOW he didn't get off on that, and the way you describe it, it implies to me that you do. No offense. Obviously if we were sleeping together, I'd know you better.

[Asker]

I think I do get off a little on the violence of it. I would only do it with a girl's approval though. If she were really hurting in a bad way it would be a total turn off. I like the thought that maybe a girl would trust me enough to push her to her limit of pain/pleasure and likes being dominated by me in bed. Outside of the bedroom I have little desire to dominate. I'm more of a pleaser type guy but for sex my animal side wants to come out.

[CatholicVirginia]

The whole, "I want to hurt you. Not more than you can take, though" [Christian Grey] is not okay with me. There's no love in that.

[Asker]

I kind of agree. It's not really about my love, it's about her trusting me enough to submit to me in the bedroom. Her wanting to please me enough to let me tie her down and act out my animal desires on her for a few hours and her not judging me for those desires. I need to get them out somehow. So much of the relationship for guys is keeping the woman happy so my ideal woman lets the tables turn in the bedroom. Outside the bedroom she can be my boss, chances are she knows better anyways lol.

[Asker]

So does what I'm saying make any sense to you or do I just sound sick to you? Be honest, I won't attack you no matter what you say.

[CatholicVirginia]

It makes sense, but that's not how I see a relationship. At least, that's not something I've encountered. I won't judge you or your lifestyle, but with my experiences thus far, your demands would be unacceptable for me.

[Asker]

Thanks, your answer is interesting. So what if a guy confessed he had these desires and asked if you were down to try any of it. You tell him no way and he accepts your answer politely. Deal breaker just knowing he has that inside him or would you be able to stay with him? Be honest!

[CatholicVirginia]

I'd be able to stay with him. I'd want to satisfy his sexual desires, but knowing he liked violence... I'd really have to explore that. It would be on my mind if anything happened.

[Asker]

It's more like a fantasy you would be willing to accept violence but me not really wanting to go to the point where pain becomes greater than pleasure. I can't think of any more words that can describe my desire and feelings on the subject... I wish I could. Thanks for answering : ) If you think of anything else you want to say feel free. If I can think of a better way to explain myself I'll try.

[CatholicVirginia]

But why would you want to hurt me? Why wouldn't you just want to give me pleasure? Why not just give me the best pleasure you can and no pain at all?

[Asker]

I don't know exactly, maybe it's like guys like to hurt other guys we like by surprising them and jumping on them or hitting them with a fist in horseplay (it hurts but it's friendly). When you say it like that it makes me sound really bad. You make a good point. I feel urges to be dominating and aggressive sometimes but maybe I need to figure out why and if I should even have that before acting on anything.

[CatholicVirginia]

There's no harm in figuring out why. Either it'll be a positive thing, in which case you can continue to be violent, or a negative thing, in which case it's good that you are aware of it. Go for it! And please share with me. I am incredibly interested.

[CatholicVirginia]

It'd be awesome if you messaged/friended me. Ya know, just sayin'.

[Username678]

That’s what she is saying. If your girl is muffled with a towel then how the hell is she going to say stop , you’re hurting me? There’s such thing as a safe word in this kind of play. Even for a dominant, yours is freakin selfish.

[duvexy]

Number one sounds good, but I did not like the part about putting a shirt or towel in my mouth. I also did not like being tied to the post most of the day. It would certainly stunt my ability to enjoy myself as well. I don't like haning up in the air and I don't like the tearing of my clothes. Clothes, can be pretty expensive these days. The part of f******g my mouth does not sound enticing either. I like to be involved, not forced.

[Asker]

Alright thanks lots for answering : ) Do you care if I ask you another question or a few short ones?

[duvexy]

No I do not mind. Go ahead.

[Asker]

Do you usually prefer slow love making type of sex or do you usually like it better when a guy is more aggressive and dominant?

[duvexy]

I like them both. No reason to just only like one of them . They both have their own special feel to it. I guess my favorite since I have to pick one would be the slow love making.

[Asker]

Nice! If you happen to be in the mood for more aggressive sex with a guy what types of stuff do you like? How far can a guy go before it's too far and turning you off? I'm asking because I'm curious what the difference between my idea of aggressive is compared to yours.

[duvexy]

My idea of aggressive that I like are standing positions, either front of back. Or holding positions where he is holdling me or he is behind me. I just don't like being taken out of the act of making love by being tied down, if you know what I mean. I like to express my part of making love as well. How can I do that tied down?

[Asker]

That makes sense. Thanks for answering again : )

[duvexy]

No problem.

[Anonymous]

1. I'd do it without the towel. I have a bad gag reflex. :( You could tape my mouth for an alternative?

2. That sounds too rough, I'd say probably not.

3. Possibly, but only because of (again) my gag reflex and also the fact that I've never done anal. But I am turned on by the idea of a guy (who I trust) just taking what he wants.

[Asker]

Thanks for answering.

[lproxsme]

I like all of it! In the first one would you tie the cloth or put it in her mouth? tied is okay but inside you could gag a bit on it... and second one sounds really hot I really like the sound of that... third is good too but if you go to hard in a girls mouth she might gag and when you gag things don't look pretty... otherwise very sexy.

[Asker]

I could tie her mouth or even just use my hand if her noises get too loud. I just imagine it being rough enough that neighbors could hear her unless I muffle her noises somehow.

[lproxsme]

okay very sexy then... I like it! Why can't I find really kinky guys in real life?

[Tharithi]

How much pain and where do u wanna inflict it

[tattersail]

Honestly, the first sounds wonderful. The second is hot to but tied up in one position in a chair for half a day might be a bit much, I rather be tied/handcuffed to the bed Or at least able to move a bit.

[Anonymous]

1 and 2 hot (;

3... Hmmm only with a guy I'd been with for a few years and trust COMPLETELY

[Asker]

Nice :D

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ha ha I didn't notice that 3 included anal Sorry everything but anal d:

[Anonymous]

One starts well, then goes down hill. Overall, no to all 3.

[Asker]

At what point did my first fantasy go bad? Just curious

[Opinion Owner]

The towel/shirt.

[Anonymous]

1-hot 2-maybe 3-no

[Asker]

So for you anal is a no no I take it? Would you enjoy number one as much as the guy you think? Could you come from it?

[Opinion Owner]

see I am a virgin..so at thispoint anal scares me.

[Asker]

Oh I see. It's cool you answered for me what sounds hot to you :D All girl opinions count virgin or experienced. Are you over 18 yet or no?

[Opinion Owner]

yeah, I'm in my early 20s I came close to losing it but I decided I wanted to wait for the right guy. I have done oral and all just not sex.

[Asker]

When you fantasize about sex is it usually the slow love making kind or a is it usually a dominating man manhandling you?

[Opinion Owner]

dominant and rough but I want us to have an emotional connection too

[Asker]

Me too. I'm trying to spice up my sex routine and thinking of totally unleashing my dominant side in the bedroom which I've never totally let go. What kinds of things do you fantasize about a guy doing to you during passionate rough sex? You can answer anything that comes to mind whether you think it's mild or wild so don't be embarrassed, I'm really curious ; )

[Anonymous]

wow I just got wet! that is hot as hell!

[Asker]

Nice! Now go rub your clit hard for me you bad girl! ; ) Which one of the 3 ideas sounded hottest?

[Opinion Owner]

1 by far!

[Asker]

Nice! Thanks for answering : ) I think one is actually my favorite too.

[Asker]

Don't lie! Did you just touch yourself!? lol